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Does that mean buplee shouldn't talk about buplee's manhood anymore?

She definitely test my resolve and self control. On the weekend I even act as her baking assistant. My reward comes when we get home for being so strong willed. I know my triggers and haven't even eaten her sugar free items.

My pet peeve is people regretting surgery because they can't eat like they used to. Boo hoo hoo.

My wife owns a bakery and is a great cook. I thought it was going to be tough helping her on the weekends but I have been fine. Her regulars are asking how I am losing weight living with my wife. I tell them she starves me when I get home. Lol. She has tailored most of her cooking at home to accommodate our new healthy lifestyle. However, I still love the smell of her freshly baked coconut cream pound cake and German chocolate cake. Although I haven't even tasted a crumb. She said she is so proud of me.

Being afraid of complications and wondering if you are going to a be a statistic is a normal process for anyone undergoing surgery. Heaven knows I went through that with each of the several major operations I have had in the last 6 years. However here I am almost three months after being sleeved and writing on this forum. The complications for the sleeve are no scarier than any other surgeries I had where a organ or body part was removed. Every time the doctor went through possible issues, I took a deep breath. Do you research watch the surgery and relax. The surgery goes by quickly and so does the two week post-op diet. Good luck to you all on your respective surgeries and journeys.

We have all been there and believe me the stall breaks. Mine lasted 2 weeks before it broke and I got back on track. Good luck to you.

It is not about being perfect it is about trying to exhibit a bit of self control. My weight problems started from the time I was a little boy coming from a family where everyone was overweight. When I became an adult, I had a job where I traveled extensively and did not make the best choices and went to bed shortly afterwards from my crazy days. My wife and I were also foodies. She could eat anything and not gain weight but I could not. What I am trying to say is that I made a conscious decision to change for life and could not mentally succeed unless I stuck to the plan and did not cheat. When I gained weight I was told by the surgeon's office to changes my eating and to lose weight in order to qualify for surgery. Each doctor is different but don't think a lack of self control should be celebrated. As one poster's surgeon said "he has never seen anyone who didn't cheat", was a sad statement to make. A surgeon should want the patient to succeed not just to get a paycheck. Others may not agree and think I am being sanctimonious but that is my view of my journey. How others view their respective journeys is up to that individual. As I said for me, cheating was and still is not an option for me.

Sorry I hit the send button by mistake. All I can say is let's agree to disagree. Can't we all just get along.

I don't always agree with people rationalizing why there cheat and think people need to deal with the mental so they can handle their respective physical lifestyle changes

I guess I don't understand some of the posters. Maybe I took my pre and post-op surgery too seriously, but I did mot cheat. I guess Laura-Ven is right, every surgeon is different and some laugh off cheating in their patients. Mine was not one and would actually cancel and reschedule surgery if a person came into the final weigh-in more than 5lbs overweight.

You look amazing. I know you see imperfections, but most people would only see how great you look.

What a great and true article. It goes with what I have said many times. We need to address the mental in order to successfully handle and deal with the physical.

I only told my wife (of course), son and mother. Anyone else is on a need to know basis and they don't need to know.

It is not about judgement but some degree of self control. All of us are considering or who have had surgery for different reasons based on our relationship with food. Whether you are an overeater, grazer, binger, or a foodie like me who traveled the world extensively and ate rich food, it takes discipline. Sticking to pre-op and post-op diet is a mental thing which prepares you for the next step in your journey. The surgery is a tool and requires discipline for you entire life. How can someone not can stick to a plan for a few weeks or months but do it for life? I made the decision, to stick to the plan because I did not want to fail again. I have dieted and lost 50-100lbs several times during my life, but always gained it back for some reason or another. I was at a support group last night where three people went, fell of track and gained all their lost weight back. They now have to start all over again. don't know about some but I can say that is not going to be me. I stick to the plan because I want to succeed. I have not had any sweets, carbs (other than yogurt), or beverages other than Water since 4 weeks pre-op. Will that work for all? No it will not, but it works for me, because I want to succeed. I applaud the honesty on this board to admit things no matter how hard. However, I can't not applaud not sticking to a plan which will now become a way of life. Will I have a few bites of something unhealthy down the road? Maybe I will or maybe I will become a healthy food fanatic? Who know? However, I as have said many time to each his own.

It is not about judgement but some degree of self control. All of us are considering or have had surgery for different reasons based on our relationship with food. Whether you are an overeater, grazer, binger, or a foodie like who traveled the world extensively and ate rich food, it takes discipline. Sticking to pre-op and post-op diet is a mental thing which prepares you for the next step in your journey. The surgery is a tool and requires discipline for you entire life. How can someone not can stick to a plan for a few weeks or months but do it for life? I made the decision, to stick to the plan because I did not want to fail again. I have dieted and lost 50-100lbs several times during my life, but always gained it back for some reason or another. I was at a support group last night where three people went, fell of track and gained all their lost weight back. I don't know about some but I can say that is not going to be me. I stick to the plan because I want to succeed. I have not had any sweets, carbs (other than yogurt), or beverages other than Water since 4 weeks pre-op. Will that work for all? No it will not, but it works for me, because I want to succeed. I applaud the honesty on this board to admit things no matter how hard. However, I can't not applaud not sticking to a plan which will now become a way of life. Will i have a few bites of something unhealthy down the road? Maybe I will or maybe I will become a healthy food fanatic? Who know? However, as have said many time to each his own.

Congrats and thank you for your post. I too prepared myself ahead of being sleeved and have never cheated. I think you will be just fine once you are sleeved. You have shown incredible willpower and self control. Good luck to you on your journey. Do you have a surgery date as of yet?

Sometimes it is the insurance company. I work for a very larger insurance company that covers everything, and still had to fight with Aetna for 18 months. I was made to go through 9 months of nutritional counseling, even though the policy was 3 months. I had a bmi of 49 but no comorbities, so I was told I was too healthy. I ultimately ad to hire a healthcare advocate and threatened to sue after being denied twice.

Kellylynn, I wish you the best on your journey. I agree you need to let your surgeon know about your eating habits. I had a long fight with my insurance company and had some time to deal with my food issues. I went to a therapist weekly to come to terms with my feelings about having surgery, and how my life would change. It worked for me but may not be for everyone. Once I knew my surgery date, I used those 6 weeks to follow a modified post-op diet. I took my stance from my experience with two people who had surgery ( I know a total of 5) and failed because they could not stick to the plan. Maybe that is not you and hopefully you won't become one of the wls failures. I know we have all had issues with food. Whether it is because we have a sweet tooth, snack or eat constantly, or just eat too much food at a sitting. I am fairly new at 10 weeks post-op, but in the time leading up to my surgery and the time after, I have not cheated or have a desire to do so. I want all of us to succeed so much that I get passionate in my responses. This forum is one where you will get honesty, and tough love. You may or may not like or agree with what we say but it is meant to come from a good space. None or most of us know each other personally but we think of each other as part of our extended surgery and want to offer advice. It is up to you to determine which is most helpful to you. Good luck on your new lifelong journey to be thin.

Sorry about your son but agree with melodymouse there are healthy options at the hospital. My mother has been hospitalized twice in the last few weeks and I got greek yogurt and added a little granola or 8 almonds for a little fat and extra Protein. Another option is to bring some Protein powder and but some milk or pack Soup with a little unflavored protein protein power added in a microwaveable container.

Congrats to you on your post-op journey. I wish you success.

I had to do liquids leading up to my surgery and for two weeks post-op and urge you not to cheat. This surgery requires a lifestyle change and you are not thinking properly if you are seeking suggestions on how to cheat.

I don't think you're doomed but I agree with SpaceDust and don't think you are ready for surgery. You really need get a handle on the reasons why you may be sabotaging yourself. Insurance companies look for reasons not to approve the surgery and are really not expecting people to succeed. Think of your pre-op diet as a dry run for things to come. You need to be able to stick to the diet now, so you can succeed later. It is not an easy thing not eating unhealthy things in large quantities as many of have but that is how your life will be post-op if you want to lose weight. Do you really want to go through through the process and then regret like some others have voiced on various threads? Speak to a therapist to help deal with your food issues before you have surgery. This is a lifelong change and should not be taken lightly. This may not be what you want to hear but it's the truth. I wish you well and hope you make the right decision for yourself.

I initially only told my immediate family. I only told my mother after I received all clearances and I had a surgery date. Even then it was two weeks of answering various questions. she is now happy I did. Other than those mentioned nobody else knows. Some people tell everyone, and others like me feel it's no ones business.