mizvicky

This boyfriend of yours had better have some other amazing qualities going for him because this whole "I can fix you" routine is nothing but controlling and insecure behavior on his part. How dare he or anyone else call you lazy !! You are doing something extremely brave that requires hard work and commitment that no "lazy" person could even comprehend. Do not let your boyfriend or anyone else keep you from taking care of yourself. Taking steps to take care of yourself will empower you to not depend on your boyfriend or anyone else to define your worth. I'm pretty sure that's what he is so insecure about. He's also afraid that as you begin to look and feel better you will also be looking good to other guys. Again with the insecurity. Just make sure you do what's best for you, because I can tell you, boyfriend aint gonna. Just telling it like I see it.

Hi Stephanie, glad to hear from you. I'm not banded yet either (surgery consult is 7/6/12). I am also new here and so far it has been a great source of information and support. I'm quite a bit older than you (56), but your story is a familiar one. People who have not struggled with obesity just don't get it and they never will. I just try to educate the people around me and then they are either on board or they're not. Bottom line you have to decide for yourself and some people might see that as selfish but I don't think it is. A happier healthier you is always a good thing. Best of luck to you. Let us know how you are doing.

Thanks everyone for the great tips !! I knew I could count on you for answers. Hugs and best wishes to all.

This question is for those of you who have had the surgery, and been a few weeks post-op. I could really use your experience and wisdom. If you could just name the 2 or 3 must have essential kitchen tools to make meal prep and storage easier and more convenient, that works best for you, what would they be ? I am having my surgery consult 7/6/12 and want to make sure I give myself every advantage to be prepared and make the most of my lap band. Thanks so much.

This is really helpful information. I've been a little bit squeamish about protein drinks, and these tips make me feel a lot better about it. I have my surgery consult on the 6th and am trying to prepare my kitchen for pre and post op. Thanks for the help.

You gotta change some habits girlfriend ! And one of the big ones is DO NOT beat yourself up. You have not failed. Just remember you're on baby steps right now. Just get back with your Dr's diet plan and you'll be very glad you did. Try not to expose yourself to any more triggers like a big turkey dinner. That would be hard for anyone to walk away from. You'll be fine, you can totally do this !! Keep us posted on your progress.

Hang in there. You will soon find comfort, and actual joy in losing the weight instead of eating the food. Like me, you need to find and focus on other ways to get the security and pleasure you once got from the food. And the good news is, you will find that the pleasure and joy will be real and lasting, rather than just the temporary relief you once gained from eating food. It's up to you and what you are wiiling to do for yourself. I wish you the best. Keep us posted.

Take an older gal's advice. Do this now while you still have your health. While you can still walk without pain, before you become diabetic, before you develop hypertension and an even more increased risk of stroke and heart attack. Do this before you ruin your heart, kidneys, joints, your digestive tract with years of overeating and weight loss and gain over and over and over until your heart is broken from repeated failure. Don't let anyone stop you from taking care of yourself, not even your husband. I believe he's probably like most men, not comfortable with changes and just needs as much support from you as you need from him. I only wish that I had started this journey years ago before I did so much damage to my body. Don't wait like I did, take charge now, you can do it !! Best of luck to you and your husband.

I plan to have fruit between my main meals of protein so that I don't end up flushing my protein through too quickly and just end up hungry again. I will not be giving up fruits and vegetables and will definitely find a way to get them in on a daily basis without messing up my protein intake. Has anyone else been able to have fresh fruits and veggies this way ?

Thank you for your honesty. I feel encouraged that I can do this !! I think for me changing those food overload episodes will be the hardest also. Yoiu sound a lot like me, and if you can do it so can I. Keep us posted on your progress.

Thanks so much for the encouraging words. Glad to hear you all are doing well. Prayers right back at you !!

Hi everyone. I went to my seminar on Saturday June 23rd and have my surgery consult on July 6th. I'm asking all the prayer warriors out there to keep me and all the other newbies in your prayers as we start this journey. I've actually been researching and considering this for a long time and now that I'm ready I'm very excited and also a little daunted by the whole process as each step brings me closer. Since my insurance doesn't cover the procedure and I am self pay, I don't have to jump through all the hoops the insurance companies seem to require, so hopefully once I pass the pre-op tests it won't take long to actually get a surgery date. This is a great site to get answers and supporty. Thanks all and God bless.

My insurance, which I work to pay for, doesn't cover any part of any bariatric surgery so I will be doing without any spending money or anything extra (and probably some necessities) for quite some time in order to self pay. Of course I will continue to work and continue to pay taxes so that I can pay my own way and yours too. So all of you out there who are able to enjoy better health on my dime, at least give me and every other working person a thought every now and then. This is not intended for people who are disabled or otherwise truly unable to work and pay their way.

I'm doing this because after 42 years of dieting, I've finally given up trying to do it on my own. I don't give up easily( obviously) but I cannot do it or I would have in 42 years. Oh, I can lose it ! But just like everyone who is on this journey I cannot keep it off. I am shooting for a September surgery date and I really have researched and studied the lap band and I feel like this could really finally be it for me. I am so ready to get started. Everyone here has been so supportive and informative , it's really been a huge help to me. I appreciate all of you sharing your stories.