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Hi. I am having RNY on the 17th, as well as Band removal, 4 hour surgery. My Dad passed over two days ago, he's having a memorial on the 23rd, 6 days post op. Will I be able to attend after only 6 days of recovery? What can I do to make it more comfortable? I have mobility issues, and use a Rollator, and can't stand for more than 2-3 minutes. This memorial means the world to me, will I be strong enough to go?

@aelovelady@Djmohr@Lynnette K@@Spiceyfrog , Thank you for the support, much needed. I'm 336, I barely fit under a car seat belt as it is, how do I bring a pillow to put between me and the seat belt when it's a close fit already? I can't be the only one with this question? Also, are the incisions very low, low, or near the middle of your stomach/abdomen area?

Hello, I am having Band to Bypass on June 17th. Highest weight, 373, lowest weight 336. I did the first half of my three month South Beach diet very well, lost 36 pounds. Now for the last month and a half, I've ended up weighing almost the same, staying on the diet for the most part, but not too well some of the time. I have a very strict, but extremely caring surgeon and nut. I have issues with food addiction, am in a lot of stress (one, my Dad is slowly dying in Hospice who I visit almost every day and listen to how miserable he is, making me miserable: Leukemia) and I'm in a long stint of psychotherapy. Today is the 4th, 13 days till surgery. My surgeon does not do the pre-op liquid diet, but I need to lose more pounds before surgery to be safe. I don't know that after all this effort that he'd halt the surgery, but I'm scared. Should I call his office and tell them the truth to ease my questions of whether he'll still do it or not? or... Go back on Phase 1, and try, try, try to lose weight and pray? or... Go in the way I am, rest, and risk it? I am handicapped from my weight and they were SO excited that I lost 36 pounds with very little movement. They noticed I stuck to my diet. Just that this second half has been excruciating. I'm so scared. but SO excited! I can do it!

Oh. Thank you!

Hey everybody! I forgot I posted here! I've been under SO much stress. My Father died yesterday. I'm having a bit of shock and pain going on, I wasn't ready for how he went. But he wanted to see me succeed at the surgery and the weight loss, so that I may live healthier, longer and happier. I don't want to disappoint him. I went to my WLS clinic today, as I knew, I lost only 2 pounds in a month. When I told them I was on Prednisone that whole month, they brushed it off and said, "No wonder! Don't worry about it". A massive relief to me! I have surgery on the 17th. The clinic uses the South Beach diet approach, and a week before surgery, they put you on Phase One, to shrink the liver. He doesn't believe in the liquid diet approach and says I'll be fine. Well, if HE says so! I'm scared of the surgery. Hey, I get scared going to the dentist. What I fear is not being able to get all of that liquid in in a day. Hubby calculated it would take 16 hours a day to drink at least 64 fl oz's in his measurements (of which I can't remember at the moment but have it written down) he requests. A SIP or chip of ice can be difficult post-op? Wow. I have a massive life change ahead of me, I'm human, I'm nervous. But his team are all so nice, but firm. I don't like the "not knowing" in life. Guess I'll have to get used to it! Thanks everybody for offering kind words and advice. It was a surprise, since I forgot I even posted!

It's three weeks till the big RNY. I thought I had it together, perhaps not? I don't have the pre-op liquid prep that most do. I'm doing my lung function test tomorrow which I'm scared of. I had pneumonia in late April, then again in early to mid May. The pneumonia is gone, but the cough still remains, for the most part. I have gurgling in my throat, possibly from all the post-nasal drip I keep swallowing. So I PRAY I pass! Im ending my second bottle of Prednisone. And I have been SO FREAKIN hungry! I have lost little since my second NUT visit and I fear pissing off my surgeon. I WANT to eat like there's no tomorrow. Could be side effect of Prednisone? But definitely a panic response. I was SO set and educated about the lifestyle change, And did it successfully, and will continue to do so. But I'm having these panic responses. I'm a revision from Band to RNY. What can I do to fight these very different urges to eat? Can I get away with a last supper here or there, or small cheats? I'm not going to be able, by necessity and CHOICE to eat some of the cravings I'm having for years. That, too, sets me into panic mode. It's really a tough time for me. A true test of my commitment. I am 48, and am being screened for uterine cancer, tomorrow too. I'm WAY stressed out about that. My Dad, 83, has been in and out of nursing homes and the hospital from complications from Leukemia. A lot more stress to that story. I'm completely broke. But the prize at the end of the tunnel is the RNY on 6/17. IF I pass all the "tests". I will die if it gets postponed. I've been prepping for this moment for years, and now that it's three weeks away, all the stress and panic is brewing in me full force. I am in shock. I am ready. I am obviously not aware of the test of self, post surgery. My therapist told me psychologically, the shits gonna hit the fan when I can't turn to eating, and food to cope. But then, we've been working on that all along. I don't know: Were YOU scared? Did you cheat? Do you pull your crap together eventually? I love you for reading this by the way, thank you! Vent-ology.....

I will be re-reading this thread, believe me. I have great news! My Uterine biopsy came back negative! No cancer!!! And I passed the pulmonary function test, however, my lungs are still gurgling, so Dr put me back on Prednisone and a few other meds. I go back in two weeks to see if I've cleared up. THANK YOU both for your loving care. I needed a way to ground myself, bad. I've been doing mini meditating, a lot of prayer and even more hard work. I WILL get through this, with a little tenacity, hard work, education, patience (the hard part) and bariatricpal. I also need to mention I have the support of work, and my incredibly awesome husband. Oh, my equally as awesome therapist. Oh, and I also attend, though not recently, Eating Disorders Anonymous (EDA). PVTA

Djmohr, Bless you for putting the positive before the negative, pressing me to see the good in this cloud. As part of my faith, we meditate, visualize, chant, pray, all for the centering and mindfulness of self in the here and now. It is also something we do in therapy. You reminded me to go back to my roots and focus. Thank you. I think I'll still be having those uncomfortable cravings to eat because, while I PASSED the lung function test, the doc was not pleased with what he heard in my lungs, garbage. He put me on another month of Prednisone. And an antibiotic as well as some prescription nose spray. I still have that darn lung infection , from the pneumonia. Damn! I realized I have a whole month till surgery, to get better. I see my pulminologist in two weeks, to see if I sound better. Then the next day I see my PCP. Then it's off to the races! But still, I am concerned about cheating. I've decided I could be a little less rigid, but not off the wagon. I have to learn to forgive myself while completely turning around my life. I am not panicking today. One day at a time! ????. I drink A LOTTTT! And yes, it helps. Not the same but it helps. I can do this! But I'm certain I'll be back on bariatricpal , nervous and afraid, again. It's natural. Thank you so much for re-alligning me. I needed that. And you weren't mean, some people can be so mean. Blessed Be

Jesse, you're too funny! "headlights"..... LOL

Thanks Ladies... I'm just extremely concerned about my breasts getting worse than the already are, but when you say, "tube socks", I know I'm doomed. In a perfect world, I could have breast augmentation, etc. but my world is not perfect. The only hope I'd have for that surgery would be if I have infectious raw spots under the skin flaps that make augmentation medically necessary. Looks like I'll have fun shopping for well fitting bra's. Only, when I get home from work, that sucker comes off asap! I always say, "Let the Krakons loose!" lol. Then they're all up in my business. Oh well. Life could be worse. :-)

But are your breast's sagging?

@sparksrn I don't know how to friend you. Can you tell me how?

What is pb2 and how do you use it?

@@offwithherhead, First of all, you have the best name on this site, so cute! Even though I doubt 'cute' was what you were after. None the less, I love it. And, I really enjoyed reading your above post's, you're brutally honest about everything, very cool. So they use strong language in Isreal? I must move there! I use strong words because that's just my way. I'm close to your weight, 339, but I'm at 5'4". I was never overweight until I uncovered some deep things in therapy, then I just started to balloon. I eat to cope and I guess because food tastes good! I have my date for RNY on 6/17/15. I am very healthy, like you but my body is falling apart. Like you, I have knee issues. I had both of my knees replaced about 3 years ago. I didn't follow the exercises post-op because the rest of my body hurt. And to be honest as to why I didn't exercise, I hate exercising. I now have the meniscus tearing in both knees. My leg muscles basically atrophied. I can barely walk, I do but with a rolling walker called a Rollator and even then, I can't walk far because my thighs and knees hurt so bad. I take pain pills for it. My Dr. said not to do any exercise until I lose about 40-50 pounds. She said I might be able to learn again how to walk on my own! God I hope so. My life sucks right now because of all this. This is what I did to myself. Some of my weight was put on on purpose, to harm myself as I learned more about the trauma's in my earlier years. I think you have a very healthy understanding of yourself, the surgery and the sacrifice needed to make this tool work. I have been doing the medical exams requested by my surgeon in order to be a good candidate for the RNY. In this time, I loosely follow(ed) the South Beach Diet (and I don't call it a 'diet' anymore, it just 'is') and lost a good amount of weight. I also learned why eating healthy is necessary, to avoid harming your heart, blood vessels, etc. I had no idea just how harmful obesity and poor eating habits are, till now. Well anyway, WELCOME to bariatricpal! Awesome folks here, and you can ask ANY questions you need and people will give their answers, opinions, etc. Such sweet people here. There are some not so nice people here, but very few. Good luck in your journey towards living healthily. Do lots of homework! Buy Alex's book on your chosen surgery, they're a wealth of information!

Come on ladies, some of you must be brave enough to divulge.

Yay! Good for you. You're lucky to be on the 8th, mine isn't till the 17th. I wish you all the luck in the world!

IDK. That's just what he does, and he's a very strict surgeon. He founded the clinic as a Center of Excellence in a local hospital. So, I trust him. I don't have things like high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholesterol, etc. Although I do have asthma. I'm not sure if any of those things make a difference in the 1 day diet. Like you all say, it will prepare you with post-op eating behaviors, being on the two week liquid diet. Great! You will do very well.

I have a one day pre-op diet when I have my surgery in June. My beginning BMI was in the low 60's, during the testing phase, I lost (still losing) 37 pounds, and my BMI went down to the high 50's. I wonder if losing weight /lowering my BMI may have played a roll in the one day diet. I learned a lot during the "testing" time period though. I don't know if this helps anybody.

I'm taking all of your advice now, but I have a question for you for when I go back to my desk job. I'll have the shakes down pat, and unjury Soup. But I am trying to figure out what size jars to put food or liquids in that are heavy duty as I have them in the back of my car, on top of my Rollator, down an elevator, through the halls, into my office and other places in the beginning (buying one at a time, not much cash) to take to work. I'm checking out www.thejarstore.com as I can't afford tupperware. I like the idea of glass jars because we do our dishes in the dishwasher and plastics/rubber seem to lose their seal over time as well as I like the tight fitting lids on jars. What size (I like the square ones) should I think of? I already have a Protein shaker.

Wow, June 1st, you're so lucky! Good luck to you everybody on their surgery! In all the excitement, I'm having to ask questions over. Hm. Oh well! lol.

I know we'll all do great. As long as we follow the rules and question, question, question we should be fine. My surgeon has only put me on the liquid diet the day before surgery. Maybe, just maybe cuz I've lost 37 lbs since I first went in to tell them I want the revision. IDK.

80% less protein???

Sorry. That's....http://www.theworldaccordingtoeggface.com. She has a huge list of Protein shakes/drinks!

http://www.accordingtoeggface.com

Try GNC?