Jennifur

You guys are all wonderful and have such good ideas how to deal with this party situation. I'll keep you posted as we progress. My mom is moving back here by the end of June, maybe I should just put the party off a couple weeks until she gets here

Yes, and I was beingk kind when I vented, trying to take the nice way to say I thought she was going to help but was not going to force her dd to help. I can't do it all and I think that is what is frustrating to me. I have hard labor to do and I can't, and this is final week so I have to spend the day doing homework. Going to do it outside to get some fresh air.

Jennifer Thank you and it is so true. I have been so tapped financially that I have not been going to my head dr. I think I need to make an appt. We had come so far - but my issues with her were to work on me and my self confidence and me not being the care giver to everyone around me. Everyone - please pray for me or send me good vibes, I interviewed at the perfect place the other day and should hear the beginning of this week, I don't want to work at home depot and I have a job there as a back up, and really want the job I went for at dbf's company - and no - he still doesn't know i was there

OK here is another thing I could use some advice on In Feb, my daughter and her bff have decided that they wanted to have a joint bday party in June, between the 2 birthdays and warm enough to open the pool, we have a dj and outdoor fun. At the time they both said they would help rake the yard and get it ready for the party. Well needless to say, my daughter has been out the last 3 weekends helping me with yard work and nothing from her friend, who is one of the neighbor kids out playing while she is working. What do I do, at this point I don't want to hold a joint party and be doing all the work alone. I also don't want to be raking and decorating the yard the weekend before either and just don't see how that should be fair. This is a friendship thing between her mother and I and the girls and I don't want this stupid party to wreck it.

OK so here is the thought of the day. My friends have been great as far as helping with my children, but I feel like they can't deal with me anymore.....one of my best friends has been really sick and is a basket case, i am trying really hard to be there, i sat by her side for weeks and have driven her to appts and everything. But here is the problem, if i vent about anything she seems to be turning things around and making me feel like shit! sorry, no other way to put it. The other thing is, I don't think they know how to deal with me, I went to a bbq last night and did fine, I ate before I went so I didn't care that everyone was eating, but they are all drinking and eating and I can't do either, so I feel very very left out and like they don't know how to treat me. so for an example, My daughter is gounded - mostly because she has forgotten that she has chores and responsibilities when she gets home and IF she does them she just throws stuff all over, such as dishes, and my sons cabinet with his plastic cups and stuff EVERYTHING came flying out at me last night, (which is why punished today) All the other kids in the neignborhood are all out playing and have very little responsibility, and I feel bad, but she needs to remember how things work here! Is anyone else experiencing any situations like this? It is really making me sad, I feel like I'm excluded from lots of things and just anoying everyone with everything.

Terry I thought the interview went great, I will find out in the beginning of the week. If all else fails, I have a job at Home Depot, not great pay but more than unemployment and it is a job until the perfect thing comes along. I just have a great feeling that railroad is going to call and offer me the job so I won't have to go. So how is this, I went to do my drug test this am and I got there and couldn't pee.... so home I am to meet the mouse people and then back to try and pee again.

Terry I thought the interview went great, I will find out in the beginning of the week. If all else fails, I have a job at Home Depot, not great pay but more than unemployment and it is a job until the perfect thing comes along. I just have a great feeling that railroad is going to call and offer me the job so I won't have to go. So how is this, I went to do my drug test this am and I got there and couldn't pee.... so home I am to meet the mouse people and then back to try and pee again.

Terri Congrats. I am again stuck but major bloating and cramps this am - so i hope that is part of if. I will have a breakdown if I stay at this point until June 28th, when my next follow up visit is. I am so glad to see that a fill helped you. Just think in a day or so you can say you are under 200!!!!

Terry that is fantastic, I still have lots of restriction, only ate 1 egg today and some 3oz baked ricotta and 1/2 cup of chili,... I am afraid of bandster hell, my dr doesn't want me back for another appt for 8 weeks and then discuss a fill at that time. that is 11 weeks after surgery with no fill. Is this possible? I don't think it will be done that day either, I will need to go back from what i understand. I am afraid of going 8 weeks that seems so long. I am 1 week on soft food today and hope I can continue to stay on them as long as possible so I can survive the 8 weeks and still loose weight.

I have one in my kitchen right now too... LOL ok not so funny, I just called my exterminator and freaked out, which seems to be an every other week thing. It is insane, they were suppose to call me this week and didn't so now I'm calling on a friday night screaming yet again.

I have been eating salsa and spicy chili with no problems. not as hot as I would like it but i'm working up to that, I wanted to make sure. What great information everyone has, I was thinking, it is so funny, before banding, we all or most of us, had different issues, what, why how, omg i'm never going to be able to have......... again. Well now we are all on the other side and there are new issues... i'm hungry, can eat anything, not pooping. LOL This was my thought last night, we knew what we were in for when we signed up for this... and it is great... and in the short time of a month, have still lost more than we would have working our tails off. Slow and steady wins the race! That is why we choose the band - right? I know personally I feel better, look better and even starting to like myself a little again, so how can that be bad? I am down 20 of the 80lbs I wanted to lose after surgery, so 60 left, small goals. I hope everyone is having a great day. It is all good and what a better time of year to be banded, APRIL, the beginning of spring where we can get out side and get fresh air! HUGS

Pamela, got any good easy salsa I can make, I love the stuff and put it in everything. Just had an omlet with some

WOW that is a long time. I am actually ok with it for the moment LOL, other than pms I have been loosing and hey, that will just give my body time to catch up with the rapid weight loss

sorry computer freaked. 6 WEEKS! Can you stand it, so on June 28 I go for my next visit to discuss a fill. that is 9 weeks total, that just seems insane but they said some people can go longer than others and if it gets bad to call and discuss. I just don't get it, my friend is getting a fill at 6 weeks so I thought that would be my next appt. Although we have had different issues,, it still seems like so far away

Michelle - that is funny, I had Starbucks coffee every day for month before surgery, venti iced carmel machiatto (SP) skim milk and no extra sugar.........mmmmmmmmmmmm would i love one now Pamela - Congrats, 3 jobs, man I can't even get 1 LOL So today I went for my 1st follow up and guess what, they were so impressed that i was eating 4 small meals (between 1/4 cup and 1/2 cup of anything) they scheduled my next appt for 6WEEKS!

Thank you, today is the beginning of that time of month so I feel horrible, but I guess I know I'm better than I was. I went to my Dr. today andhe said 1 month no lifting no heavy exercise, keep walking. As for food, i ate the mix from stuffed shells and sauce baked, 3tbs total mixed, eggs with salsa & cheese and 2tbs refried beans with salsa and cheese. and water, inbetween had 20oz water bottle to make sure i got my fill. I made healthy chili yesterday and had 1/2 cup with cheese and today my dr told me I can have tuna and chicken so i'm having tuna salad right now

That just hits the nail on the head! I feel so comfortable getting some of my feeling out here because no judgement and actually feel like at least 1 of you might be feeling the same way

Well ladies, I had the same problem, as I was gaining weight I didn't want dbf near me and just lost it all, and we were very healthy, since I have been loosing, I am getting to the point where i am complaining we don't have enough. OH WAIT, he would have to show up.. LOL only kidding. I am so excited, I just keep loosing and loosing. It stopped for a week while on liquids but picked right back up. I need to get my weights out and start working on my arms. I've lost 2 inches there and that is not going to be good! I did my measurements today too.. Lost 13.5 inches since 1 week post op when I took them! This is so hard to believe since It took months to lose the 20lbs on my own!

I hate runnyy eggs, so i put salsa in mine so i could cook them a little more with a drop of cheese, they tasted so much better and didn't have any issues. now when I tried to make an omlet with the same stuff that didn't work so well.... Just incase you didn't think of something like that

I should get my fill appt tomorrow when I go in for my first visit. I am going to assume in 4 weeks or the 1st of June so I just got a call, I don't know if the job is going to work but I have another interview tomorrow morning. The funny thing is it is at dbf's job, no where near him or nothing to do with what he does, but still there. Wouldn't that be interesting. Oh the update with him, he is back to work as of past Sat.( after his motorcycle accident last october) Things are getting much better and we talked, he was just extremely stressed about work or not working and military and what he is going to do so he backed off. Oh well, what ever, I have already put the wall back up to protect myself from getting hurt, I just hope it works out because i do love him. He has no idea I even applied there!!!!!

Tracy, I did the same thing with water last week when I was still on clear liquids, I wanted to die. From chugging water. I can now drink water a bit faster than I was but carefull not to ever feel that way again.

Morning everyone- I am starting to get to the point where I am hungry 4 times a day, still having very small portions, few tbs, but what comes next? increase portion size? then bandsters hell? I hope to have my fill appt tomorrow but it won't be until June 1 - at least. I am doing well, I am back to loosing - 4lbs since saturday when I started adding food in and it is that time of the month - and typically i'm good for 5lbs with that. My chili is still cooking in the crock pot and it smells so good, I left to bring my son to the sitter and go to my first class and when i walked in ... YUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM I don't think i should cook like that, because that is just head hunger. Here is the question of the day - what about coffee, I was told decaf only - is there a real reason for this? I am dying - I really depend on that and was fine when I didn't have to get up and get moving, but I am finding this week now that i'm back to where i need to be I am exhausted and just want 1 cup.

I am still ok with my meals and 3tbs - but i find at times i need a snack. Chili, yum that sounded so good i just made some, diet addition but still good, i had to try some 3cans black beans 2 sm cans of chilis turkey sausage cut into bite size pcs (old bite size) 1 can of sauce (chunky tomatoe) lots of chili powder pepper It is really good, spicy now and has only been cooking for a few hrs, so i'm sure i'll be on fire when it is done

I love refried beans too, I just ate my first big meal, 2 eggs and a tbl of cottage cheese. I'm full but I was starving when I made it. So for refried beans - which i'm only eating 2 tbs at a meal, I took a can of fat free refried beans mixed with salsa and some 2% cheese and put in containers so i can just grab and warm up and go. they are great! anyway, just a thought, I am on a budget so taco bell is out for me, plus i love everything there and don't know if I could resist