DianaDominate

So I know this is really weird. I have been craving all kinds of food like crazy since my surgery on Thursday. At one point I was in so much pain and my mom was sad and looked at me and asked "do you regret getting surgery" and I was in the middle of an emotional breakdown in pain at the hospital and I told her "no". For the first time in a long time I admitted out loud, to myself, my family and my boyfriend why I would get so emotional and angry when it came to food. For example if they messed up an order I would flip shit. If food wasn’t cooked the way I like it, I would flip. I literally felt that as soon as I would take a bit of something delicious it would make me so happy. My boyfriend would always tell me to calm down we can reorder or its just cheese they forgot we have some at home. Now since I had the surgery, well obviously I can’t eat anything...but my family has been really supportive of my surgery take care of me and have been eating soups everyday so they can support me...or if they dont want to eat that they dont eat around me so im not tempted. I am so hungry and I want anything I don’t care what it is I want food so I started making my family eat around me. I explained to my family what gastric bypass ment to me and why I chose not to lose weight without it. It’s hard for anyone who isn’t a "fat kid" to understand. I was seriously addicted to food. Before surgery I started making the changes mentally and learning about healthy food. I come from a Hispanic family so the main stuff in my diet is cheese, sour cream, rice, tortillas and beans. I sat with my boyfriend because he was so upset I had gastric bypass because he didn’t understand why we couldn’t just work out and eat healthy (he didn’t want to see me go through surgery and feel helpless). I explained why I flipped out all those times. He then nodded and said I will make sure to help you by talking about food and eating what you eat (not that he never supported me; he is incredibly supportive but now has a deeper understanding for my decision). So now after surgery and between lying in bed/walking/sitting in chairs in hospital room I have made myself stronger and will never let myself forget the pain or time or money I have put into this surgery. I will continue to make healthy choices from now on and not let me be in that place I was at. SO after all this pre-ramble stuff... I have been making my bf and parents eat in front of me and I will smell all the food. They feel terrible but as I’m watching them eat and helping them cooked. I think about all the stuff that’s on the food/how it was cooked/how many calories/ I break it down. It smells good but that’s all it is now. If I’m craving something I make my bf eat it in front of me and I watch him as he eats it (creepy I know but I explained) and I will listen to the crunching sounds and the way he enjoys it and how good it smells. Then I break it down. Slowly in a weird way I’m battling my "addiction" an training myself ok if I take a little bite of that...I already feel like shit im gonna feel like more shit and probably throw up. Then I think naa I don’t wana throw up. I’ve been through enough the past 5 days. So instead I make a list of everything I crave and search alternative ways of cooking the same dish so that it’s RNY friendly. So that’s my randomness on it.

I know i have seen this advice somewhere but i thought maybe yall who have had this surgery can let us know what you think is good to bring to hospital..maybe you went home and did something wrong or forgot something or could of done something different. Please suggest

awe thank you! thats what i was worried about over packing. also i didnt want to bring electronics that i wasnt going to be awake for. lol. How many days do you stay for? my bf wants to stay the night with me and they told us he could. Should he bring like a pillow and blanket?

girl thats all you can do. learn from it and move forward. I know its a lot easier for me to say that then to do it. just when u feel like eating or cheating think back at how you feel right now and think about how hard you have worked.

I was planning on the Sleeve and felt prepared for it and when i switch doctors they explained a whole different world to me compared to my first doctor ( my first doctor didnt say much showed a bunch of numbers on slides and i pretty much googled everythign else) my doctor now out of experiance and honesty suggested RNY and i was scared at first but i have been reading up on it feel a little bit better, but i understand ur feeling. I think i mentally, emotionally prepared for sleeve and now i am starting over in a short period. Hopefully ill have surgery at the end of this month im waiting to hear back from insurance!!

its crazy cause i dont even cheat cause im hungry. i think i am just an emotional eater. The good thing is i didnt cheat by scarfing down a burger. I ate fish that was lightly breaded or something small. lol. I think the first two days are so hard because your fighting hunger/ your body flippin out/ and your bad habbits. Then it gets wayyyy easier... anyone reading whose going to do the liquid diet. just because you stuck to your diet the first few days dont cheat!!!!!! it will set you back and everyday will feel like the first two days. it does get easier.

im not the kind of person who drinks a lot. I only drink something when i eat and since ive "trained" myself to stop doing that i am finding it so hard to stay on my liquid diet. im only down 3lbs and i need 10 more to go so i can get surgery in 2 weeks...ugh. i know i should stick to it but its so hard. ive beenon the liquid diet 1 week already but cheated 3 times and felt so guilty after.. idc what people say i think being addicted to food is a real addiction.

I as well have UHC and I was excited to start my process for getting approved..so i started in jan and i had only a bmi of 38 after all my pre req they submitted my info it took about 3 weeks to hear back from uhc and they approved me. I had sched my surgery for a month and a half later..i had to organize my affairs.THEN when i was calling my doc and hospital to see what the fees were going to be (because i want to pay everything out of pocket so that i dont owe anything) i was looking for an exact amount. COME TO FIND OUT my insurance "accidently" approved me and "thank god" we caught it in time. I was so angry i had already planned everything out it was 2 weeks before my surgery and then they tell me they are canceling everything and i have to actually visit a dietician for 3 months before they can approve my surgery.. I was so flippin furious. HOW CAN AN INSURANCE do that to me. Its so stupid. Can you imagine i walk in the day of surgery ive been waiting for so many years to get. then they tell me oops my bad in 3 months. ugh just be safe and be careful. Make sure everything is good to go!! I didnt take the news lightly so i know how devestatin it can be.

Don't worry they asked me for a 5 year weight history and I only recently had a bmi of 40 or higher and I just got approved!