I am so very sorry to hear you lost your partner! I always made my surgery known upfront! I don't want it to be an issue after I found someone and truthfully, if it is an issue, they don't really care about you, but I know it's very intimidating! Atlanta is an awful city to try to date in, men here are extremely vain! My boyfriend knew about my surgery upfront, knew my body wasn't as desirable as I wish it could be but, be said he thought I was cute then and now, so I knew it wasn't a problem! You can and will find another man, good luck!!!!