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I'm not really sure if this is where i need to even be posting this but I am so lost! I feel like I have completely lost the person I used to be. Did any sleevers go through this after losing weight?? No one in my family understands how I feel and I really don't even know where to start with counseling. At this point, I want to take it all back and just go back to the old me because losing weight has made me lose my mind!!! I don't like the attention and I have actually lost a great guy because I don't know how to deal with all of this....someone please tell me I'm not crazy lol!

thank you for all your supportive words and encouragement. I really do appreciate it. I am a year and a half out and about 6 months after surgery i became very bitter towards people. The difference in how i was treated was astonishing!! i couldn't believe how people reacted to me(and still do). I had a great guy that seen through the weight and loved me for me, but at that time, i had settled for what i could get and felt that i loved him too....post surgery(as soon as i was able to get over the shock of how different i was treated) i became more of a social butterfly and began to get a lot of attention. I have never had that kind of attention, and still to this day, i don't know what to do with it! i feel like a teenager that is going wild....that's not me. I have always been level headed, had great coping skills and was always the "shoulder to lean on" for others. I don't feel like that same person anymore. I broke up with my boyfriend of three years because i was no longer attracted to him, and he could not deal with the attention i was getting....the surgery/weight loss changed me plain and simple. my family cannot understand the emotional aspect of all of this for me. none of them has an addiction to food and none of them have faced obesity like I did. I cannot explain to them how hard it is for me to slowly watch myself turn my own world upside down. No surgeons office prepared me for all this....i don't care what they tell you about this "life changing" surgery. I was not prepared for this at all.

thank you : )

Hi All! so I'm just wondering if anyone else is having a hard time reaching their goal weight? I was 257 when i had surgery and am now down to 168. My goal is 130 and I am having a hell of a time getting there. I know part of the problem is that i have fallen back in to old habits and I am finally recognizing that. I feel like I'm the only one who can't seem to get it right!!

thank you Kathy : )

me and my surgeon never talked about it either, at my last check up he told me that i have lost 78 % of my weight(so I'm assuming the goal he had set for me is 150) however i set my own goal of 130 to 140....I am built like a brick **** house(big all over) and still have quite a bit of belly so i think another 40 pounds off of me would be great. but that is something you should really discuss with your doctor during your next check up!!

you're not alone. i actually haven't been on here a lot lately and was getting ready to post the same concern. i am 3 1/2 months out and am having slow progress, even gaining a couple pounds(i think maybe due to water retention) but i know i haven't been blame free as far as what i have been drinking! but you know, here's how i look at it....i would reather lose slowly and allow my body(skin mainly) time to adjust then to lose quickly and look all sickly! but for the last 2 weeks ive had a problem with little to no weight loss, and even some gain....hopefully this is just something that will pass. i went through this at 2 weeks post op too.....BUT I too need to get back to the basics and begin tracking my food again, and start drinking more water.

finally reached onderland yesterday....yay!!!!! i havent been below 200 in 10 years....it's a wonderful feeling for sure!

did anyone else stall after the first week? i'm 3 weeks out and haven't lost anything since the first week! i'm seriously getting frustrated! i'm not eating jack and am up and moving and nothing is coming off.....is this the whole "body goes into starvation mode" thing????

isnt that a wonderful feeling!? congrats!

lol! my boyfriend of two years layed his arm across me last night and said "i can totally feel your ribs, that's a first" and then we both sat there and felt my ribs for like 2 minutes......CRAZINESS i say lol!! it was so stupid, yet it was freakin fabulous all at the same time.... but, the best one yet that i have received is from my grandpa(who has never-im not exaggerating either-complimented me on anything) he was standing in the kitchen and looked at me and asked how i was feeling...so we went throught the usual and then he turned and looked at me again and said "i think grandpas gonna have to get the shot gun out before too long!" it was priceless, and the first compliment that the man has ever given me....i'll never forget the feeling!

i did the same thing on my pre op diet....but wheni would cheat, i actually made a "conscious" cheating choice. i ate VERY little of what i wanted, and i made sure that what i was going to eat was mainly good protein(of course mixed with a little goodness of real stuff too). i think i lost a total of 11 pounds before surgery and my surgeon said that my liver "looked fantastic" when he got to it. just try to be careful and really stear clear of the fatty stuff. you should be fine(but im no DR. so take what i said at your own risk )

i am now 6 weeks out and finally settling in to my new way of eating.....up until 2 weks ago i was pretty pissed at myself for doing this and i hated it!!!! but once i was able to move up to real food, it helped. i know 6 weeks seems likeso far, but you will be there before you know it i swear! it will get better i promise.

family and friends can be a real let down sometimes! my cousin(who is like my sister and i love to death) was extrememly supportive wheni told her i was getting the surgery. but while having a convo with her mom, she was telling me how depressed my cousin was. all my cousin kept saying was that she was going to "be the fat one in the family now". that hurt! all these years, i have been the heaviest set cousin, but to hear that it depresses her to that extreme that i'm going to be thin......COME ON!! BUT, everyone has their insecurities, and even the people who we think are our "rock" will sometimes crumble when things change. my cousin was always comfortable going out, shopping and rockin the "big girl curves" with me, and after thinking about it, i think she is scared to face that fact that she needs to change something or she truly will be the "fat one of the family"! (i really didn't mind having that title, until i wasn't the only one calling myself that lol!) give your friend a while to adjust to thought, and then if she still can't be supportive.....well then i'd say" don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya"!!! just know, you are not the only one who's friends/family just can't/won't or just don't know quite how to get behind you on this one!!

i hear ya on that one!! my dr actually called me in today because my NUT emailed him because she was concerned about me.....because im a HUGE negative Nelly right now.......they just dont understand how mentally frustrating this damn head game is!! hang in there tho, im 5 weeks out(not sure how far you are) and it seems to be getting a little easier for me. plus a little pep talk from my surgeon helped today.....i really do have to make sure i have something to do or i go crazy thinking about food and how much i miss it. even with 3 kids and a full time job, i still find that i miss that one thing that made me feel happy(for a moment obviously). we have to find joy in something new and find a new coping mechanism!!

He who smiles and laughs away the little trials of life today, will live to smile and laugh away a greater trial another day. Anonymous

i had surgery on the 23rd and still have to take the pain medication....just now able to get up and around to walk but only for a little at a time. my pain is mostly in the left side(the larger incisions where they removed the stomach). very tender and sore, and feels like it is"ripping" if i move wrong or do too much still. the surgeon told me that some people are super sensitive in this area and it takes them much longer to heal from the surgery.

i drink with a straw quite frequently i weigh myself daily i have had a soda i have my days where i don't think this is worth it i miss my mommas southern cooking i constantly think that i'm failing the hardest thing i have to confess is that with every pound i lose, i find myself judging my body even worse than before!

i hear ya on the no energy thing! im exhausted.....i'm horrible about weighing myself, i think i'm gonna have the boyfriend hide the scale for a week lol! i havent lost any since my first week home and i'm 3 weeks out so getting a little discouraged. not gonna lie, i'm not following EXACTLY what the doc said to do (such as i refuse to drink skim, and i will add some SF choc syrup to my milk as well) just little things....i cant hardly eat anything BUT on the plus side, i am feeling much better this week,and iwas able to enjoy the outside with my kids today : ) im a very impatient person i am totally ready to feel normal again too!

hey all, so i;m 2 weeks out and i am geting frustrated! i have been at 222 the last week, how is that possible?? i am not exercising because i am actually still extremely uncomfortable and today when I did actually try to go for a walk i came back with a severe pain in my left rib cage and it hasn't gone away since...everytime i get up to do anything, i have to grab my left ribcage and apply pressure so that it does not hurt!! i feel kind of like (damned if i do and damned if i dont!) so far the last 2 weeks feel like they have not been worth all the pain my body is going through. ive lost 22 pounds the first week(11 of it i know was pure fluid) and this last week i havewent from 222 to 225 back to 222.....i'm super freakin frustrated!!

I didn't know EAS carried strawbery! the only thing the little hicktown grocery store i shop at has is chocolate......will definitely be looking for that!

i purchased the pudding and i have to say it's really not that bad. the only draw back for me is that i have to eat over the entire day because the serving is so large...i can only eat about 1/3 of it in a sitting right now. and every single protein shot i have tried is absolutely DISGUSTING!! im not gettng more than 30-35 grams right now and when it comes right down to it, i can't take another protein shot or shake at this point in time!!

oh my! it's like you are in my head--1 week ago lol! i think i posted something very similar to this. it's amazing what your body will do in just one week. i am 2 weeks out and as of yesterday morning, i can drink quite a few small drinks before i start feeling that nagging feeling, i just sit back and let it pass and drink some more a few minutes later. i was able to move to soft foods today and i think i may have over done it just a little-i started thinking the same thoughts you are having now and your post reminded me where i was just 6 days ago! please believe that everyone is telling you the truth-things do get easier!! your body just needs that time to heal and adjust!

as of tomorrow im one week out and today is the first day i have really been able to get up and around for more than 10 minutes. whenever i drink things, i still get the bubbly feeling and tend to burp when i take in a lot of air when i swallow....i think that is something that should start to go away after a while.....i realy have to be aware of how big my drinks are. the smaller i take, the better they go down and then less bubbly,gassy feelings

how long were you guys sore from the incisions? i had my surgery on Monday and i still cannot stand up straight without having to hold my stomach...it's still amazingly painful. i see so many posts on here about how there's no pain or just a little and how people are back to normal in just a few days.....is that really the norm? im feeling a lot of regret for doing this right now!! i dont even want to get off the couch because it hurts so much!