hi nancy-
you have every right to be upset. this is a very big decision and a very personal one at that. if you didnt feel comfortable sharing this with anyone yet he should have respected your wishes and kept his mouth shut. I just got banded about a week ago. only my parents and husband know- no one else. and i dont plan on telling anyone either. I feel ppl can be very judgemental eventho they have no right to be. this is something i did for myself, for my own future and health and its no ones damn business how i did it.
I hope you can talk to your husband and tell him how much this has upset you. Maybe(hopefully) he will understand and respect your wishes for the future.
Wish you much success on your new journey.