LouiseC

I put hot sauce in my Soups post op with no issues. I have found since the surgery I sometimes crave chilli. It is weird.

I have just got back from a two week vacation in Australia. I just went with the flow and decided to enjoy myself and not spend time worrying about weight. I didn't eat more than normal, though the food was different and included more carbs than I usually consume. I drank alcohol every day which is not the norm. Despite this, I lost a kilo over the two weeks. I am back on MFP and back in my usual routine and I think the break from my routine was a good thing.

Wonderful! You looked beautiful and happy.

In the first couple of weeks I think avoiding hot or cold food is key. No one likes lukewarm food but your sleeve will thank you for it.

The first two months after the op I felt like eating and drinking was a full time job. It was almost overwhelming. I would go for more Protein if you can, I took the recommendation as being a minimum and it was almost 3 months before I could regularly manage more than 800 calories a day. The key with drinking is small sips, often. Don't over do it or it will be uncomfortable and you may vomit. While healing, vomiting isn't good due to the stress you can put on the staple line and stitches. I pulled an internal stitch while vomiting and it was very painful.

This is perhaps the best compliment he could give you. It shows he loves you for you. How wonderful. When I first raised my desire for the surgery with my husband he said he had to know just one thing before he gave me his blessing to proceed.. That was, do I love myself? He said if I didn't then the surgery wouldn't change that, he said if I was doing this to love myself then I was doing it for the wrong reasons. I thought about this and realised that yes, i do love myself. I told him this and he he was behind me 100%. He is not a romantic or overly demonstrative guy but this remains for me one of the most loving things he has ever said or done. It showed me just how much he does love me, enough to make sure that I love me too.

Marriage, to me, is all about partnership. This sometimes means having to bend my head around to get a view of the world from my husbands side. It is often illuminating. Now I don't know you or your husband, but my gut reaction is that this is less about him not supporting you and more about his own insecurities. This surgery will change you. There is no doubt about that. When you change it forces those around you to change because when you change your relationships alter. I would guess that on some level he knows this and it is tripping a switch into his fear of the unknown. So what to do? Talk, talk and talk some more. Sure men often hate that talking so don't go for the sit in a room until we have talked this out approach. Instead talk lightly, frequently, and in short bursts. Talk about your own fears, your hopes, your excitement. Talk about how you know your going to change but how you are still going to be 'you', still going to be 'his girl' or whatever has worked to connect the two of before. Short but frequent positive conversations that include him rather than exclude him, and that offer him some semblance of control over the future, may well be the way forward. I joke with my husband now about how other men must think he is hung like a horse and women think he must be fantastic in bed. When asked why I explain that because I am so hot now people must wonder why we are together and given that he isn't a millionaire...... Of course he knows I am joking and joins in on joking about the being the old bald guy with the young hot wife. Difference is, he is very secure and was incredibly supportive of the surgery but this doesn't mean that you and your husband can't find a new normal for you both in all of this. Marriage is a precious thing and love is too special to give up without giving it your all, so best of luck to you both.

Breakfast is the hardest meal for me and I tend to still go for a Protein smoothie rather than eat solid food. lunch is the easiest meal for me and I think it is because I eat at my desk while working so I tend to take a long time between bites as therefore eat more before getting full.

When my clothes are dirty I take the easy way out and use the technology in my laundry to clean them. I don't drag them to the river to beat them against the rocks. When my family needs bread I go to the supermarket and buy bread. I don't grow wheat, mill it between two rocks, make a fire in my yard and bake it fresh for them. When I want butter I go to the fridge and get some. I don't go milk a cow and spend an hour churning the milk for butter. In winter I wear woollen clothes but I can't knit and I have certainly never shorn a sheep! When I had a serious infection I took intravenous antibiotics rather than sweating it out at home and hoping to live through it. So call me lazy, call me a cheat, and lambast me for taking the easy way out! Human evolution is all about finding ways to make life easier. WLS is no different. Yes, it is easier than losing weight with the surgery than without it. So what? I embrace what is easy in most areas of my life, why should this be different? I have chosen life, health and happiness. How can that be cheating?

I read the 50 shades series while recovering. Have to say that was probably what contributed to me wanting to get things back into action with my husband quicker than I had thought I would post surgery! Sorry, TMI! Terribly written books but titilating nonetheless Anyway, I like Marian Keyes books for easy reading and funny chick lit.

This is where this site is essential, making me feel less alone in my craziness! Lol, I hope you find your chicken noodle soup equivalent for today! I am all good today and just ate one poached egg and one bacon rasher for breakfast :-)

I think if you are starting to get down on yourself then that isn't a good place to be. Start with Soups and start slow but do start. I can understand the fear, but you have to eat. Even now, five months out, I still sometimes have to make myself eat. We need to eat. Not a lot, sure, which is why I go for quality food, but food nonetheless is still essential. Start slow, start with Soup, but do start. Oh and Protein drinks, get those babies in!

Yes, I am the same with things being far too sweet. And with having days where really nothing appeals. One morning last week I loitered in the kitchen for about ten minutes, unable to decide what I wanted for breakfast. I realised I had to have something but I wanted nothing! After much gazing in the fridge and pantry I had chicken noodle soup for breakfast. My husband ate his cereal and just shook his head laughing at me. It was quite literally the only thing I could stomach.

This has become my post sleeve reality. I have only recently started to feel hunger, but it is fleeting. I am 5 months out. I am often disgusted by food and by what others are eating. Things that used to look fantastic to me now just look repulsive. chocolate anything for example, I used to love chocolate and i think it still sounds good but now when I look at it I find it just looks repulsive. Same applies to something I want to eat sounds great, I may even cook it, and that when I serve a little plate for myself it is fine but when my husband serves up a huge portion (a previously normal portion for me) I find my stomach turns. The visual of a mass amount of food just seems to elicit a really strong response. Alternately, I see food that I think looks fantastic but I have zero desire to eat it. Very strange but it is becoming my new normal.

I would say the onus is on you to disprove my assertion. It is common knowledge that alcohol is a blood thinner and remains one of the major reasons why those at risk of heart attack, stroke or are on warfarin are strongly encouraged not to drink alcohol. If you have evidence to disprove this please do share rather than making a drive by random comment.

Being fat. Oh no, wait a minute, I don't miss that at all! I am no fun, I LOVE the sleeve and find myself bewildered at my lack of interest in chocolate but not at all missing it. Every time I even get a twinge of missing something or wanting something I remind myself how fantastic I feel and it becomes real easy to remember I love me more than I loved food. Oh and I crave chilli and eat it like nobody's business!

Ahhhh. I am so used to most on here being in the US. The brand I get is ZeaLea. No added flavours, sweeteners or colouring and egg white is one of the most bio available Proteins you can digest. High in amino acids etc etc. you should be able to either get it is Aus or ship it from NZ

Iam lactose intolerant since surgery. I tried a few different powders and found I need to blend them with frozen berries in order to creat a drinkable drink! I worry about too much soy so I have recently shifted to an egg white powder. It is quite sweet (no sugar added though) and I find the berries and a bit of acidophilus yoghurt blended with it balance the sweetness. I have come to enjoy it.

Fantastic! It only gets better from here :-)

There is a connection between ghrelin and body temperature regulation. Though as studies into ghrelin are still so new, there is little anyone will be able to tell you about the impact this will have on you post surgery. I certainly have times where I get incredibly cold but not to the point you have described. As others have said, best to see what your doctor says and to rule out a medicine reaction. In my layperson's opinion it is unlikely to be the bread and more likely to be ghrelin related.

Well said. You rock. Seriously.

I love this topic too. I was not expecting things to get so much better. They were pretty good before but now the range of movement I have opens up so many opportunities to mix things up a little (or a lot).