missmachine

One thing... I was told I would be going to Mi Doctor Hospital, but ended up at INT Hospital. Still a very good & clean hospital, but I was confused when I arrived.

I was told I could walk but not to exercise for 6 weeks.

Same here. I had my surgery on 6/11 so this Monday will be a month for me. I too, was hoping I would have lost 30 lbs. by then. I am actually up 3 lbs. since my lowest weigh in. I know that when I can start exercise it will help, but barely eating as we are, (especially in comparison to what was) you would think that we would be dropping weight fast.

Oh no it's not your post, it's my own fault!

I'm also 3 weeks and I posted a similar question. I feel like I can eat much more than I should be able to. Everyone says 2-3 oz but for me it's more like 5 oz. Then I'm hungry again in an hour.

My left incision has opened up and is healing as an open hole. It looks really weird and gross. After 3+ weeks, I wouldn't think my incisions would still be healing. I don't think it's infected though. I'm really afraid to have it heal as an open hole and then it's going to be a permanent indentation in my stomach and look like a second belly button. :-(

Thanks for all the advice. I now feel like an a*****e for not following my post op to a T. I know now that just because I have no problem chewing up and tolerating foods, doesnt mean its ok to eat them. I have had no problems tolerating anything since my second week. I hope I did not do any damage to my sleeve and/or hinder my recovery because of this. I'm really sad and worried now. I'm going to stick to the foods I am allowed to have in the soft food stage.

That sounds more like me. So do you need more now? I am hoping I don't need more than that. I am afraid I won't lose all my weight.

I need help! I don't get full on the supposed 2-3 oz. I can eat a lot more than that! Then I am hungry again in an hour!

I didn't post anything sooner because I was hoping he'd come back, but after 6 years of being together, he left a few days after my surgery (almost 3 weeks ago). We were bickering a lot and he said he had enough. I am so depressed. He won't even talk to me. I miss him so much. Not only that, but he has been a father to my son who doesnt know his real father. He also left me with all the bills and the expensive apartment which I can't afford on my own. He was supposed to help me after surgery too. I've been trying to stay positive but I've barely been able to get out of bed. He won't answer my calls or Facebook messages. It's like we don't exist to him anymore. I don't know what to do. I feel like I've lost my love, my family is falling apart, and my world is crumbling down around me.

Depends on what kind of work you do. I do hair so I'm always on my feet and get very little breaks. I took two weeks off but was not ready to go back, so I took an extra week.

I take small bites and chew it up really good.

Especially those of us who went to MX and aren't getting much follow up.

Well I am in the soft food stage technically, but I have no problem eating anything because if you chew up anything good enough it becomes soft. Food doesn't hurt anymore while I'm eating it like it did the first week. It only hurts when I am full. I don't feel like I stay full for long though, and then I am hungry again. This worries me because I've had a hard time not eating again when the fullness goes away, which only takes like an hour. Today I munched on that buffalo chicken dip all day with celery. I also eat ice pops when I am wanting something. I just hope I'm not stretching my new belly. I have been losing about 3 lbs a week.

Wow, thank you everyone for the many replies filled with thoughts and advice. I knew I could count on the people here for support but I had no idea I would get this many responses. To answer the question many of you have asked - after 6 years, why aren't we married... Well, we have talked about it. I was married once before and I want to be sure I get it right the next time. We are/were in no rush. We wanted to get married when both of us were confident, ready and financially stable, not when society says we need to get married because we have been together long enough. Which, also, yes we have had a rocky history, but we always worked it out. He was only 23 when we got together. I was 24. He was in a band and still had a lot of growing up to do. I had just left my then husband of 4 years. Now he's 30 and I'm 31. We have seen some of our friends get married and divorced, some twice over, in the history of our relationship. Nonetheless, we are/were still a family. I know I have had low self esteem because of my weight and therefore have probably put up with a lot more **** than a hot girl would. But relationships are hard no matter what you look like. People are complex. Nothing is constant. Thank you all so much. Your kind words mean a lot. Surprisingly, we are talking now, and might be spending the 4th together. Maybe this will lead to reconciliation.

I very much appreciate your kind words Shun, I know they come from a good place. I mean no disrespect to anyone here, but please do not assume that everyone follows the same religious beliefs you do. Positive thoughts are positive thoughts so I take your words to heart and I appreciate your help and support. I just find it offensive when Christians assume that their religion is the right one/only one out there. Thank you, and again, I'm not trying to disrespect you or your religion.

My son is 12 years old and my parents have been helping me with him since the surgery. He was here for a little while but when I told them how depressed I was they offered to take him for a while. I might just end up going to their place myself. I need to be around people I think.

I have my parents and my cousin for support, but they live kinda far. It's like my whole life cannot go on without him here. I told my boss I needed more time off. I can barely get out of bed let alone run around a salon pretending to be happy. Any time I have been able to get ahold of him he tells me that he will come by so we can talk, and then he doesn't show up and doesn't answer my calls. He's done that about 5 or 6 times already. As far as me losing weight and making him regret this, he looks at the surgery as it takes no effort on my part so even if I was skinny I think he'd still just see the fat girl he was with. I don't know. My mind is a jumbled mess. I just want my love and my family back together.

I don't think it has anything to do with the surgery itself. He seemed to be pretty supportive about it. I know he wanted me to lose weight too. I am so heartbroken.

1st 25 lbs gone! BMI is under 40! Only 25 more lbs until "onederland!" 100 more lbs to go til major goal! Seems like so far away, I hope I can do it! I love watching these numbers drop!