DynamoMini

Saturday, Nov 10 12:30pm Mare5569 DynamoMini (if Lap is coming) Tuesday, Nov 13 7pm Mare5569 DynamoMini Thanks Mare for taking this on. Lap are you going to be here on Saturday and willing to come to Red Robin to meet us again?

I have made a choice to meet with my band friends at Red Robin versus the meeting with Dr. K's daughter. I get psych support privately, and crave the user-friendly support of my band buddies at Red Robin. I'm concerned that if we keep changing the date everyone will become as confused as I am. I vote with Anita that the 2nd Tuesday has worked well and let people make up their mind which type of support works for them. Next, if people from out of town come in, I think an "extra" meeting would be a good way to go. Any other thoughts????? We meet at the Red Robin on Arapahoe Road, just west of I-25, it is easy to get to from both north and south. Don't worry we just find each other, altho' if we do it a long time, perhaps 'chubby' won't be the defining description. Yeah!!!

Okay - I am really mixed up about Red Robin. The reason we are going with the weekend is that Lap Dancer is supposed to be coming. But she hasn't posted recently -that I have read - Lap??? are you out there. Otherwise we usually meet the second Tuesday evening which worked for Drew. I hear you, Anita, about the long drive at night. I am available Friday night and at 12:30 on Saturday. You all decide. I'd love to see you. I miss you all. And would love to show off my tan before it all peels and fades away. Ha....ha I appreciate the discussion about the fill. I have a lot of questions about mine lately, as I am PBing more often, is it "old habits die hard?" "I am stupid....stupid.....stupid?" Or is it a case for an unfill? Mare - you did a great description. I think the party is over, I'm back from Margaretaville, finally got the son to get rid of the Halloween candy (that I don't seem to PB) and I am so facing my stuff! Yikes! Who am I as an eater? Before the band, I was either dieting or binging, and sometimes both. Will I be able to sustain a "normal, healthy" attitude and behavior towards food? I've been at this a long time. Anyway, someone decide on a date and time and I'll try to be there. Hugs, Michelle

Okay - Is there another time Mal, that we can meet? I can do Saturday at 12:30. Lap are you coming into town? When? It sounds like things are falling apart for Friday. M :omg:

Hi Everyone - glad to see a few new participants. I am having the hardest time reclaiming my "healthy lifestyle". I told my son to get rid of the candy by tonight or I will throw it out. I think all that drinking on vaca got my carbohydrates outta whack. I am starting to exercise again, that always helps. I think Friday night will work for me, so go for it! How many of you will be there? Struggling to get back on track, Michelle

:hippie:Yep - I'm back from the land of sun,:sun: surf and mosquitoes. I had a fabulous time, forgot all the sh_t around here, and just kicked back. I didn't eat awful, but drinking :beer:is another story. I promise myself not to weigh for a week, because I will be disappointed, and I am not a number.:violin: I walked at least two miles everyday in the sandy beach, went snorkeling, shopping and in general really enjoyed being "just me". I had several PB's when I'd forget about the choke collar around the neck and the "whatever" didn't go down. Torilla chips were something that I really had to chew. I can relate to the restaurant thing and Pb'ing. It is really uncomfortable, b:mad:ut what the f_ck, I doubt if anyone is really listening. However, third world bathrooms are a great deterent. I haven't figured out what to do when I am really hungry,:hungry: because I'm so used to shoveling it in to satisfy hunger, that I do and am sorry quickly. Thank God for alcohol. But I don't do that at home. :eyebrows: Sorry, no cabana boys, but this gorgeous gentleman came up and asked me if we had met before. I said no, but maybe I had a double and he said, "what a lucky world we live in, if that were true.":bounce: I about fell off my chair. Then he walked back to his wife. So, I think RR is a great idea when Lap is here. You guys figure out the date. I am subbing for the next two and a half weeks.:faint: Hugs, Michelle

LSzeliga - Congrats! Almost everyone in Colorado is from somewhere else. It is a wonderful place to live. Bye all of you, it is 8:43 and I am still doing laundry, my life.... Cabana boys - actually it is more likely we'll see them on trips to Playa, where we are is low key, lots of beach, walking, and I hope sun. Hugs, Michelle

green - do you think you might share a picture, even better, a before and after one???? Just nosy in Denver. Well ladies - I am off to Mexico for two wonderful weeks. Please wish me sunshine and great times. i am staying at a condo so I will be able to control the food better, but I love those marguaritas. Lots of walking in the sand and will try snorkeling if the water is clear. Hugs all, Michelle

BJean - right you are. When I compare myself and my eating with "normal" weight friends, I usually eat less and exercise more, yet am much heavier. I know it is calories in and calories out. But how come my ins have double the pow than my outs.

Woofay - Wow, you are really on the treadmill of life, and it doesn't sound like it is going anywhere, but you are slimming down by default. I'd take it. Mal - sorry I won't be there tonight. I have too many loose ends and my son is coming up from college to see me before I leave. I am gathering things to wear and stuff. I have so many sizes and nothing quite goes together. My weight loss has stalled, but i am sabotaging things by eating extra stuff at night. I am great all day, but really struggle in the evening hours. Like putting myself to bed with a bowl of cereal at 11:00 pm. I'd rather have a "honey" to go to bed with, but, now we are all in Woofay's kitchen. My friend whom I am traveling with, is bringing her computer so I may be able to keep in touch down in Mexico. I'll wriggle my toes in the sand for all of you. Be well, Michelle

Tied2BFit - Dee CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Yeah a date! I hope he will do it at your hospital, so you are surrounded by your friends. I think Monday eve is a long shot for me, unless I get really organized. I have had really full days teaching religious school both Saturday and Sunday and seeing my mom both days, really eats up my time. I also am commited to working out at least 45 minutes each day until I leave. And have a long list, of stuff to do. If I can free up any time I will run over to say hi, for a short time. Hugs to all, Michelle

Denise822 - I had trouble with thai food too. Especially the spring rolls (not fried). I do better with meat in a sauce. No rice or large chunks of anything. It was a sorry surprise, because I love those tastes. I had trouble with Thai shrimp and scallops just this week. I need to cut my fish up really small and chew, chew, chew.... Throwing up isn't as bad as having a mouthful of slime and pain in the chest. Yuck! Anyway if you don't have a special baseball team, root for the Rockies. They are playing Sunday night. It is amazing that no one was even that supportive until they became a winning team - I guess everyone loves a winner. Hugs to all of you, Michelle

Hi Everyone - Don't put me out on a siesta yet. I am here and happening until Tues am. However, my mind is going a mile a minute trying to get it all together. Jenifermarch - your timeline looked so familiar. yes, we can lose on a diet, but it all falls apart and then it is a terrible thing psychologically, emotionally and physically. I haven't been close to "perfect" on my band diet, but am taking measures to really change my lifestyle, and even under tremendous stress (yes, the binge eating reemerges) - but I have other positive things in place that pull me back into positive eating behaviors that save an extreme weight gain. In addition to my band I have a trainer, psychologist and until last week an acupuncturist, that I will go back to on an as needed basis. I am really under construction with marvelous positive people around me. It takes that for me to change, because the pattern has lasted for so many years (I'm 57). Hugs all, have wonderful weekends, Michelle

Hi all - Yes, ShelbiCallie - we do know each other on a deeper level than our friends on the street can ever know us. It is the common experience of being overweight in a society of "thin is in", our sharing the good and bad here, and our band decision that goes deep into our gut. It isn't about THEM, but about US. Mal - thanks for putting our mugs here. We do look thinner. Wow! Woofay - we'll see you soon, but you were missed. I hope the date we get for next month is established soon and someone else should organize it because I will be gone, maybe not able to compute for two weeks. Mal - Woofay -- Mare someone else please take over. Hugs to you all, Michelle

Hi Everyone - I hope I will personally be able to fill you in on the audit during our dinner at RR, but for those far away, the audit stunk! I wrote a letter of frustration and "itemized" the abusive statements that the auditor made to me. I feel so empowered. I have always been a "get along" type person, but damnit the gov't shouldn't hire such horrible people and then put them in a position of power. So I am glad I have taken a stand. enough said, whatever happens, it will be better than dealing with the crazy woman I met last Wednesday. Marcy - congrats on the restriction. Don't be surprised if you start mourning your new restricted ability to pile it on. It wasn't a bed of roses for me. Accepting the realities and extent of my food addiction has been a major step in my process. I felt angry at first, bereft for a while, then determinedly pushed food for a while, now I seem to understand that the "magic" wasn't in the food, and it never was in the food. Part of the learning process. That doesn't mean I don't reach for cookies or ice cream to sooth the beast under stress, but the food just doesn't really do it any more. Write about the process for you as it unfolds for you, I am interested. Hope to see many of you there tonight. For sure Mal and I will be there! Hugs all, Michelle

LadyHR - it does sound like you need an little unfill. I am surprised how sensitive we are to even .1 too much fill. A little out will ease things, you are doing a great job losing, so don't sweat it. You have to be able to drink water, etc.

Tied2BFit - sorry I mangled your name. Come join us, just realize it is at a different RR than you thought. Lap - Can't wait to see you next month. Hugs, sweetie.

Red Robin is one block west of the I25 and Arapahoe interchange. It is on Yosemite. (not the one by Park Meadows) 7 pm tomorrow night! Mal - you look so cool in those glasses. We should get a band together group for next year, but I really want the sun glasses otherwise I won't do it. I don't think I can run, but I can surely walk it. Woofay - can you arrange to be there? Drew - can you take off the skates for a minute and join us? Marilyn - can you come both nights? Fit2be - sorry I am not on the right screen to get your name perfect, but you know, please come. Hugs, Michelle

:car::car::car::car::car::car::car::car::car: Okay - So let's plan for the 9th and then if others want to plan for the 15th please do. Come one come all to Red Robin at 7 pm. We would like to see new faces and old. Please, out of towners organize a get together the next week, too. I may even get to come to that one too. Tuesday - October 9th at 7 pm Red Robin is located a block west on Arapahoe and I 25. Who can be there???? I know we all want to see Woofay's new hair. Mal, can you be there? Drews? Marilyn? Anyone else? :clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2::clap2:

Indio - Wow! It is great to get to a place where you are more fit and can go a little more. Good for you!! I am fooling around with my food to cope with my stresses, IRS audit that went terribly and my mom's neediness around a hip replacement. Both are undercontrol and I am taking charge again. Have a good Monday everyone! Michelle

valstar - I know just how it feels to "think" about being fat all my life. No one could ever offer me an incentive that worked to lose weight, which I have done at various times of my life, with varied amounts of success. It is a lot more that the physical side of things for me. This is a psychological, painful journey. I don't release the weight unless I release the thought pattern that put it there. Thank God for therapy, acupunture and at last I am working out 5 times a week. Most people, with this much intervention would be thin, but I am self defeating. It is so mental/emotional for me. It really isn't about the food. The food never really made me feel better, I just chose it as the vehicle to numb out. But I am not numb any more, nor can I stuff the way I used to, so I am here to face my music and be myself. Best wishes to you. Michelle

Let's plan on a date - I hear two of you from out of town want October 15, which is Monday. Drews can only make Tuesday. Woofay, what's this about not coming? Anyway I vote for the 9th as I am leaving for Mexico on the 16th. Now, there isn't any reason that people can't meet more often. How did I get stuck with this organizational job anyway? So - I need to hear back from you all and tell me what to do. :help::help::help::help::help::help::help::help: Michelle

Judie4800 - A PB is short for Productive Burp. Now I have had the many experiences with PB's I can say that they range from a little of what you ate comes back up, to a fist in the chest (like when a pill goes down sideways), to full out nausea and vomiting. Basically, it is the band telling you to stop doing what you are doing, whether it is gulping, not chewing enough or eating too fast. I have found that the PB's for me change and are sometimes unpredictable. I try not to take in air when I drink Water, etc. Bjean - I have had computer crashes that are unbelievable. I know we are supposed to back everything up, but I don't do it every day. let's keep in touch about PS surgergical sites. I will have to lose at least 60 more pounds before I consider it though. I try not to focus on my sagging neckline, which is hard when I exercise and have to look into a mirror. Maybe we can motivate ourselves with that as a goal. Green - glad the meds are working. The face has a ton of nerves and can be excrutiating. I learned this with my hand when I had a trauma with a table saw and amputated my middle finger and several tops off other fingers. The recovery on the middle finger area was nothing compared to the healing of the other fingers, which would be like your facial incisions. The tissue has to resettle and get reconnected and happy again. I hope I am as brave as you when we get right down to it. skinnydipping - I ended up being a self pay because I didn't have the $$$ to file suit with my insurance who categorically denies WLS. The world is bias against us - most don't understand that this is a disease not a choice. Good luck!!! Hugs to all of you - Michelle

Thanks for the support Mal - Red Robin - October 9th at 7 pm. Who can make it??????

Well in the continuing IRS saga, my accountant and I worked on a long letter "disallowing" the audit that occurred yesterday. He is sure we can get better treatment by an other auditor. Otherwise we will go to appeals, and I couldn't do any worse than I was going to come out with the B----. We cc'ed her boss, who was giving her all the second opinions, so my hope is that the boss will dump it on another auditing office. If not, like I said I can go to appeals. my eating was out of control for the last week, but is calming down as issues resolve. Do any of you know of a way to get an appraisal for donated books? We donated the entire first series of the Goosebump books (62) to the local elementary school. The auditor wanted to give us $.25, i thought $5 each, but they are much more on EBay and a complete set should be worth something. Are we going to RR on Tuesday at 7???