bobbyekat

I am 25 months out from my banding. I am down 65# but need to pursue dropping the remaining 30# suggested on the BMI Charts. My exercise has been sporadic at best. I have a positive gift for hurting myself and having to recover. At first with my initial weight drop everything was so loose in my joints that I literally could hurt myself walking. It was so embarrassing. I got invited to participate on a CoEd Adult Softball team! Wow! I have not participated in team sports in 20 years. So I am excited, cautious, and nervous. I know I can only do my best. The team is a great mix of people doing this to 'move unnecessarily' or 'exercise'. I have the gloves and the first practice and batting cages went good. Day following my batting cage practice, I got blocked at a family dinner. It has been a long while since this has happened. It is not pleasant, it hurts, and I avoid it like the plague. It took about 10 minutes to work out leaving me feeling bruised above the band. I know a couple of days of liquids is the solution, but the following day was Valentines. Yeah all the right ingredients for consequences right? So I ate. I took my time. I chewed well. All seemed fine. Until after the meal when it felt like I was having muscle spasms above the band. No nausea or clearing just pain. I could feel the spasms with my hand on the spot. Now I am sore. Way sore. I am gonna stick to liquids and let everything in there quit being mad. Batting practice is tomorrow. I want to be all better now. But it is tender to breath deeply. I had the hernia fixed when they put the band in. When I have had the experiences where I get through with a 'blocked' episode soreness is typical with me. But this catching my breath is new and very uncomfortable and concerning. I do not want to make an unnecessary big deal out of this but I do not want to ignore a real problem either. So rather than yammering at the non-banded I felt I might find commiseration here.

It is a huge process! I am two years out now. Everything changed for me. However I did not trade in my partner. It was a regular conversation to focus our romance on our mutual respect and affection. Allowing the weight loss and the personal and social effects to be separate conversations. We have shared our lives for 15 years now. Yes weight is a personal issue for both of us, but it is not an excuse to be disagreeable. I have a responsibility to avoid the appearance of impropriety. I am trusted in my relationship. My partner needs to know regularly that I am here because I choose to be. I hope this helps out.