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I personally would not recommend ramen noodle, but once you are cleared for the full diet stage (around 8 weeks post-op) you should be able to test it out. But keep in mind it does not carry much nutritional value.

I too have seen some look older. I myself feel as though I look younger. But in addition to looking older, I have also noticed some who look sickly. This can also be mistaken for looking older. To decrease a sickly look, make sure you get proper exercise, vitamins/nutrients!

First off, dude making drugs in the house is a major red flag! Keep your eyes open. That being said, most guys who read this will also ask, how long have you denied your husband marital relations? Keep in mind, he does have physical needs too. So at this point, he's probably desperate, which results in desperate measures, thus the sneaking around. He may even feel left out or like a non-factor. You're getting yours, but he's not getting his. That's a little selfish. And, that can play on anyone's mental. However, if you have not denied him and are just having a personal moment, that's different. He needs to back the hell up! Everyone needs their own space! And by no means should he ever videotape you without your consent! WTH!! In addition, without living in your shoes it's difficult to understand your mental and emotional state. Not to mention the fact that post VST patients are known to have a change in sexual desire. At least during the initial transition as they learn to identify with their new reflection. Some increase activity and some decrease. But the bottom line is, you have to figure out what it is you want. If that does not include your husband, then you should make it known. If you do want your husband, then maybe you guys need that counsel! Just make sure that all of this is not a result of the new attention that you may be receiving from other men now that you are losing weight! Or that your new social or physical status and/or desire is now above your husband's status! Meaning, he's no longer good enough.

Yep... constipation it is. Milk of Magnesia has helped me out of a few "jams" LOL!

That is exceptional! I'm sure you had to work out to reach such heights!

Thanks for sharing

I'm inclined to believe that we all agree with points 1-3. Nonetheless, the reason why you're receiving these responses is not solely because of what you said. But also because of the method in which it was delivered. So in conclusion, you're right... but you're also wrong at the same time, which negates your intention. Trust me... I know. Such is life. SMH!

I'm hopeful that you are feeling better by now and back on track. But really, you should definitely refocus your views on food. The tongue and the mind are very strong, but your dedication to yourself needs to be stronger! Hot dogs do not carry much nutritional value, so I would consider limiting them to almost never when you begin to introduce solids. Food should be viewed as fuel... nothing more. If you give your body the proper fuel, it will respond in a desirable fashion (e.g., weight loss, muscle gain). Please, I implore you, do not make food your social/emotional focus. If you, are will be fighting a losing battle. You've undergone a major surgery for a reason. I'm certain that reason is not to eat poorly, ultimately finding yourself right back where you started. I pray God's strength replace your weakness! And that you find yourself successful in the venture... beautiful and happy!

A friend of mine has severe bone issue and is unable to do anything high impact. WIth that said, he tends to stick with swimming pool erobics. Very low impact but still affective. Some gyms actually offer workout classes. Check it out!

Are you serious? He'll regret it once you reach your weight goal. You have a beautiful face. Believe me... he'll regret it!

Hey desertmom, We all stall from time to time. Some months have more stalls than others. It's just the body putting itself in starvation mode. This is normal for anyone who has lost weight rapidly. If you're worried about it, try to up your workout. Change something... increase intensity or length of workout. And by all means, try not to daily the scale. decrease your weigh-in to nothing more than once a week. Once bi-weekly is even better. Put the scale up somewhere until it's time to weigh yourself. If you leave it in an easy access area, you'll step on it every chance you get.