SkinnyOnMe

Thank you for the encouragement. The harsh words and sweet words are good for me. While I have been out on temp disability from surgery they I got a call that they no longer needed me. Since my husband has been out of work and watching our kid I was the only source of income so I am SUPER STRESSED. I have no rights against being fired while out on a doctors note because I am a temp so for the past few days that I have known I have been super scared because I don;t know if I will be able to pay my rent or even how I will feed my family. Stress like this is not cool while I am in this situation.

I was in your boat last week,posting about the same thing. But honestly.... you have no idea how your skin will react. You may be tight, you may be loose.... but you won;t be fat. Take care of your skin. Follow all the hints and pray for the best. Worry about it when you lose the weight. It's done

I didn't mention that I only ate the meat out of the sub and hardly any bread with the chicken sandwich.... but this is not excuse I feel rotten. I feel like I am a horrible failure. I was just so happy I could eat!!! And my family just keeps telling me how horrible of a thing it is that I can't eat. They just shake their heads and eat wonderful meals while I suffer. I am not putting the blame on them,..,. it's on me. My doctor did give me a list but to me it is unrealistic and doesn't have enough variation.

Is 75% too much? Because I think so. What is normal?

I am 3 weeks out and I really did not understand just how much I would miss food, how it would change my life, and exactly how little I would eat. But looking at my face in the mirror getting smaller and my belly going down OMG.... it's worth it. But I do hopemy stomach gets a little bigger because I miss cooking.

I took my pill right before I went into the operating room and have continued as normal. My doc told me that upon losing weight we increase our chances of pregnancy and we all know being pregnant when you can barely provide enough nutrients for yourself is a no-no.

Today I tried to sit at the table and try to eat for 30 minutes. Pre-op I usually could eat my food in about 3 minutes, so this was very hard. My question is... If I am full after 2 bites and I still have 25 minutes left should I sit there and wait for the fullness to subside and take another bite as long as it is in the 30 minute period or should I get up and consider the 2 bites a meal? Today I sat there and waited until I could keep squeezing it in bite by bite until I couldn't take it anymore..... was that right? IDK.

I tried to keep it only between me and my very close family members..... but word is getting around and its only been 3 weeks!!!! Now I feel like people are looking at me like I am a liar. The people I told only told their husbands or boyfriends or other people they thought would not tell but damn.... everybody has the one person they think they can tell and word is getting around.

I had this the night before last. Stew Beans is a fav my whole life.... I just skip the steak in it. Take some meat on the bone.... turkey neck, spare rib, etc. Put it in a crock pot. Then put some dry kidney beans. Season it very well with salt, pepper, italian seasoning or oregano and basil, and garlic. Then add a dash of allspice if you have it. Cover it with Water and let it cook until it is super soft and meat removes easy from the bone. Let it sit and thicken fro a fewminutes and enjoy!!!

BUMP I'm in the same boat as you. My sleeve is new but I am plotting on how I will make sure that I don't go below 150 but not above 170

Ok I was on youtube last night and I saw people with disgusting hanging skin after vsg. I don't think I realized this could happen to me. I knew that my belly might hang a little but actually seeing the extent it could go to made me feel like I should have thought twice before my surgery last month. SOOO, my question is, is there anybody out there who started around my weight 244 and does not have immense hanging skin? Or if you do... how bad is it? Any tips so I can avoid this? Because I'm 26 will I be ok? Pics and posts would really help.

I would love to be a sexy thick girl when I am done. Probaby somewhere between 150-160 would be great! I think that if I get there I won't have too much.... I am praying!!!!!!!

I had my surgery th 25 of april. I am feeling remorse I say 55% of the time. This truly sucks. I feel lik ****. I was in better shape before I started losing weight. I am always tired. I can't do anything. I can'tg excersize, and I can't enjoy meals with my family. I need some encouragement but I just don't know what to do.

Yes,but it happened after only a week!!! I can't fit any of my shoes and I was not prepared for this. I liked my shoes However, if I go down to an 8 instead of the 9.5I was wearing I will stop complaining because atleast it will be easier to find shoes.

I am 12 days po and I need a drink. My husband is annoying and although I am not really a drinker... the low sugar skinny margarita in the cabinet is looking very tempting. How long did u wait to have a drink?

I just realized that this lemonade slurpie I just ate had no protein and as much caffiene as 4 cups of coffee. It was so delicious... I am so upset I just assumed it was goods for me since I was sugar free. Smh What's the problem with caffiene? Why can't we have it?

Well I eat little things already once a day that are cheating. But I mostly have protein shakes, gatorade, yogurt, water, and the things I cheat with are bites of chicken, 2 or 3 noodles, etc... I chew like 50 times. I may be crazy but the drinks and yogurt make my sleeve hurt but the real food I cheat with always goes down perfectly fine. Hmm. I'm 9 days out

U guys are right. A week ago b4 surgery when I would hear about people cheating even a yar out I just thought they were sooo stupid. But now that I am actually in the thick of of all. Just getting out the hosiptal today surviving on purely chicken broth and jello... I just feel like I need a better menu selection. I don't think I know what to eat and I hate this feeling of hunger but no room. I would be ok if it was the soft stage... but I feel like I'll never get there. What is week 2 like realistically as far as what u can eat?

What were you eating a week out out from surgery?

I have been in the hospital since my surgery Wednesday morning. This really sucks. I hate this feeling. I left Thursday afternoon but had a terrible emergency room experience a few hours later. I know I won't regret this in a few weeks... but today I wish I would have just bought some sensa or nutrisystem. Anyways, I'm drfting off on the painkillers. Ttyl.

55% health 30% vanity 15% other advantages of being smaller such as job seeking, activities, etc.

Good job. WHen did u have ur surgery?

I am sending the this link to my family that I have not told. But all of you in the VST are welcome to read my story. This picture was taken last week. Before it’s too late Dear family, I hope that you won’t consider me a cheater, talk behind my back, and tell everybody. I hope that you will instead congratulate my hard work that will come from exercising, dietary changes, and commitment to a healthier me. To be honest I thought about never telling you but because I love you and I hope you will support me I want to tell you how my life will change April 25th and why. My name is _______ and I suffer from the disease of Morbid Obesity. Yes, morbid meaning if I don’t lose weight I will most likely die of a complication due to my excess pounds. I have been overweight my entire life. All I want is one chance at a normal body and there is nothing in this world that would allow me to ever gain this death that surrounds my bones again. The thought of some people is how can you call fat a disease? Well heavy smokers call it lung cancer and there are a host of other diseases that we, in some ways, inflict on ourselves… but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have surgeries and get treatments for it. Almost 9 months ago I woke up and couldn’t walk because of my knee. This lasted for about 3 days. After going to my knee doctor he said I needed to either get a knee replacement or suggested I consider bariatric surgery. After meeting with my primary care doctor, a nutritionist, a bariatric surgeon, and a psychiatrist I decided I would start the 6 month process. The never-ending pain in my knees, ankles and feet and arising health issues made me start the education process in August. However, it was the tumor on my pituitary gland that may be the culprit of my headaches and inability to lose weight that made me sign of the dotted line. It took me 13 years of dieting for me to realize that I am not going to lose this weight alone. I yo-yo and end up gaining instead of losing pounds. Changing the way I eat and exercise alone will not allow me to lose the weight I need to. So, no, I am not getting gastric bypass or lap-band but rather a Sleeve Gastrectomy. This surgery will cut off the wildly overstretched part of my stomach and make it smaller and therefore also remove the gherelin. Although I will lose weight… it’s up to me how much and if I will maintain it. Some may wonder why I would want to get the surgery since I am "not that fat" according to the black community or "still sexy" according to myself and others. But let's be honest... I'm 26 years old and 245 pounds- and this is not my heaviest. Losing weight is not just cosmetic for me. As a morbidly obese woman I have trouble walking because of the stress on my arthritic knee. I have migraines. I have an irregular period. I have a lot of facial hair due to the hormones produced from being obese. My pants often dig into my stomach to the point I become light headed... and this is when I wear my size but my stomach protrudes immensely. I break chairs, beds, and hammocks. I feel embarrassed to dance because I am jiggling in the wrong places (lol). I laugh at my pain and exude an overconfidence to cover up my inner insecurities. I have been able to fit my mother’s hand-me-downs since I was 11. I’m tired of being ((insert compliment here)) for a fat girl. I also am tired of facing the discrimination that I get in the world for being a big black woman. I want to live a life that isn’t suffocated by layers of fat and cellulose. I want to walk without getting out of breath and being in pain. I want to be carried over the threshold. And most of all… I don’t want to die. So, please if you love me… don’t discredit my efforts by telling the world about my personal decision to have surgery. This is only between me and very few people I am sharing this with. Please support me and be there for me while I continue with this journey. A year from now I will be about 150 pounds and healthy… see you on the losers bench J http://www.endocrineweb.com/conditions/pituitary-tumors/pituitary-tumor-symptoms

Thank you all for your encouraging words. So far, so good with my family. I can tell it's mixed feelings with most of them but I ask confident it'll ask work out. Wednesday is coming so soon!

This is a great post for me as well. I don;t have the money to go on shopping sprees and I was wondering what to do about clothes. Thanks ladies :-)