I don't want to focus on the cleaning but the marriage part. Have you talked to him about how you feel? Have you considered counseling? He has a new person he is married to and he may feel insecure or jealous of the person you have become. I am lucky that my weight loss has helped motivate my already beautful wife to get physically fit. Granted I started at 305 and her at 145 but either way we have taken this journey to health as a family journey. Please feel free to email and talk but I suggest you talk and be open to his feelings too. Good luck, praying for you