brandymarie81

Oh honey I feel ya! I am still 23 days away from being sleeved and the ONLY family support I have is my cousins husband whom I normally cant stand! My grandparents (who raised me) are both deceased but if they were alive I KNOW that they would back me 100%. Honestly, the reason my other family members don't support me is because they are jealous. I don't even talk about it with them anymore and I have found that I really don't care to see or speak to them. They are my family, if they can't support me and be happy then forget them. In your case though, I would say to my mom that if she can't understand the reasons that you chose to have this particular surgery is so that you are healthy and will live longer to be around and raise the one child that you already have and the (insert your own number) children that you and your husband want to have in the future, and she can either like it or lump it but the surgery is over and done so they can't put your stomach back. Also, next time she says that she would have jumped in front of them as they wheeled you to the OR...tell her you had given them strict instructions to mow down ANYONE that got in the way! "Skinny" people will NEVER understand the issues that "Fat" people go through on a daily basis. Until they have walked a mile in a fat suit they can't truly understand the physical and emotional pain that most of us endure and even place on ourselves.

I actually started walking around my block in the evening and walking around my parking garage a few times at lunch. I also started eating better, smaller portions and occasionally I am even replacing a big meal with a protein shake or a yogurt. I know that it is helping already as I have been feeling MUCH better and may have lost a couple of pounds...but I am REFUSING to step onto the scale until my first OFFICIAL day of the preop diet.

That is AWESOME! Way to go!

Dr. Alanis in Houston has an all inclusive (except the crazy doctor) for $11700.00 I know you aren't in this area..but that was the best price I have found.

I think you are right about the circumference thing...lol.

I am just over 5'7" and I like my pants a bit longer...so I ALWAYS buy tall...then no matter the show I wear with them they are a good length!

TALL??? I may need to chat with you about your clothes when you shrink out of them!

oh you are SO right! she doesn't want to be the biggest person in the family...i mean...we are a portly group...don't get me wrong...but all of us are looking to do something about it... when she sees that i am successful in my journey then maybe she will try to do something about her weight... i have to do what will make me healthy and happy...because I want to raise my son and see him have kids of his own someday...and she can suck it! I am done trying to please everyone else...this journey is for me and my kid...noone else!

I am down! I will send you a pm with my address.

I may need these!! I won't be having surgery until 3/1 though...rough idea of how much it would cost to ship?

OMG!!! My aunt, who is at LEAST the same size as me, has been talking about doing WLS for years, then when I decide that I am moving forward and I tell her she goes off on this rant about how she would never do WLS...that if she can't do it on her own then she will just be fat. Then she starts telling me that I will have to change how and what I eat...that I can't have all the good stuff anymore...I was like, I eat more veggies and fruits than you do. Im not a fan of sugary items or breads...When it was only her that was going to the WLS it was the best thing EVER...but as soon as she might have some competition or something she wont do it...ANNOYING!

I am 5'7" and on last weigh in I weighed 446...Im set to be sleeved on 3/1/2012 and was curious if there were any aready sleeved people out there with my stats that might could direct me in what to expect...I have my own personal goals but I don't want to be disappointed if I don't meet them so before I get this procedure done I want to have an idea of what to expect.. Im going on an Alaskan cruise in September so I would LOVE to be 100 lbs lighter...think that is a good attainable goal???

I say we meet up tomorrow evening...that way those that live REALLY far away can actually have time to prepare and not have to sit through tons of traffic.

Im here, Im here! I need to lose 287...but would be happy with 240! I am getting sleeved on 3/1 and can't wait! I know it will be a long journey but it is one that I can't wait to officially start and know that I will finish! I have started replacing one meal with a protein shake already...mentally preparing myself for the preop diet...but in the end it will all be worth it!

Thanks! I have already started replacing one meal with a Protein shake...and have started walking during my lunch break...I am determined to be down 100 by September! My surgery is on 3/1! I SO CANT WAIT! My doctor said I only have to do a 10 day preop diet but I am doing a full 2 weeks! Thank you for offering to chat! I am sure I will be taking you up on it!

No, you are NOT crazy! I feel like I just read my life story. I am considerably larger that you were on your surgery day..heck....I am dreaming of the day that I weigh 261...I have always been the FAT child, the FAT teenager, the FAT adult. Kids in school would walk past me and sing that stupid 1-800-96-Jenny song from the Jenny Craig commercials. I have tried EVERY diet out there, pills, shots, drops, low calorie, no carb, Weight Watchers...I mean EVERYTHING. I would lose some...then gain it all back and then some. When I met my son's father, he was married, but he wanted me..I thought...wow..finally I have found someone that will love me even though I am HUGE. That didn't last long, I got pregnant, he cheated on me...we split up and I haven't been with anyone since. I focus my life on work and raising my son. I know that he loves me no matter what and doesn't care what I look like. He tells me Im pretty everyday. I am unfulfilled in my life though. I want to share my life with someone..I want to feel comfortable walking into a place with my friends and not have people staring at me and judging me. I take alot of my anger out on the world and those around me which then makes me feel like a crappy person...So yes I can relate...more than you will ever know.

Im having my surgery on a Thursday and going back the following Monday. I talked to my doctor about it and he said that since I have a desk job and I don't have to lift anything that I should be fine.

Amen! Thank you less of leslie!

I think all the supportive spouses will be super happy later on tonight! Congrats to them for supporting you guys and letting you make your own informed decisions!

Aww! Thanks!

It doesn't matter what her sister's health is like. EVERYONE is different! My best friend has a sister and they are on completely opposite ends of the weight scale. They are the EXACT same height however one has a slower metabolism. You can't compare people because they are from the same gene pool. I think maybe you should find out what her weight is, what her ideal weight should be, and now what her BMI is. As other posters stated, she has more than likely researched the hell out of her options because she KNOWS how overweight she is and she knows that even if she cut out all the bad stuff she would never get to where she should be or where she wants to be. Instead of looking at all the bad things try looking at all the postives and go to the PCP with her, then to the surgeon, go see the nut, go through all the steps WITH her instead of letting her think she has to do this alone. Then sit down after all the appointments and really TALK about all the options. Who knows, your insurance company may require a 6 month diet before hand and she may drop the weight that she wants and decide she doesn't need the surgery, but again, if she has already jumped to WLS then she is probably not going to change her mind. If you can't support your wife in something that she feels she needs to do to be healthier and be AROUND for YOUR FAMILY longer then maybe you should evaluate that.

I'm totally getting new boobs! It's going to be my reward for losing all the weight..I don't like the ones I have now so new ones for a new me it shall be!

Saturday Night would be better for me...but I can make friday work if that is the best day for everyone else....just let me know!

I say we shoot for bowling...we can all talk, laugh, and goof off...and excersise.

How about bowling imstead of a movie, that way we can talk and get to know each other?