CowgirlJane

So, other women do report this as happening. I had heard this was painful but I just had no idea....I qgree it is in the same league as childbirth only scary I called urologist for appointment and had to leave a vmail. Still no appointment. It's 1 am, and the small stabbing pain is back. I took the meds but heavens I can't do the ER again so keeping fingere crossed I am in front of the pain. Damn it hurts again.

Did you see my post about the second most painful experience..ever? Spent the night in agonizing pain and vomiting...from a kidney stone. Never had a n anything like this - it was so intense! Apparently the vomiting is caused by the severe pain. It isn't over though! Prior to that I had a drink and dinner with a man that I really liked. I am so rarely attracted from the get go, but I am to him. In the past, I would have dropped all efforts toward others to focus on him but I am not doing that. He told me I am something of a new type for him...that he seems to pick "crazy redheads" but I struck him as a bit more "two feet on the ground". Hmmm...we shall see. He is a well travled, well spoken attorney. 10 years my senior, but I am telling you so many single 50 year old guys are just messed up. Kim, how is the riding going? Are you building self confidence?

Ok, met someone the other eve for a beverage and appetizer. He far exceeded my expectations on all fronts. He is however the third in a row commenting on me looking so much better in person. I think I need to do a photoshoot! So now I have 2 fellows that I plan a second date with. We shall see... Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App

http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/361237-Ok,-bit-the-bullet-and-ordered-the-book A discussion on that very book. I am over 50 and while I think some points are good, the basic premise that I want a husband and every man out there just wants a sex only relationship is flawed on both ends of the equation. I actually think things in there seem more relevant to younger people who seek to marry and raise kids. Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App

The NSAIDs scare the crap out of me. I have a healthy tummy, no excess acid and really don't want an ulcer or whatever! However. They hit me twice with so much dulaudid I could barely talk but the pain was excruciating. The naseous was terrible even with multiple doses of meds - it wasn't until the NSAID that I thought I might live again. Don't see that I have too many options. Just hoping this resolves quickly... it is time to move on with my life - tired of medical disability! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using the BariatricPal App

This was an ER, there wasn't too much waxing philosophical about causes. I got great treatment but I feel there was a general lack of awareness about the sleeve and they didn't seem too interested in my NSAID concerns except to say the alternative was to be admitted. So here is what I am told. If you must take an nsaid IV is fine. For at home use the liquid is easier on tummy than pills. Take PPI on an empty stomach. Wait about 30 minutes and eat..immediately take nsaid. Do as little frequency, and short of duration of the med as possible. Her perferance was no more than once daily but of course I am prescribed more frequentcy. If urologist says it needs treatment they use something to "bust it up". I thought it was ultrasound but they mentioned laser. At any rate it is a specialized treatment. Hitting my deductible early this year. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using the BariatricPal App

I had gastric sleeve, not bypass. I was a revision from a lapband (implanted in 2001, removed 2011; sleeve in 2011). My nutritionalist told me that there was strong evidence that people who take probiotics lose weight better and encouraged me to take them after my revision to sleeve. i bought them, but was so burned out on "pills" from the Vitamins that i never did. I lost 150# in 14 months and have been maintaining that loss for 3 years - so made it to a normal/goal weight without them. I recently had another kind of surgery, had a complication and then an infection. I required Iv antibiotics plus was on a total of 3 different types of oral antibiotics. I was pretty sick actually. As i was wrapping up the antibiotics course, i decided to take probiotics as a preventive measure against yeast overgrowth or other imbalances. i feel fine, I feel no different. So, my personal experience neither supports nor contradicts the benefits of probiotics. I had borerline blood sugar - always in the 90s preop. It dropped to low normal levels quite quickly. Most of my blood work was otherwise pretty good - but i have read stories on these forums of very quick improvement of health conditions, faster than you might expect if it were just due to weight loss. I had borderline high blood pressure too, but that has always been more controlled by exercise vs my weight - not sure why.

I did go back and take the cambridge test (even though the article specificlly stated it was inaccurate. I scored 60%, but I think i am a lucky guesser. i did well (I think) on the initial portion because i do this thing where i remember one distinctive facial characteristic like shape of lip or nose or something... but when it got to the part where they were introducing lots of faces, and then blurring the images...haha.. I was in the land of "I have no idea" an just randomingly guessing.

Okay, day 3 of eating too much - this is killing me as i don't know why I am so hungry! I am not binging, but hungry and eating probably 1/3 again more than normal. I suspect it is an emotional trigger i haven't recognized. What doesn't help is I am 6 freaking weeks post op. When i had my big surgery 2 years ago i was cleared to restart at the gym. i emailed doc sunday with my current situation and he doesn't want me to do much more than i am doing since I have a little swelling and discomfort. I feel like.. big dramatic sigh... i will never ride horses again! Also, I am just too tired. i am usually a fireball of energy and now I am more like a furball of energy....would rather hide under the sofa than lead the charge. I have some new assignments at work where I am leading the charge and it is sucking the life out of me...lol i was just complimented on how I ran a meeting (I am new to project manager an existing crisis team that is not making progress) - i was pulling teeth to just get people to engage as they are so burned out. It comes naturally to me, but it is also an energy drain to have to provide the enthusiasm for the whole crew! I have also just started up a few meet and greets - hoping to find a summer boyfriend if nothing more... it has gone great so far, but, i recognize some mixed feelings in myself that might be contributing to an unconscious desire to eat and bury my feelings. I want a fun boyfriend to do stuff with, i want a good sexlife and really miss it - but damn, i am not sure I really want a man in my life in that serious kind of way. this is a fairly new revelation for me that i am trying to reconcile in my own heart and mind.

Well, this is quite an adjustment but I found it gets better over time. I can now "guesstimate" my size by just looking at the item fairly accurately but it took a few years to get to that point. the biggest struggle was face dismorphia. People would tell me I looked young post weight loss - but to me I looked SO OLD. then it hit me, last time I was under 150# I was like 21-22 years old! It's not that I look old for late 40s/early 50s, it is that i look old compared to my brain's memory of my thinner face. This has been much harder to get over and I have to give myself little pep talks. i do have excess skin on my neck/chin (that is what a triple chin will get you!) and I sometimes really notice it.... anyway, I am more and more comfortable with my physical self as time goes on.

It is business hours - call your surgeon's office. alot of times this can be done without an expensive ER visit.

I dine with 4 different groups... -my sons who hate it when I suggest that I just take a bit from their plates as they are young men and imagine they should eat every scrap! -my girlfriends who have modeled the way they eat after me...yummy appetizer, not a full meal. My friend M says she doesn't like ordering the big plate when she goes out with other friends now! -dates. I have had a few take me to taverns or other places that aren't bariatric friendly but in general it works well. One time we shared a collection of small plates and he noticed that he had devoured about 80 percent of it, but the vast majority of the time, no n notice. I am adept at ordering fine things that are meant to be small ...example, seared ahi or maybe a specialized beef cut ,served in petite portions and displayed beautifully...nobody notices -work dinners. This can be harder BUT, I work for a health conscious company with lots of fit people. Most know I used to be obese so I guess passing on some of the courses isn't too surprising. I eat like a trim middle aged woman, so while it might be half or a third of some others, I am not the only one eating sparingly. I feel no disgust or discomfort eating at restaurants or with others. I like the social aspects and the only old tradition that doesn't work anymore is big Sunday brunches with my son's - those don't fit my lifestyle. They like it better when I cook brunch anyway!

4 years post sleeve maintaining 150# weight loss. Best decision EVER, but maintaining requires diligence. Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App

I am the queen of high quality food, that while "processed" has good ingredients and not loaded with salt, sugar and carby junk. Before I type the magna carta maybe you could say about what it is you like, things you cant eat etc. In summary though, stores like costco, trader joes etc. have flash frozen Protein (chicken , fish and seafood, beef) and veggies that are high nutrition. I do keep fresh salad ingredients on hand always. I love fresh, don't get me wrong, but if you aren't Suzy homemaker you wind up tossing stuff you never cooked in time. I have mastered the 10-15 minute prep meal - beats the heck out of takeout. Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App

Not everyone follows super low carb...many people eat what I would call healthy, balanced. Not a life filled with toast, waffles, sandwiches, lasagna etc but don't really try to exclude carbs and eat "healthier carbs". In maintenance I definitely have more carbs than I did during weight loss mode. However, be prepared to model your maintenance life after your weight loss eating and activity plans. Notice I saw model after.... not as restrictive but basically what you did to lose the weight. The people who don't do that might find themselves regaining...it really is a lifetime commitment to health. Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App

The article said the Cambridge test gives inaccurate results but there is no link that I could find to the new test. I am starting to think I have some form of this, with an odd twist. I just started online dating again and I never recognize people from their photos, even recent photos. I do this thing where I pick a single characteristic to try to remember but I am out of luck if I can't spot it. Luckily for me my appearance is very distinctive and 100percent of the time my date recognizes me. Funny story I met someone who I'd previously had a negative encounter (he was a drunk grabby ass at a party like a few years ago.) I didn't recognize him at all from photos but did in about half a second once he arrived. At first I was kind of mad and even accused him of not having recent photos but then I remembered...no...it's me and seeing photos is the issue. We made amends and he apologized for being an ass so it was all fine - but not dating him. However, once I have met someone and spent time with them I am average/ok with recognition. I clue heavily on body language and gestures because that can be distinctive, but I think I also remember their faces. You know what I think I just told a lie. I was out with a friend and she recognized a man I had been in a serious relationship with but hadn't seen in a year. He'd gained some weight and had his arm in a cast so his body looked different. I walked right by him - it was my girlfriend who said "hey" and then I did recognize him. Interesting. I too have no idea how people can describe someone to a police sketch artist. I'd be like...Well, he looked about average, you know, with average hair..or maybe he was balding..no wait...maybe that was the other guy...

Ok, thanks for the clarification. My mind says you should be losing with that info so I would be impatient too. If you aren't measuring everything, maybe do that just to confirm. Double your Water - not kidding - that seems to be one of the things that can kick you out of a "stall" I feel like all I consume is Protein and veggies and it is a banner day when I hit 100g so hats off to you. Here are some random thoughts... I assume you just started the strength training....when you first start lifting your body can hang onto water. It isn't really a problem except for that b#tch the scale. Hope you measured when you started because wouldn't it be exciting to see tape measure improvements! I found that high intensity interval training jump starts the metabolism. I do sprints on a spinning bike since my knees can't take running. Kick boxing (at least my class) was a HIIT routine too. This probably won't fit with your trainer's plans, but intermittent fasting really works. I think one reason is it keeps the body guessing, but that is more my own idea than any kind of fact. There are downsides to intermittent fasting for some people.it took me awhile to figure out, but it was triggering anxiety. I do a modified version that doesn't seem to do that. So I am 4years out and last year I did get 10# over goal. It took forever but I am under goal again. I have noticed that lately my weight jump alot more than it used to...either that or my scale is going wonky. Could it be your scale?

How on earth do you get 150 g of Protein? It's only been two weeks - are you well hydrated? Are you minimizing late night eating.

I was sleeved four years ago at a COE. Their recommendation was 60grams per day. Now, they say 80. I don't know why the change but they follow alot of patients and also the research and adjust recommendations based on that. I find maintenance easier if I have a little higher Protein, but I also have more capacity now. Plenty of surgeons are still saying 60g plus. Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App

Crazy - but it is so motivating to find exciting goals like this. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

@@Georgia That is an incredible rate of loss given you are so close to goal!!!

sheesh... where do you live? If a guy hollered out something like that in the Seattle area... there would be a sea of disapproving icey stares thrown his way. Thats how we roll...ha! I did once have a really cute guy offer to help me with my sunscreen, but my pals and I all considered that a compliment.

Monday is weigh in day... I am up 3# since Saturday! i seriously over ate all day long on Sunday including eating a bunch of pie (my skinny son brought home). What the heck? i don't know who this MarionBerry person is - but she shouldn't be allowed to bake pies! I guess I don't have a very tight sleeve because I ate 2 pieces after dinner - no problem. grrr.. i think i might fast today - but I am at 156.4 and no appetite yet this morning!

I give up and am switching to the app. I just like the browser version better but it is endless problems with the kindle. Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App

Yes people treat me differently...strangers in particular. I get alot more doors being opened, looks, and offers of assistance. However, I know I contributed to this as well. When I reflect honestly I would say that coworkers, family and friends treated me with more respect when I was obese than I treated myself (ie not taking care of myself in many dimensions). I feel grateful they saw my worth through the shield. I feel no anger or bitterness toward this change, I take responsibility for my role in it. I feel sad& mad for people who are treated so poorly due to their size. Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App