I sat my husband down before surgery and we discussed this subject. At one point in our marriage he was very insecure about me going places without him. After 36 years of marriage, we had come to a place where we were good with doing things apart. I told him if surgery was going to chane things I wasn't going to do it, I told him I was never going back to the way it was before. So far so good. I hate that you are dealing with his insecurity.