stacey7388

i have told more friends then family of my intentions because once when i casually stated that i was thinking about surgery i was bombarded with remarks , some good and some ugly. So this time i have decided to wait untill closer to my date to tell my family. however i have told some people and have realized that you will need different attitudes to answer different people. With some i was able to share my thoughts and with others i had to take a short and strick approch. when they asked questions like "what made you decide to do THAT? its SOO dangerous." i would respond " it might sound drastic to yiu but for me it is something i have made my mind up to do. And i am really happy to have your support. ' just shut down thier negativity BEFORE they have a chance to ruin your friendship with rude remarks. after they think a while before they speak again they will realize two things: one its not thier choice and : two if they really care about you, they will support you.

i am still in the pre-op phase, but have alot of the same emotions you have. its really hard to choose to have surgery. When the doctor says you need to have your gall bladder removed... thats what you do. but when you CHOOSE to have surgery, then its easy to question yourself. my mom too has been pushing me to have surgery and she doesnt even know im in the process of getting approved. just because i dont want to hear about it. sad i know but i will tell her right before. i have started a list of all the things i will enjoy after my surgery. for example folding my laundry in front of people without being embarresed or my flip flops not going flat after a few weeks from all the weight they support. the list is to remind me of why i am having the surgery and i am even going to take it with me to the hospital just in case i have more pain then expected, i will have a list (about 3 pages so far) to remind me of the light at the end of the tunnel. i know your date is soon but maybe this list would help you too. i have even told my support buddy that i will give her a copy just in case she runs out of encouraging things to tell me, she'll have a go to list. best of luck with your surgery. i'm sure you will do great stacey