CowgirlJane

I have never heard this 27 percent thing. Usually they measure percentage of excess weight lost. I lost 150# in 14 months - which is about half my starting weight. I am 4 years out, a few pounds under goal, a few pounds over my lowest weight. My surgeon didn't give out goal weights because it is absolutely the truth that the heavier you start the less likely you are to maintain at a "normal " weight. They told me they didn't want me to feel like I failed if I lost 100, and not the full 150. Either procedure is a good surgery, have an open mind as the risks and issues are different. I don't think I would like the way this person communicates and a bit of advice. . You'll never win an argument with her so just let it go. Is this the only center of excellence around? I would rather they talk about which surgery you are best candidate for and why rather than these strange stats. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

I haven't had a big problem with "players", with the exception of the married guy I met out dancing(still irks me). It's more like I need a better way to sample more"dates" before getting involved. I am not talking about physical I am talking about the "sorting" process. I have been told by many that i should date for months before really spending much time with any one person. This just isn't my history, it doesn't come naturally to me so making a conscious choice to approach it differently. The problem for me is that I don't like dating -ie spending time with strangers. I don't find it exciting. So I will meet someone that I can really talk to, that our minds work enough alike that it goes easy. Then, I stop seeing anyone else...and so far this has led to nothing very long term, for a variety of reasons. I think most people know this, but I married my high school sweetheart. I was divorced in my 30s and only single for 2 years before entering into a LTR, but not married. He is a good man, I still love him, but we are better friends then life partners. Bottom line, this crazy world of a million first dates is not my history or preference. I talk about the negatives but I have made 2 long term friends ( met but didn't really date) and the man that moved away who I would be with in a heartbeat except for the distance thing. I have also had lots of fun dating, but I am just ready for something else....

I probably never thought about but one of the first men I dated (who moved away!) told me I was never allowed to pay, and it has always been that way. And you are right - everyone has so many "choices " at the click of a mouse ... it isn't very conducive to giving any one person a chance. I guess online has improved access to lots of people but it doesn't look to me like it has improved actual relationship building. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

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What I think is weird is that my tongue can't handle spicy anymore and I used to love spicy food. If i have Frank's or other hot sauces it has to be very small quantities. Not wild about Sriracha but I love trader Joe's sweet chili sauce. It's more sweet then hot but I love it. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

Ok just one question. ..who has time to approach 10 people in a day. And this sounds really bad, but it would be an amazing week if I saw 10 in a week I was interested in.... Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

I just heard from work colleagues that Orlando was freezing cold last week - much colder than seattle! Sure hope coops and crew caught some good weather too!!! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

Roasting in the oven - olive oil and salt and pepper. For a real treat mix in some good carrots or sweet potato, the roasting makes them so sweet. Btw, I have had good results roasting frozen sprouts! Trader Joe's has small bags in the freezer section. I never even had a Brussel sprout before a few years ago and now love them!. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

Glad you are back. Reach out if you want some ideas of how to tackle the little regain...although you already know what I will say - haha - go back to what worked, go back to basics! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

Congratulations on your success! I have a secret, goal isn't the finish line - some might say it is more just the beginning, so plenty of time to get rid of those last few pounds!

I remember feeling a little "put off" by people who would make a point out of how they weren't always fat....and list the causes. Sometimes the tone struck me as feeling more deserving of weight loss or something. I called someone out on it and she honestly had not noticed but then rereading and thinking through her biases, yeah she did kind of think that way. She made a conscious decision to not judge people on "how" or "how long" people were obese. Anyway over time it doesn't matter but I do recall feeling that way . Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

I had alot of fear - of the surgery itself but I knew that was just my medical procedure phobia. My real fear was that I would fail again. My secondary fear was that I would have unbeatable side effects (like I did with lapband) and have no means of fixing them. Luckily, like most people, none of my fears came true. I am maintaining at half my former size and 4 years later still very pleased! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

On my android device

That solved it, thanks. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using BariatricPal

i did not experience this. To me, this is a topic to bring up with surgeon or primary care doc.

This is a common reaction.... it will get better. I just want to give you peace of mind - much of what you listed are in the range of "normal". I was a revision from band to sleeve and I had TWO drains that stayed in for a week. It wasn't fun, but a distant memory. I have had difficult IVs too - it is normal and no long term harm. i was on liquid for weeks, no eating of real food for a bit (as a revision, had an extra long time before being allowed real food). The first few months were hard, but staying positive and focusing on why you did this - eye on the prize! and it will soon be a distant memory. Hang in there!

Most of my friends are related to my horse hobby - as a group, fitter than average. I didn't lose any close friends as result of weight loss, but have had some significant relationship changes. My family has several obese members who gave me alot of grief over "getting too small" but everybody is over that now. What I have noticed is that I had this large circle of aquaintenances that seem to have floated away. I don't think it has anything to do with the weight loss, but more that alot of my focus has been away from horses into other things in life.

@@UK Cathy that is great - feels good to be "on track" doesn't it?

I agree with you, they will never understand. I thought I was huge when I weighed 200# but spending time in the 300s changed my perspective. Don't try to make them understand and be grateful for friends who care about you and want to empathize.

Good Lord. So, I first became aware of the cougar-cub craze a few years back when one of my sons friends was seeing a woman at least twice his age. She bought stuff for him, took him on trips etc. Besides the fact that no man under 40 (except my cute doctor) is allowed to see me nekkid, ever, I guess I am also old fashioned... the idea of purchasing companionship is just too much . Of course maybe now I am too old to be a cougar any way .....Ha!

@@CBT fingers crossed for an easy to fix diagnosis! Keep us updated.

So it is still happening, on my android phone and the popup is for the BP store. I don't get it on other devices.

On the subject of weight, I don't view our daily struggle as too bad. Mean I used to struggle to stay under 300 #, now I am greedily dreaming of the 140s instead of 155 where I am today. Yeah forgot to post - Monday is weigh in. I am up 2# from last week but that is to be expected because I am eating again.

You know something Denise, the more people I meet that are over 50 the more I realize that singledom is much preferable to living with the couch potatoes etc. But it's the idea of being on my own that is so uncomfortable. Like, it's great now, but I want to retire and have adventures while I still can and I want a partner in doing that for example. That is why I let the Donald Trump supporter have a chance -on paper we are an awesome match but I never felt any passion or attraction. As soon as I am physically back to normal, I will reach out to him again I think. Maybe just as friends/ activity partners but honestly he is the nicest guy, with shared values and goals that I have met. He is attracted to my appearance, I am vague on how he sees me otherwise. I just feel like I need to give some of these situations more of a chance.

Thanks - I needed that peptalk. .wait that wasn't for me! I cannot explain it by I have been perturbed since an ex from 2014 called me wanting me back. His main reason? I am not crazy like all the other women he's met in recent years. Itis hard to NOT take it personally after awhile like i am so unlovable that sanity us my main attraction? I know he didnt mean it like that, but i seriously think i miss doing something, some game that makes men get googoo eyed. It takes me forever to fall in love with someone and i suspect that i dont send enough "i adore you " signals early on. I am bubbly and outgoing but am very shy about directly flirting with a man. Maybe I should take a class. Alot of people fishing around online don't necessarily have a clear relationship goal in mind - or have unrealistic expectations. I have met (and dated for a few months in one case) men with big emotional issues too. In his case I came to realize that he was dating because his therapist wanted him to; he picked me because I looked good enough to show off to his friends, outdoorsy (he and pals all avid outdoorsman ) and very normal/conventional appearance - I was part of a fake image he was creating. I learned all that months after we broke up. I am not heart broken over any of it, but it has lost its entertainment value. I hope I get my mojo back soon because otherwise I am going to get 3 more rescue dogs and become an excentric old broad who wears outlandish clothing and dances alone in random places. I have seen them, I know this can happen.