Fishersindy

thanks for the advice. I know that not being honest is the wrong approach, but I want to keep this private, atleast for now. My daughters (aged 16 & 18) are thrilled for me. When I told them about it, their reaction was one that I'd expect if I told them I won the lottery. My husband...not so much. I didn't even tell him that I was attending the seminar or that I was even CONSIDERING having the surgery until after I scheduled it. I knew that I wouldn't have the support, so I just felt better about doing those things alone. I actually didn't even TELL him anything until AFTER it was scheduled. Basically, after I scheduled it, I TOLD him that I WAS doing it with or without his support. I've never done anything like that before, but I felt strong enough to just tell him that's what I was doing! (I haven't worked for ten years (I stayed home with children), and during that time, I kind of lost myself). He says he's just "being realistic" but basically doesn't think I can do it. I asked him to join my "team" and be my cheerleader, but I don't expect that to happen. My surgeon does a webinar on youtube, and I sent my husband the link so that he could watch it. It's only about 30 minutes long, but it took him well over 24 hours to even open the email. I was so excited, and I sent him the link in an afternoon, but he came home from work and watched golf on TV instead of logging on and watching. I guess I was hoping for him to watch the video and do some online research so he could know how to best support me. I haven't told my parents, because my mom is an extreme worrier and my dad is expecting a phone call for a kidney transplant any day now, so I don't want to add to their plate. I have one close friend that lives nearby, but she is very thin and very exercise/health conscious and VERY opinionated. I wouldn't expect support from her. I guess this explains why this "job" that I have is very important to me. I just started in August and I only work about 20 hours a week, but it's the first time that I have felt appreciated in YEARS. It's probably something that I don't want to do forever, but it's great for me because it offers flexibility during the day, which is important since I have daughters in High School. The doctors that I work for are very conservative with medicine, and, because of their culture, I genuinely wouldn't expect them to be supportive, but, I guess I could be wrong. (they seem to be very judgemental) The real issue is probably that I don't even feel confident enough in myself to sit down and have the conversation with them. I don't want to feel judged. I'm a smart person and I know that lying is not the best approach, but I'm just feeling like I don't know how to approach it. I'm hoping that after the surgery, I'll lose the weight and gain the self confidence back that I used to have.

I have a strange situation and need advice! I am getting banded on january 23. I work for two doctors (husband/wife). I don't work in their offices...I work in their home....household stuff, cooking, errands, etc. I have not told them about my planned surgery. This is something I would like to keep private. They aren't my actual physicians...I have never seen them in their offices and they are not affiliated with my primary care physician...my question is...can they access my medical records? I was thinking of telling them that I needed some time off because I had an emergency appendectomy. Thoughts? Thanks

Getting banded in CIncinnati on Jan 13....excited doesn't even describe it! I would love to have someone from the area to be a sounding board! I live in Mason. Thanks,