thehappycat

So my fiance and I have decided to plan our wedding for December. We've been engaged for 2 years and since things are going really well for us, we want to actually get married. Anyway, I have no idea how I should go about dress buying. I know it's too late for me to get a custom dress, as those can take months. But should I get a white party dress? Should I wait until late November and buy something off the rack? Can I trust my mom to do any alterations I might need? Does anyone have any experience or advice for me?

It will pass. This is all part of the healing process. Around that time in my recovery I was seriously pondering if I had done the right thing getting the surgery because I was so uncomfortable and experiencing horrible reflux. But it slowly gets better until it's no longer a problem at all. Just hang in there.

I recently went on vacation and thought that my sleeve was on vacation too. It wasn't. Please don't do what I did. You will be in pain and you will regret it. Learn from my mistakes. http://www.scrapbookoftruth.com/2013/10/17/your-gastric-sleeve-doesnt-care-about-your-vacation/

Oh yes, it definitely was. I hardly ever have anything fried. It just doesn't appeal to me. But my brain decided that I was on vacation and my stomach was too. And it was not.

Wow, I wouldn't convict you if you strangled her. Sadly, some people are just clueless. But stay focused on the big goal. After you're back on foods you're going to look back at this time as a blip on the radar. It only feels like time is dragging out. I had to go through the same thing and being on the other side, it was totally worth it. Stay strong and just ignore the insensitive girl.

Tonight on Facebook when of my "friends" posted a long, ranting status about a blog I wrote today without mention my name or tagging me on it and when I called her out on it she said that today's blog was just one of the many things that she has found "amusing" about my writing. Then she proceeded to say that I'm a hypocrite for standing against fat shaming when I've had weight loss surgery, among other things. I'm at a total loss here. I thought I was pretty good friends with this girl and this has beyond hurt my feelings to have her accuse me of thinking and doing a bunch of horrible things that I never thought or did (she also said that I called her the C word and I didn't). It really bothers me that she just quietly thought I was a hypocrite for my weight loss surgery instead of just asking me about it. I've been very clear about why I got weight loss surgery and it was so I didn't die at 40. I was over 300 lbs with a family history of obesity, heart problems and diabetes. NOT having weight loss surgery would have been stupid. The part that kills me is that when I get to my goal weight, I'll still be classified as overweight by the BMI! I'm never going to be skinny! I'll always be overweight so not being fat shamed is always going to be relevant for me! I'm so upset. I had no idea she thought this about me at all. We hadn't seen each other in a while, but we had always gotten along and I thought she was my friend. I haven't had anyone react negatively to my weight loss and this really hurts.

Thanks! I definitely will. I've never been in a hot air balloon before so I will be taking a million pictures.

My blog is called Scrapbook of Truth. You can find all of my gastric sleeve stuff here: http://www.scrapbookoftruth.com/category/gastric-sleeve/ I don't allow comments on the blog, but your support is appreciated. The girl in question posted on a group message with another friend who we were supposed to hang out with the next day that I was pissed with her and we were going to "see how it played out". I left the message and haven't said a word to her since. Sadly, I've seen her turn on other people like this. I just thought that it wouldn't happen to me. When my friends saw her status they unfriended her immediately. I called one of my best girlfriends the night it happened and she was very supportive. I am so much better off without someone who doesn't understand me and just assumes the worst instead of asking. I feel really positive about this outcome. I'm surrounded by positive people who care about me and I don't need to be around those who don't. Also, I was just weighed and I am down 96 lbs! 4 more and my goal is to get a hot air balloon ride! I better hurry up before the weather gets too cold.

You're totally right, it doesn't make a lot of sense. I *think* that she thinks it's hypocritical because it's like saying "Everyone should be fine being fat, except me. I want to be cute and thin." or something like that. I don't even know.

Thanks for all of your replies. The sad thing is that she's done this to other people, but I've always thought that she would never do it to me because we were so close or something. IDK. I unfriended her and kicked her from the social group that I organize. Not that she attended any meetings anyway. I am totally done with her. I need support in my life, not people questioning me because I did what I had to do in order to save my life.

I'm not sure if she's jealous. She's slim and has always been slim. She knew me before I gained the weight and saw how miserable I was when my eating was completely out of control.

I posted a few months ago about some information around breast reductions. I had a consult last week with a doctor who did a reduction for one of my friends and he said a reduction for me is absolutely medically necessary. My tentative surgery date is Dec 20! I'm nervous about going through another surgery, but I am so excited thinking about not being in constant pain from my breasts. Also, it would be nice to fit into clothes again! Thanks for all of your support here, ladies. I am so stoked!

Don't worry too much about other people's reactions. My mom was dead set against me getting the surgery, but after I got it done and I started losing weight and being healthier she admitted that it was probably the right thing for me to do. Some people are going to be supportive, others won't be. Just the way it works. I didn't notice a gender divide between those who were supportive and those who weren't. But when it comes down to it, you have to do what's right for you and no one knows that better than you do.

Hey there! Who posts recipes to their Pinterest accounts? I need some friends who aren't posting a million different cake recipes that I can't eat. Here is my account, please list yours so I can follow you. http://pinterest.com/starlabranche/ I look forward to seeing what amazing recipes you guys pin!

I post a lot of stuff on Facebook and a few days ago I posted a pizza dip that I made. Immediately I started getting comments from people I don't really know that well and one I had never met in person (friend of a friend), all telling me that my dip was too high in fat and my diet should be low fat. I told them that my doctor told me count carbs and Protein and not to worry about anything else right now, so this dip was low-carb, high protein and it was fine for me to eat. Then they kept insisting that I need to eat low fat because they knew someone who did and lost weight and someone else knew someone who gained the weight back after lapband surgery because they were eating too much far, so on, so forth. Seriously? My doctor has been in the weight loss field for longer than I've been alive and I've already lost 75 lbs under his care. So maybe, just maybe, he knows what he's talking about. It's really pissing me off that people think they can just tell me how I should eat. Does anyone else have this problem? I cleaned out several people from my friend's list the other day, but I hate to delete people.

The 5 gallon tub thing totally reminds me of the girl who entered American Apparel's plus sized model contest to mock them. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2035266/American-Apparels-search-plus-size-model-won-spoof-entry-intended-campaign-AGAINST-controversial-brand.html I could totally do a photo shoot of me swimming in ranch dressing, lol.

Here's the recipe for the dip. It's amazing, fat and all. http://www.scrapbookoftruth.com/2013/07/05/low-carb-bacon-pizza-dip/ I posted a picture of the salmon with herbs and spinach that I made last night and strangely, no one had anything to say about it. If you guys have Pinterests, then please add me. I need more low-carb recipes popping up in my feed. http://pinterest.com/starlabranche/food-ive-made/

What do you need help with?

My family and I are going to Australia later this year and the flight is over 8 hours. My mom suggested that I bring some Protein bars in case I get hungry. Can I carry those on a plane? Tia!

Thanks everyone! I will pack accordingly.

Thanks, everyone! Keep the recipes coming. I just checked tonight and one of my friends uploaded a ton of mint chocolate baking recipes. Why do they have to torture me like this?!!?!?

Hi! I'm considering getting a gastric sleeve. I went to a weight loss seminar about two weeks ago and it sounded awesome. Right now my BMI is 48. I've been overweight my whole life (I'm 26 now) and have never been able to lose weight and keep it off. My weight has yoyo-ed continuously through the past 4 years and I just want to get to a healthy weight and stay there. I live in Hampton Roads and am looking to get my surgery from Mr. Clark at the Center for Weight Loss Success. They have a great program and Dr. Clark is an expert bariatric surgeon. I have a one-on-one consultation with Dr. Clark on June 5th. I have a bunch of questions written down. I really want to make sure this is the best option for me now. I look forwarding to meeting and interacting with everyone on the forum!

So I started out as a 44DDD before I got my surgery. I'm now 65 lbs down and I'm a 40DDD. My boobs aren't shrinking with the rest of me! And now I'm starting to have back and shoulder pain. It's constant and it's getting annoying. Has anyone had a reduction? I want to talk to my doctor about getting it done after I reach my goal weight. I know I can't continue like this.

About 40 more lbs. 60 more would be awesome. But my doc said 40 is a good goal.

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