Its all about MEE

I am a 28yr old African American female who is severely obese. It started 8yrs ago after i had my first daughter and continued from there. I didnt see me self getting bigger i kept saying im not that big until i reached 350 pounds. Now i am so embarrassed to go out in public i feel that people are talking about me. I dont have any support at home. i do know now its time to do something if i want to live to see my kids grow up. Im not sure how the process works fully but want to know everything there is to know. Im verry scared cause with any surgery there could be complications. If there is any 1 who has positive info the give it to me i can use it.