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I'm hoping the newbies, or even those who don't remember (like me on some issues) will check out his site because he really spells things out so clearly. And I see so much misinformation floating around here on LBT. It could help so many...

Gabriela, I'm sorry honey, but you really need to see a nutritionist and learn how and what to eat after being banded. It's extremely important that you know these things! It sounds like your Doctor is not helping you at all. Are you communicating with him well? It's very comforting to know that you are at least communicating with us on LapBandTalk.

I'm learning from being in Al-Anon, to take things One Day At A Time, except I find I have to take things one hour at a time, or one minute at a time. Emphasis on the "learning" part. You said a lot in your admiting that you use food as a coping mechanism to cope with the "not coping" with issues in your life. We all have things we have to cope with, it's just that some of us choose maladaptive ways to do that coping and we find ourselves not coping at all and stuck in a bad place. In my case, addicted to food. I treat my "coping with food" by talking to my therapist. I have to learn of effectual ways to cope. Healthy ways. And it isn't easy! I'll admit this: I gained weight so that I wouldn't be attractive to men because I was raped in the past. It was my coat of armor. And I used it to keep people from getting close to me and hurt me. But that coping mechanism was for an old affliction, it is no longer necessary or justifiable. I am a woman, I have the right to be attractive! I have the right to get close to people! I need new coping skills. It sounds like you are doing very well! I like your idea of keeping busy. I have head hunger that I need to deal with in the evening. Mostly, I log on to LBT and read, read, read. But I'm thinking of getting lessons on crocheting. You bring up a very good point...to balance the heavier things in my life. You made me realize that right now, I am taking life way too seriously. Taking myself too seriously. When in all actuality, I'm a goof at heart! I think it's time to release my inner goof! Thank you, New Dawn, for pointing that out! Thank you...

Yeah, it is an interesting thread to say the least! When things get overwhelming for you and you want to eat to alleviate that, come on to this site and spill the Beans, it helps SO much! There are so many caring people here willing to offer a hand. I don't have kids either, but I get plenty of distraction from my young dog and three cats! Do you have any pets? I don't know where I'd be without the undying, pure love of my dog. In that, I am blessed. I hope you can find some peace in your life when things get overwhelming, and not turn to food for that "peace."

"....the child of an alcoholic, recently divorced, in therapy and banded...." Holy Motherload of burdens to bear! Reading into your first sentence made me say "Whoa!" I also get comfort and soothing from eating to fill the Hole(s). But like any addiction, it only soothes and comforts for so long, then the consequences sneak up and attack you, making it worse. Yet you still played by the rules and lost a wonderful 22lbs! You are living proof that taking control of your own life, works! You should be very proud of yourself! Keep up the good work! I'll try your coping mechanism of drinking water (I already do, but not in the car) or chewing gum. I've read that some bandsters have accidently swallowed their gum. Can't remember how that affects a bandster though. But a good Peppermint (strong flavor that I don't particularily like) gum would do it for me, I think. IDK, I'll give it a try, thanks! And keeping busy must help. I was thinking of learning how to knit or crochet. I get my head hungers at night, when I'm alone, so crocheting would be a great diversion. Like you said, keep busy! I wish you all the success in the world to build a better self esteem and success with your new banded life!

I'm sorry this thread brought you to tears, but since it did, I hope you were able to make good use of those tears. Sometimes a good dose of tears makes one feel better. Thank you for being so honest as to admit your family is a "Jerry Springer Show", it takes a strong person to come out in public and admit that. I don't know your story but I feel you. You said some beautiful things to me that made me do some thinking, I like to think (as long as it's productive!) and I can safely assume that your strength comes from experience. And no, none of us are perfect, but we're ALL very special, including yourself! I think I am learning to understand that while I am a product of my past, I don't have to live in my past. I guess I mean that I'm trying to live in today, not be the victim I was in my past. I'm struggling to jump out of the "victim" role in life, and I think I'm starting to understand that I have a more important role in my life, a normal human being. Wow, me, normal? Hm... I am truthfully filling out my food journal. And I am going to get flack from my nutritionist, but I'm an honest person and am ready to turn that destructive eating around. I get why I do it now, it's the how not to do it that I'm working on in therapy. It's not fun! Rhonda...my best friend's name was Rhonda, such a beautiful name! And you wrote that I will "Blossom", my late Mom called me Blossom. Your post struck many cords in me, bless you... It's people like you that I like to "surround" myself in/on this forum and in life. Thanks for being there...

Hello again! On my profile, there is an olive green rectangle that reads "Excellent 105"....what does that mean?

Awww, thanks <3carolinagirl<3!

Ohh, that's interesting to know! Thanks elcee

Thank you for posting these tidbits! I always wanted to try quinioa, now I have no excuse not to!

I'll jump up and down for you...so will my thighs, butt, hips and ta ta's! Hooray to you! It must feel SOOO good.

First of all, I'm glad you came to this board for information, good for you for asking for advice. Unfortunately, I don't think this is the kind of advice you wanted. I agree with the above poster's. But something stood out in your second post. It says, "...my problem is that I have bad eating habits. I wolf my food and look for the full feeling....but I still wolf my food down and get up to get up for seconds." Well, yes, you do have a problem. If you had the band put in, you would NOT be able to wolf down your food anymore. Period. There are consequences to your actions. And the consequences are high if you are banded. Familiarize yourself with what the complications are if you get banded. If you were to continue to wolf down your foods, and go for seconds, the results would be very dangerous. So, you want to go from 175 to 150, and you're 5'7". And you're having LapBand surgery to lose 25 pounds? And you admitted that this was all in vanity. My input, that you requested, would be to stop gorging yourself on food. Stop going for second's. HippyChick said it well, "Eat as if you were banded." Don't drink before your meal, or an hour after, otherwise, the food you ate would go straight down to the bottom of your stomach and you would never feel full. In an unbanded stomach, the food has to work from the bottom of the stomach and go up to the top of your stomach to feel full. That's alot of food! Drinking with and after meals flushes food through to the small intestines. You don't get that full feeling, the very thing that you said you were looking for. You're healthy already, no health concerns, you have children, you have the support of a husband. You don't need a life and bodychanging surgery to lose 25 pounds. You want it. You'll do what you feel is best for you, I just hope you know what you are getting into. A lifestyle change is in order, not a body altering change. I wish you the best of luck in your choice.

Conratulations! It is an awesome feeling to be where you are! P.S. I haven't had my pants fall off me in years! That's especially cool! Keep up the great work....

My transfer addiction...

3/4's of a Peanut Butter and (husbands own) homemade SF wild blackberry jam sandwich.

I'd like to get below 300. And I'd like my husband to notice!

My Seabee Daddy likes the same thing, "puts hair on your chest!" I am forever in search of new coffee experiences...that includes decaf (I don't need caffeine to enjoy my coffee, different creamers, flavored coffee's, different brewing methods, iced coffee, all those "confections" that places like Starbucks (which I don't go to, can't afford) has, grinding my coffee as needed, drinking it black, etc. I just love coffee, as an experience not just a cup of joe to get me through the day. Jack, I loved your description of what coffee meant to you! Never heard of Whiskey in coffee though.

Great pic of your son! Bass, Lead or rythym? BTW, HOW do you post pictures???

I don't know what gauged food is?

brlgirl and honk said it all for me. :ph34r:

*hot, not how coffee.

I drink my coffee every day! dietician told me to use FF 1/2 &1/2 for creamer. I use Equal. Sometimes I like it black. I drink both decaf and regular, but mostly decaf. Every night I make coffee and pop the decantur in the fridge till the next day, when I make ICED coffee! Dietician also told me if I'm missing my mochas THAT much, to: make how coffee, add cocoa in it while it's still hot and add your creamer. It's not awesome but serves the purpose well! I sweeten mine. BTW, I suffer from OCD. Obsessive Coffee Disorder!

Sounds like something I wouldn't play around with. Call your surgeon or WLC asap.

I just bought her book from the link on the bottom of this page for 17.??...would it have been cheaper if I bought it straight from her?

Yup!