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I know my body well enough, I think, that as long as I cut out soda and sweets towards the end of every month, maybe throw in a green smoothie or 2 them I should lose a lb or 2. I'm really positive that my dr. Will write down whatever I need him to. Lol

My head is spinning. I haven't much of a clue what my ins company wants from me. They sent me a list of the criteria I need to meet. Most of it is simple stuff that is self explanatory. This part I still don't get: 6 consecutive months of a supervised diet with your physician. Now. Does this mean we want you to get weighed every 6 months, period? Does it mean we want you to eat a diet you have been prescribed by your dr? Or do they simply want me to lose weight? Do they want me to prove that I can't lose weight? What percentage of my body weight do they want me to lose!? If I lose a bunch and am under a bmi of 35, are they going to say " hey, this lady can lose weight," and not approve me? Gahhhhh. No one knows. Face/palm. I went to my dr to get weighed and have him sign the referral and asked him what he wants me to do to lose and how much I should lose etc. he says " ask your ins company, I usually do an 1800 calorie eating plan.". So I leave and call them immediately and thy say " that is something you would have to discuss with your surgeon..". I call my Bariatric office and they say " ask your insurance company. ". I'm ready to scream. Or take some anti nausea mess from all he spinning in circles I'm doing. Where do I go from here? Gah!! The lady that answered the phone at the Bariatric place, she seems to think that the ins company wants me to lose weight so I no longer qualify for Bariatric surgery because I have no comorbid conditions and my bmi is JUST at 40.7. Yikes. She did transfer me to the nurse, where I got voicemail, and she has yet to call back. In her defense, it was late in The day when I called. I'm so lost. This phase is so so frustrating. I feel in my heart his will all eventually work out for he better but it's hard to relax not knowing if I need to fill my next 6 mos w Cookies and cake or green smoothies and melons. Kwim? Oh I'm tired already, of his ins stuff. They aren't weeding me out tho. I'm a fighter. Maybe all these calls I'm making to the ins company will look good to them when he surgeon submits the paperwork. Sent from my iPhone using VST

Not sure. I have to be 40 and I am 40. Lol. Ins co and the lady at the office both said not to lose. Even my pcp's nurse, who has had rny said that they could just weigh me every month and say that they have me on an 1800 cal diet and write that I can't lose. Lol. Do you think that will sabotage things? Maybe if I only lose 1 lb a month, or have the dr write that I did st least? I am gonna have to search for the bmi calc in a bit. Basically, my dr/ nurse are willing to make it look good for me.

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Okay I called the ins co and the Bariatric team both today and got people who knew what they were talking about. They both said that I cannot lose weight because BCBSMI will be going by my ending weight, not my starting bmi. Lady at the Bariatric place says it's just the silly ins companies hoop and they just want to see who will see it through to the end. So. I really wanted to lose some, but I suppose this is worth staying fat for 6 mos for. Sent from my iPhone using VST

Oh that stinks!!! How far in are you, into the 6 mos? I stopped trying to wean and dm now on both. It works. I'm not crying daily now. Thx to all g

If I didn't have 6 children who need me day and night, I wouldn't be able to drag my big butt out of bed. I was fully ready to head on down to MX and self pay- and as most of you probably know, stuff happened and I wasn't able to pay for it anymore. Now I'm going the insurance route, and it's just going to take so long. I know, 6 months isn't the end of hte world, but it sure feels like it when I was going to have surgery june 4th and now I have to wait until around Cmas time. I'm really fighting with my depression. I'm supre cranky at the thought of having to be this big for 6 more months. I suppose I'll be losing a little bit, but I'm not trying super hard at this supervised diet thing- I've never stuck to a diet more than 4 mos because I just cave and eat a ton of food and all the wrong foods of course. I don't want to moan and whine, I dont want to feel sorry for myself, but I do. and Honestly, this surgery is about all i can think about, day and night. I think about it to fall asleep even. you could say I'm hyper focusing. I don't want to screw the next 6 mos up. I dont even go to my pcp untl this Friday- the shrink next Monday. I NEED this weight off, and asap. As far back as I can remember, I have felt bad about myself. It's hard not to when you can't find cute clothes for yourself, and when you find halfway inexpensive mens tshirts, you have to pay 3.00 more because your body requiresmore fabric than smaller people. I will have to go through another entier summer being fat. I saw the light at the end of hte tunnel, and as I've said before, tha light is so tiny now. I have thought of 101 ways I could go about getting htis surgery sooner, and i just keep hitting dead ends. i just want to eat, sleep, and do days without a shower. I just thought maybe you guys would understand. sorry if this is hard to understand, kids need me so i'm typing super fast, and probably not thining everything all the way through. i did switch to lamictal from effexor and hopefully that will help. i just dont have anything nice to wear, and really- i watn to refuse to purchase anything to cover this fat ugly body. :/

I just now started went to my dr to be weighed in yesterday for the dfrst time Phat, ot, but I don't have to get a sleep study done as part of the criteria I have to meet and my pcp didn't bring it up, but do I need to initiate study for my own safety,during surgery? Ive suspected it before and just never went to the study. Also, why did you get the catheter ting put in? I mean I googled it and know what it's for but why do u get one? I've never heard of that before. Do all surgeons do that? Sent from my iPhone using VST

Oh wheetsin, so super helpful, thank you for holding my hand through this!!! Actually, when I left he dr office and called the Indurance company (BCBS MI, PPO) i did ask her about dropping below that bmi. That is when she replied that I had to talk Iy surgeon. Remember when we were kids and wanted so desperately to be a grow up? If only we knew then......

My BMI is right at 40. I do not have co morbidies. The Dr. put a checkmark in the box that says something along the lines of "patient frequently struggles with handling stress." I've been in a lot over the last 8 years, for anti-depressants. sigh. Will this count against me afa wether or not they think I can handle the stress after surgery or whatever? I am so scared I'll do 6 mos and they'll pick the tiniest little thing to count against me and I'll get a denial letter. also- the ins co sent me a list of criteria I have to meet. It says "bcbsm has a 6 month consecutive weight-loss program requirement." I asked my dr' what exactly they want from me. do i have to write it all out every day- every bite I take? do I have to follow a certain plan? he said call the ins company and ask. i left the office and did just that, and they said "ask your dr." *HEADAGAINSTWALL she says something like "we dont preauthorize this procedure, it's all up to your surgeon. huh? I don't even meet w/ him until next month on the 25th. will they take this months weigh in? I'm kindof spinning in circles. can't wait until this hoop part is all over. am i making this harder than it needs to be? I also asked hte ins lady if losing a big amt of weigt during the next 6 months would disqualify me. she didn't think it would. said that was also up to my surgeon. do you guys know? cuz I can lose like crazy, it's the keeping it off part that is hard, of course. I hate this grownup stuff. I'm 28, but I still let my hubby handle all the adult things.

Oh I love this Thread! I could go on for days. For starters: *Shop for cute clothes that actually fit right, on the normal side. *Not mind seeing myself in the mirror. *Have sex w my husband without feeling like a whale. *Feel pretty. *Or I'll even take feeling human. *Play with my kids like it ain't no thang. Hehe *Have more than a couple items that fit, and actually choosing something nice from my closet vs. Reluctantly grabbing " the men's tshirt that doesn't hang to my elbows or have a grease stain. *Feel human. Wait did I say that already? *normal. Sized. Bra. One that doesn't have 3" wide straps to hold all the weight and keep me from wearing anything outside of tshirts. * get off my anti depressants. * feel good. That's it for now. In no particular order. Sent from my iPhone using VST

hi- i'm not sleeved yet, but one thing has me very curious. sometimes ill go for a walk around the neighborhood w/ the kids and that makes me super thirsty, so i glugglugglugglug Water as i'm walking and once ig et home. how will that change after surgery? I know you can't glug, and I have a hard time imagining sipping during those super hot walks. how do you do it!? course. I'm kinda dehydrated now, probably always, so when i do finally exert myself, my body says liquid PLEASE!

smileen- look at us, advanced members, woot! what do we get? why did it take so long?

LOL I'd pitch a fit too! hehe.. I'm glad you got yoru way surgery! I think I have a good chance of getting my surgery. the seminar i watched online, they said they would help with appeals, so i think everything will go well. I do have to see a psychiatrist too- that part actually sounds fun.

oh I hope so! maybe it will be helpful.. as far as a dietitian- I guess they aren't going to make me? the dr said that is what he would recommend, but i guarantee I can lose this weight. they never even gave me a specific amt. I guess the surgeon will do that next month? shelli- it does feel like it will drag. but I keep reminding myself how fast 9 months went with my pregnancies, 6 times. lol during it kindof drags, but then you are looking at your 6 month old going "WHAT?" I hope you get approved! did you have to keep track of every morsel?

Rofl I'm a j.

Hello all- I just scheduled my surgery with dr. Aceves for he 4th!!! I'm so excited, it almost doesn't seem real! I'm more nervous about the plane ride and not knowing where to go, etc. I'm gonna get lost or something. ( never been on a plane. ) Anyone else scheduled around hat time?

Thx. I don't think I have any that would qualify as veri cose.

Another enell fan. Not cheap but great support! Was one of oprahs favorite things.

Oh that would be awesome!! Can you text? My number is 660-998-2823

I think about the surgery off and on all day but this made me giggle at myself. I've watched so many videos of the surgery procedure, etc. That when I saw the stomach on this picture, it made me think of the surgery. And I envision three fourths of it being cut off, ha ha

See, I knew you guys would understand!! Lol. Sleeve doesn't found funny to me yet. Yet.

Awesome!! I wonder if I can get my husband on a bike.

Aw, I hate to hear that for you!! I know that feeling also, of cringing at myself in the mirror. I still do! What about starting smaller, maybe! I'm 234 lbs and even though I'd love to be in a 10, I think I may go out and purchase a pair of 14's. I don't know what size I can get into with my med bones and my child bearing hips. Hehe. If I bought a 10 and came to realize its not a healthy attainable weight for my frame, I think that might depresse again. I think you will do fabulous!!

Oh, I thought I replied to this!! Thank you all do much for reaching out. I'm actually kindof embarrassed that I posted all this woe is me stuff. I'm off the pitty pot now and have decided to go ahead and start eating healthy and get more active. Noone says I can't lose weight but me and I have decided not to believe that lie. It will take hard work and commitment but I'm not waiting. The whole point was to change my ways right? What better time to start than now? Im really happy to hear over and over that the 6 mos will fly. I'm sure it will. In a year I'll be sitting back wondering what in the world I was whining about.