ladybug390

at this point (still fat) if a guy talks to me when im out at a bar or somewhere with my friends im always very controlled to not look flattered because im convinced that his friends are somewhere within eyeshot laughing. maybe im paranoid but i wonder if that attitude will ever go away...always first assuming that any attention i get is some kind of joke. i bet it will take a long long time to let my guard down.

I can't believe anyone who claims to be a professional in the medical world wether or not he is a surgeon would write such a childish and innappropriate letter. Not to mention completely unprofessional- can't even spell the medication he accused you of abusing (xanax). No surgery center owner in this country i'm sure would spend their time writing a post like this- most would have their lawyer discreetly take care of the situation. Looks like somebody is a little worried their scam has been exposed on this site and sees the gravy train derailing. Also, I have taken a number of media law classes and I am really wondering what grounds he threatened to sue under.

I can relate too, i have even wondered myself if i took the easy way out until the first night after surgery...its painful...more than i thought it would be...then i really changed my mind about the easy way out when i was using every ounce of willpower i had to only drink Water and broth for 2 weeks...NOT EASY...and then...just because you cant physically eat a hamburger doesn't mean you dont want one just as much as you did before the band, so theres still so much willpower involved. not easy, not cheap, but totally totally totally worth it. your mom is definitely having some jealousy issues coming out wether she wants to admit it or even realizes it. 2 years from now when you are feeling wonderful and beautiful and healthy hopefully you wont consider what your mom's opinions are and just enjoy life like you always wanted. oachita- so hilarious...imagine if people really did extend their biases and ill informed opinions about obesity to other diseases. it totally illustrates how ignorant people are...

This may have already been answered earlier...but I've been hoping that since i had my surgery at 21 and haven't had any kids, that the whole extra skin tummy tuck needing thing won't happen to me...the fact that i have at least one olsen twin to shed isnt too promising....anyone lost a bunch of weight already and have some news on this? Also, this is random but i am SO TIRED of having like 3 outfits to choose from in the ladies' plus section of old navy ...i cant wait to be able to shop in a normal store like the gap and not have everyone assume i'm there for a scarf or something..heh. (although i probably am...)

after i first saw this thread i thought...i cant think of anything mean people have said...but after reading the posts i realized that i can relate to almost every single one. boy was i wrong-- once in high school my tall blonde skinny friend told me i was LUCKY because if a guy ever liked me i would definitely know it was because of my personality...if she wanted to get a guy shed have to walk around in a bikini.... yeah totally true...being disgusting really comes in handy for attracting people with my personality....i just sat there trying to decide if she was just dumb or really really mean. probably a healthy mixture of both... Also, i totally agree that sometimes its what isnt said that hurts- my boyfriend of 3 years (that just recently dumped me) NEVER ONCE ever...said i was pretty or i looked nice or anything. i was smart, and funny. the staples of a fat girl, but never pretty. that sucks. and finally....my friend was trying to pay me a "compliment"...i guess..."lindsey you are pretty, do you know that? you are...really....you are pretty do you believe that?? he was really trying to convince me like i was just some freak of nature .....um...yeah...i never really thought i was ugly..but thanks for thinking that i needed to be convinced. ouch. oh yeah and one from home- one day i had let my hair go curly and hadn't put on my contacts...sitting around the house in my glasses and curly hair when my dad said ...wow...you look JUST LIKE mikey from american choppers. i had never seen the show and was offended that i looked like someone called Mikey (a guy) but after i looked it up to see what he looked like i just started crying. i look exactly like him...really? dont even have blond hair...must just be the fatness and curly hair and glasses that makes up an EXACT resemblance...that really hurt. (hahah oh yeah and since when do i have a beard....?)

What i'm curious about is wether or not you can sue a surgeon from another country, be it mexico, australia, or wherever for malpractice if their negligence led to something bad happening to you? I'm sure there are wonderful doctors everywhere as well as careless ones everywhere, but i wonder if you have the same rights going out of the country for medical services as you do here. (not that everyone who gets an infection gets it because of negligence...just wondering about malpractice specifically)

i have been wondering about this too, because im the maid of honor in a wedding this summer and was hoping to not look like a giant ghost...i remember my sisters surgeon from another operation told her that even in clothes, the uv rays can reach your scars, so you are better off to apply sunscreen only to your scars (once they are healed enough totake it) every day even in clothes, and im sure especially in the tanning booth. unfortunately this will call even more attention to them, but the way i see it is if anyone is going to be seeing my highlighted scars, they probably already know about them. im not an expert or anything, but just trying to regurgitate what i remember from years ago...good luck!

i had my surgery on the 19th too, and i never really sat and considered how hard 2 weeks of clear liquids would be...2 weeks of living off water and sf jello...i never thought i would be able to do that in my whole life (and am still wondering..) on the one hand all i can think about is just one bite of mashed potatoes or cottage cheese, but on the other...i really really really dont want to mess up my band and make all this pain and money for nothing... who knows, by friday i may be emailing my nutritionist asking to graduate early...its really really tough. i totally relate.

I am supposed to have my surgery on the 19th (the first day of my spring break) but i have my appointment for the ekg, psyc,bloodwork, etc etc tomorrow...im mildly worried that there will be some reason to postpone it till summer which will break my heart. has this ever happened to anyone? also, im wondering if i will be ok to go back to class the next week...sitting in a desk isnt too strenuous but still. anybody know?

i havent had my surgery quite yet, and i was wondering if someone can clarify what "cant handle" exactly means. do you get sick, or is there pain, or is it just the carbs thing? im hoping that whole not caring about crappy-for-you food thing happens, i cant even imagine. haha. what an effective incentive to stay away from bread...

i have been thinking about this too, i have only told my parents and sister, and dont plan to tell anyone else. i know someone else who is planning to get banded and i overheard a friend call her "lazy" so i decided not to invite any opinions for myself. not only do i not want people asking me how much i've lost, but yeah i cant imagine everyone having this "i told you so" attitude if it fails. also, even if they arent asking, they are probably looking closer than if they didnt know, so i guess ill just continue to not tell anyone.

i am planning to have mine with dr. walton in edmond, and yeah the facilities are extremely nice, i cant wait to see how everything turns out. i have even heard from other surgeons not in his field about how talented he is, so i feel pretty confident about it.