I only want to say, please don't think you are doing anything like this for your kids. I was married for 35 years before I divorced my ex husband. By that time, my kids were grown and damaged from watching the abuse. (no physical) I stayed because I did not have to work. I should have divorced him years ago. I wasted so many years thinking I loved him. I am remarried and if I had stayed with him longer, I would have missed this blessing.