Wow, this is what im dealing with. So far Ive only told 2 friends and I think they havent shared. I told 2 coworkers, out of those 2 I found out 6 people found out from the one of that persons before I left. Those 6 people were judgemental and came to ask me why at my cubicle without thinking it was a private thing, if I never told them that means dont talk about out in the open. As for my immediate family (parents & sibling) I didnt tell them until 1 month before surgery. (6 month process through ***) I felt like I wanted to make sure I wanted to do it, before I had them judge me, support me, or dissagree with me. mom and siblings support me, but my father does not, even after surgery. As for the people im scared of the most telling is my extended family. Today, this Sunday going to a Mexican family picnic. They will see ive lost another 20 pds, from the last time ive seen them since may 1st. They will see my eating habit have changed. Im currently in soft protein foods. Im not ready to share, my mom keeps pushing me to say something, since its difficult for her not to share. Oh forgot to say my father went to visit my grandma and aunt the day after the surgery and seen my father quiet and they knew something was up. So they came visit our home and they saw me home in pain, that I had to tell them. So I know for a fact the word got around, even though I warned them that day, not to share only when im ready. Im not ready. So we will see how it goes today.