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I'm new here. I'm 31, 5 ft tall, and over 100 lbs overweight. I feel self-concious, when I registered for my orientation, the employee looked at me and said, "others are going to look at you and think you don't belong here." Um, thanks? I meet all requirement, BMI over 40, recently diagnosed as a diabetic, on metformin and I have auto-immune hashimotos thyroiditis. I'm doing this alone now... My husband was originally supportive, but now he tells me that I'm doing this dradtic thing, over-reacting and its unnecessary. If I wanted to lose weight, I just need to eat less, right? And of course, once I have this done, I can't eat my snack of Cereal. I'm not quite sure while he thinks cereal is important to me, but whatever. I've had my psych shall and passed, and attended the orientation today. I have my consult with the surgeon and appt with the dietician on 3/29. I'm really excited, I hope to get things moving fast. I've lost 4 lbs in the last couple of months, simply by going to a gluten-free diet (because hof the hashimotos). Last week, I started going to the gym twice a week and I bought an elliptical to use at home. I estimate that ill have to lose approx 20 lbs, so hopefully it will be easily attainable. Does anyone have any pointers? I'd like to say I have support... I have two friends whom I can talk to, bit they've never btdt. Will I be allowed to drive home from the hospital? It requires an overnight stay, so I'll be over the anesthesia, bit I don't know if they will let me leave solo. At this point, I just can't count on my husband. This is all over the place, so if you've followed me, thanks.

I'm in Manteca, CA. But, my surgery will take place at Kaiser in Fremont, CA.

Sorry for posting so close together, but I've been doing some research. I don't know why it took me so long to figure out the obvious. I can take a cab from the hospital to the BART station ( a few miles), where I can take the ACE rail train to my town. Then I can take a cab to my house, just a few miles away. I would think it should cost me under $50, not bad - and I don't have to worry about people flaking out on me.

Thank you everyone. I had my consult with the surgeon, appointment with the dietitian and meeting with the surgery coordinator to be given my list of "to-do's". My doc is on board, willing to do the sleeve, though he has more experience with the bypass. Still, his personal success rate is fantastic, not to mention Kaiser's overall averages. The dietitian was impressed with my diet thus far, though I still have a way to go. Because I'm gluten free, I am limited on the amount of "junk" I can eat, though my portions are distorted still. I went to my appointments alone. When I got home, my husband didn't ask about my appointments. He still hasn't, five days later. I've come to the conclusion that I'm going to be going through this alone. I have three friends I've confided in about this journey, two of whom live out of state and the other always says she'll be there, but when it comes down to it, she isn't. Because my surgery is an hour and a half away from home, I won't be able to hire a driver. I'm not sure what I'll do - I may end up having to talk to my doctor about it and seeing what my options are. I suppose I could do public transportation, like buses and BART - but then, it's only going to get me as far as 40 minutes from home. I'm not going to let this discourage me, but I won't lie - it makes me sad. I honestly don't think he's concerned about me, you'd have to know him to understand. A little over a year ago, I had an open biopsy for a lump on my breast. The doctor ended up needing to remove more tissue than originally planned, so the surgery took longer than she thought. When my husband came in the recovery room to help me get dressed, he was extremely irritated and pissy with me, because it took longer than he was told it would. I think it's all an extreme inconvenience for him and it's a shame. Again, I'm sad, but it won't discourage me. I will figure it out, I just need time to think about it.

Hey I'm new here, but I'm in Manteca and I'm going through Fremont Kaiser. My surgeon will be Sanjoy Dutta. I was hoping to get the doc who did our orientation, but he was booked out through June. I hear they are all fabulous. Does anyone have any experience with him or the other surgeons? I only have the consultation scheduled (already passed the psych appt) for the 29th.