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I am just starting the process of looking into the lap band surgery but I am not telling anybody. I will eventually tell my parents when I am sure my insurance will cover it. I haven't even told my girlfriend I even went to the Doctor to discuss it and I have no intention of telling her. After my wife left me after losing her weight from gastric bypass I was determined to lose my weight on my own but I failed and gained it all back and more. I think my parents would try to talk me out of it and I know my girlfriend would tell me I'm crazy to spend money on weight loss surgery. This is a personal decision and most people don't understand it. Thats why I'm on here for encouragement and support.

Hello I am a 38 year old man. I have always been overweight even as a kid. Some due to a slow metabolism but mostly because I like food way too much. I have never had any lasting success with dieting either. My ex wife had gastric bypass 2 years before she left me. We both couldn't afford the surgery and she was heavier than me and it always bothered her more than me so we agreed she would have the surgery and I would try to lose weight on my own. She lost 200 lbs and I didn't do very well. She of course changed since she had always been big and now she was getting lots of attention. She left me so she could live as she put it. So I am no stranger to bariatric surgery. When she had gastric bypass the doctor offered lap banding but said bypass was better with the exception that the lap band can be tightened if it needed to be. My last trip to a new Dr I had gained another 74 lbs since my last physical with my old Dr. I am now 434 lbs. I was ashamed and angry with myself and my Dr recomended I look into the surgery. She said Dr's are starting to move away from gastric bypass in favor of lap banding. I will be checking out my options because I am running out of time. I'll soon be 40 and I don't have any support. My family lives too far away and everybody else in my life has their own lives to live. I don't want to end up disabled because of my weight and I am headed that way. So far nothing major but as I age I feel it more and more. I apologize for the length of my post but I need to write it down. I have no support and I am on my own in this so I will be reaching out on this forum for help. I don't even know if I am going to be able to afford it yet but I am going to try and find a way.