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Just do you are aware, pain med can cause rebound headaches. If I take pain meds more than 1 or 2 a day. So your best option would be to talk to the doc and maybe try another pain med. It sucks I know, but I have to choose headache or surgery pain and I usually take the surgery pain. Good luck, hope you feel better soon!

Congrats to BOTH of you. What huge accomplishments. Keep up your hard work and no doubt we will all get to our goal! I am so happy for you both!!

Chances are (of course if it isn't constant) that it is a muscle strain. Our muscles DO NOT like being poked around. My passion started about 2 weeks out post OP and lasted til 4 weeks post op. It hurt worse than my surgery did. You can always call and check with your doc (I suggest that, if for no other reason than peace of mind) good luck! Hope you get doing better soon.....

Now that I have gone down 8 sizes, I am trying to wear clothes that actually fit. (new one for me) When I was a size 28/30 I would always buy the biggest size they had. The baggier the better (really, who was I kidding?) When I wear the correct size is when I get people coming up to me and saying, wow you look great or have you lost weight, you look wonderful. This is SOOOO uncomfortable. I have spent the last 15 years trying to fade into the background. Trying to NOT get noticed. Now when people say anything to me I awkwardly change the subject or mumble a "thanks" and put my head down. How do I get over this? I am probably just at the beginning of these compliments. Honestly, as proud as I am that I am a size 20 I am under no illusion that I am "small". What did you say, or are planning or hoping to say, when people compliment you? I don't like it when I give people a compliment and get "oh, I have so much to go" or "no, I really don't" as a reply. I don't want to be that person.

The reason for my question was that I wanted ways I could be kind and sincere WHEN people noticed. I have a problem taking a compliment. I commend you that you don't. I am hoping to be better with that. Losing weight has been a battle with changing life long bad habits. It's been a hard journey and I appreciate people helping me along this path.

I am wondering if you have an update? I hope things are going better for you. I am thinking if you really love him, and you aren't happy with the way your marriage is just like everything else in life, you can only change yourself. I have gone through dry spells in my 12 year marriage. The hardest one was when my husband had gastric bypass. I spent a lot of time thinking, he thinks I am gross, he now realizes he can do better, now he is looking good, he doesn't want to be with me. (it's possible these are going through your hubbys head) but I decided I was the problem. I made a nice dinner (that he could eat) got dressed up, had a romantic dinner and made moves myself. It turned everything around. I have learned my husband needs to feel wanted and desired too. Just a few thoughts. I hope things are already better for you though!

I am extremely sorry about this! It is a HUGE accomplishment. I think learning to take a compliment is better than no one saying anything. Hopefully you have lots of support outside of work!

Piper- I agree with you.... I do realize people really mean it because I know I truly do. The one I have the HARDEST with right now is, "you look great! How much have you lost?" I understand people are excited for me or have secretly wanted to know how long I have been working and they haven't noticed (I have thought that, but don't like the question so I haven't EVER asked) I am embarrassed to say 53lbs. Because my friends that think their 20 extra pounds is just horrid I think "yes I said 53 and yes, I still have lots more to go" It is nice to know you aren't alone in these feelings. I have perfected the blending in the background and now I am being forced out of the shadows (yes, I chose this) but it came faster than I expected. I am going just make a goal that the next time I get a compliment I will say thanks and look them in the eye. If I can change how I eat and if I can learn to love my 5am workouts, I can certainly learn this.... hmmm it would be nice to have a surgery to work on this brain of mine :-) I am going to make a confession here. I did a lot of research before I chose WLS. I read a lot of blogs, posts and websites. Each one cautioned it was hard on the psyche. Each time I thought: I won't have a problem with that. (I knew I had issues with food but didn't see the body issues coming) I thought, I am not going to have a problem wrapping my brain around a new body. I am sure it's not going to even be am issue for me. I AM WRONG! 100% dead wrong...... This is a problem I can be grateful for every day of my life. Much better than obesity.

I walked past my mirror and did a double take. 2 months out and that dreaded double chin was GONE! It was at about 40lbs. I am now at 53.2 and I try to look in the mirror (because it was something I have refused to do since I graduated high school) everyday and tell myself one thing I "noticed" or feel better about or even something that is not as bad as it used to be. That has helped with my self esteem.

I have been overweight since 4th grade. I always hated getting ready or dressed up because I hated the mirror. I was married 12 years ago (I was 18) and at that point I was getting dressed in jeans and at shirt, little make up and pulled my hair up. It only got worse 2 years later after I had my first child. As each kid came along I gave up something more with the first, it was make up. The second was jeans (went straight for sweats and elastic pants) and by the time the last one was here I was showering every other day and really not taking care if myself. I was never "dirty"or unkempt, I would just have a baby wipe rubdown and call it a day. On to the good news. I am 2.5 months out, down 53lbs. Gone from a size 28 to a 20 and you know, I get up, shower, I cut my hair, put makeup on and generally take care of myself. My whole adult life I avoided myself. I find I can actually look at myself in the mirror and point out one or two things I don't "hate". I know I am a long way from being considered beautiful (lucky for me my hubby thinks I am always beautiful) but I care now. And that is something I haven't been able to say for 12 years! Those that are pre op, keep up the hard work, it's worth it. Those that are sleeved, we should take a minute to reflect on what we have gained, maybe even write it down to pull out on those "bad" days :-)

Ok! I will take all the friends I can get :-)

UTGal99 First, I have to ask if you are from Utah? (just looking at your screen name) I ask because I live in Utah and haven't seen many Utahns on here. What I wish I knew? I wish I knew how hard it would be to eat. It's painful when I eat. Not so painful I can't handle it, but every bite I take makes my tummy bubble (only way I can describe it) my issue with that is that I never WANT to eat. Nothing sounds good, it seems like a waste of time to eat, there is zero enjoyment out of eating. (I am not complaining, I just didn't know I would struggle to eat) Most shocking? How quickly I have run out of clothes. Never as an adult have I been smaller than a 20. I have one pair of capri's that fit. And 3 shirts. I wish I would have been collecting clothes in smaller sizes from before the surgery. Because now I don't want to buy 18's because I don't want to stay an 18 for long. All I wish I would have done differently is being prepared. I wish I would have been collecting recipes and trying them out. Collecting clothes and I would start finding other ways to cope with emotions instead of eating. Because the first time you want to emotional eat...... you prob haven't prepared and you are in a bad spot trying to figure out if working out, massage, talking to a friend or maybe reading will work. DON'T wait to figure that out! And then take measurements and pics. Anything to help measure progress. Keep me updated on your progress. I am so excited for those that are working on getting this done!

You totally deserve this! I believe as we live life overweight we start believing we don't deserve what others have but why not? Quite frankly, I have had 3 kids, all born premature. Between the 3 kids they had a total of 13 surgeries (only 1 of the surgeries was done on a kid older than 12 months) I spent time on hospital bed rest, then as my children grew strong, I sat by their sides never let one day pass that I was not in the NICU. I have had cancer, hip surgery and a mini stroke. I earned something good! So do you! Go get it......

I echo that you should be measuring inches. EVERY time the scale stops, I drop the inches. To be honest, I am happy when my scale stops because I get more compliments when those inches fall off. At my 3 week stall I put my scale away. I decided to weigh one a week. Somehow being able to let go let my body relax. I knew I was doing everything I was supposed to. But you also need to know almost everyone goes through this. When we wish we would have lost more or we think we have "earned" more loss. It gets us down, make us think what more we could do. Just know you aren't alone. Thus scale WILL move again and you already have accomplished more than ever before (I know you "lost" more in shorter time on HCG but that comes back, this is permanent) keep on keeping on!

So I have never had threading done but I have seen it done. They take a piece of string and roll it across those hairy areas (really cool to watch) and it pulls the hair out but the good thing is that it is quick and lasts a good amount of time. I have only heard great things!

I am 2 1/2 months out and my tummy still does that weird noises, gurgling twisty thing. Every time I eat. It personally keeps me in check. It isn't so loud anymore that people can hear it. Sounds like everything is normal. It's nice to get that reassurance isn't it?

The problem with the enema is further tearing. And that is what you want to avoid. It will take a few days to have anything oral work through your system. If it doesn't hurt coming out, do the enema. If you have pain at all, I wouldn't suggest it.

I have had this problem for 8 years. I am sorry. When there is blood, it means there is a tear. And it seems most people do not understand the pain associated with it. I even had surgery to try to correct this problem 4 years ago. It didn't help. So I truly have tried most "remedies". I found Miralax worked the best for me (it worked for a month and that is the most help I ever got) keep up with the water, and sometimes the tears take a long time to clear up. There are medicated creams so don't be afraid to ask your doc if you need help! Good luck.

I don't understand how the same insurance company can have so many different responses to the same surgery. I too used United Healthcare. I had to do one visit with psych, with nut and exercise therapist. Then had it submitted to insurance. One week later I had approval in my hand. I will say, we learned a year earlier when my husband had gastric bypass who to talk to. We talked to my husbands HR rep at his office. She called the insurance and requested an approval specialist with United. So United actually called my Dr office and told them everything they wanted to see. And he oversaw my case from beginning to end. There is help there. Good luck for those still waiting!

I food HCG too. You are in for a world of difference. I thought more about food with HCG because I was hungry, not satisfied, weak, no energy. With the sleeve, you are not hungry. And I am using this time (I have not had any hunger pain yet) to try to deal with head hunger. You are on the right path by thinking about it now. I have learned that you prepare ahead of time for weak moments. Each person I am sure has their own "fixes" but here is mine: I only keep one package of 100 calorie pack choco covered pretzels that will take away my sweet tooth (I usually eat 3 pretzels maybe 2x's a week) but when I get depressed I have my Ipod, work out shoes, nook and some "before" pics in a bag. It's my "sanity kit" I am sure I will continue to add things as I find them. You are being smart, this will help you be successful. Congrats and good luck