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Good luck to you and congrats on your day! :-)

I'm still super excited, nervous, confused, emotional, etc. my date is on 6/18. I calm myself my thinking about the future outfits I am going to buy! I love love love shopping and now I won't be limited to lane bryant and chubby side of jcp and avenue!! Omg I can't wait to shop at random stores at the mall! Did I mention I love shopping!

Omg you just described me! I can't wait to get my emotions in check. I know it gets better. Good luck to us and our hubbys!!

Threats great!

Great article! Thanks your sharing. Have your tried any of the suggestion on the article? If so, did or work?

I have the same fears.. I have been stocking up my craft room because I am going to craft a lot just so I can forget about food! Hand in there you can do out!! I love this saying ”no food you eat will make you feel better than losing weight and feeling better about yourself”

Hi allie! Hang in there! I am preop and moody as heck! I even cry a lot about dumb stuff... This is a big deal and its ok to feel emotional. I hope your start to feel better soon.

Hi all, I am pre-op my surgery is on 6/18. I started this journey at 262 lb and currently weigh 248 (can't believe I typed that). Well, I have struggled with my weight since I was 15! I am 35 now and I have my concerns and fears. One thing I think about all the time is who will I be when I lose the weight?? I don't know that person. My weight has defined me for so long that I wonder if I will become someone else when I am thinner. My husband fears that I will change too. Will confidence change me? Have any of you experienced these issues? V

That's great pixie! Thanks for sharing that!! Congrats on the new you! I told my husband that I will be more confident and that will be the only change!

I guess I have not shame but I pretty much told everyone! I have never been embarrassed about being overweight and it's just easy for me to tell people. The only people I have not really told is my husbands family but that is because I am hardly around them. I kind of mentioned it on FB yesterday and I am hoping they ask me a few questions so I can just tell them. We will see! I guess we are all different and I truly believe that there is nothing wrong with NOT telling people.

Thanks so much for your words! I have an amazing husband and we have a great relationship which is why I put a lot of thought into this when he mentioned me changing. I think being open and communicating will be key to making him feel better because he is part of this journey. Again thanks!!

"I’ve always identified myself as the “fat kid” or the “fat man.” If I’m no longer fat, I will need to come up with a new identity. I’m not really sure what that new identity is going to be. I think it has something to do with how I will perceive myself after I have lost the weight." by J. Fabulous This is a powerful statement... Thanks!

I agree Jimmy, but this is just a though and I am wondering if anyone else has felt this. I think I think about it because my husband has brought it up a few times. Has anyones significant other brought this up too?

I am preop and crazy addicted to coffee! I cannot function without it. I am grumpy and moody right up til I drink that luscious sip of coffee! I hope I can tolerate it after surgery...

I told my case manager that I was going on a cruise 11 weeks after my surgery and she said no! I laughed because I thought she was kidding but then she said "I am not kidding" and she was serious. She said they do not recommend it because of all the food options. I told her I wont go if she pays me the $1000 non refundable deposit I paid four months ago. I felt like a child who was not trusted by a superior. Last thing I want to do is get sick on my vacation... I wanted to tell her "I am an adult!" LOL.. I am sure they mean well. I say, if you are feeling well you should do what makes you happy.

Hi all! Well my name is veronica and I am a recent poster. My last post was pure ranting about the hospital where I am having my surgery. It was not my best post and it was negative. I thought I would start over by introducing myself and letting you all know that I am not a negative person, just extremely scared of this surgery. Why am I explaining myself? Because I really need support from people who are going through this. I don't know any one who has had wsl and when I do tell people they tell me that I don't need this even though I do. I can relate to a lot of you and I feel like I need this community! So with that said! I am being sleeved on june 18. Wish me strength people!! :-)

Tlaff, I will keep my fingers crossed! Please keep us updated! I am sure everything will go great!

Thanks everyone for your kind words!! The idea of going to the hospital (for non emergency reason) and having them cut me open is scary but I will do it! I MUST do it! I cannot back away... Again THANKS!

Thanks kimmy!!

Hi all! Well my name is veronica and I am a recent poster. My last post was pure ranting about the hospital where I am having my surgery. It was not my best post and it was negative. I thought I would start over by introducing myself and letting you all know that I am not a negative person, just extremely scared of this surgery. Why am I explaining myself? Because I really need support from people who are going through this. I don't know any one who has had wsl and when I do tell people they tell me that I don't need this even though I do. I can relate to a lot of you and I feel like I need this community! So with that said! I am being sleeved on june 18. Wish me strength people!! :-)

That's great congrats!!

Thanks! I can't wait to get on that bench!

Yes I love this site! And congrats on your day! Please keep me posted! :-)

Emily, thanks for your kind words! Lovely, that gives me so much hope. My husband and I have been trying for six years with no success! I hope it happens for me too! Thanks for sharing your story. Good luck to you all!

This whole time I had been so confident about this surgery. I am No. Cal but I have to drive 1.5 hours to Richmond Kaiser because they specialize in Bariatric Surgery. First, I always dislike going to Richmond. The staff their is rude and tacky! I am an educated person, yet they have spoken to me in a derogatory tone. Yesterday, one of the staff spoke to me slowly as if I was dumb! Their Registration person ignored me when I asked her if she was open... Honestly, I am a no nonsense type of person and I felt very vulnerable at that moment. I called my husband to express my feelings and as soon as I heard his voice I started crying!! WTH! In front of everyone! Then I called the staff ghetto and rude, and they heard me :s To be honest, I just wanted to go home! I was hungry and sleepy (office being audited, I have not been sleeping well) and I still had a long drive home + traffic. I don't regret calling them rude and ghetto because they take advantage of our vulnerability. Every time I come to that horrid place, the staff is talking about their personal issues, eating, and ignoring me when I have a question... So, long story short... I am scared and I feel vulnerable! Sorry for the rant! Good luck to all of you! Veronica