CowgirlJane

You know, it didn't occur to me until I read this that perhaps I am not personally responsible for their hurt feelings or that I need to call them to resolve it. I probably WILL call them because I am a caring person, but thank you for pointing out that they are all grown ups and could actually reach out to me and clear the air (if there really is a problem since I still don't get it actually). I guess we all have some family "stuff" but my family is usually pretty low drama so this kind of thing doesn't happen much and it genuinely shocked me. I feel alot better after just typing this out - sometimes venting is just what i need. I really wanted to talk it over with someone last night, but like i said recognized that sometimes holding your peace until you have had a chance to reflect is a bit more prudent. I am a work in process... but you know spending a lifetime denying your feelings doesn't mean you can instantly flip a switch and let yourself risk revealing yourself to others and not feel a little sting when things go a little sideways.

You have been through alot. Something to consider; how about NO weight goal for now? Or perhaps a near-term goal and then set a new one? You are reclaiming your health, your life and it seems to me that the real goal is making those lifestyle changes. The scale is just a measuring stick; and not the only one. When I was in the 300-350# weight range I could hardly fathom being normal sized. I decided my success criteria was getting and maintaining under 200#. I did eventually get down further,but it helped to think in less overwhelming chunks. Stay positive, I know you are grateful but don't let the negatives bring you down!

People will treat you differently, I believe because you very likely will act differently. I think change is a normal part of the massive weight loss story. My sons don't even remember me obese, they adapted faster than siblings or other people who were used to me being overweight.

The eating bender has been about a month. Not only glee of a fun boyfriend but also no more surgical complication, no more kidney stone and relatee procedures. It was like being in jail for a few months (when I oddly did not overeat) and then being FREE. I am very happy but have some angst as well. I have only used ppi occasionally since the first few months post op so it doesn't scare me to try a 2 week course. Now if I could just remember where I put them... Sent from my KFJWI using the BariatricPal App

Hope you had a good workout. Why is your self esteem so bad? I hope you feel better. My eating is out of control. I am 3# over goal and haven't been able to stop it. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using the BariatricPal App

Hey look, I am a hot old girl but I can take terribly unflattering photos when I put my mind to it. I don't feel like revealing my turkey neck right now tho. You really do look great in spite of that funny accent Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using the BariatricPal App

Good ideas. I don't take any ppi and considering doing a 2 week course and see if that helps. I have been at this maintenance thing for awhile and I am honestly wondering if this is physical or emotional. I have been SO HAPPY lately but sometimes the emotional reasons are disguised at first. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using the BariatricPal App

I am so sorry. You are only a few months post op, it is such an emotional time. I hope you can find a way to take care of yourself through this. Perhaps she would be open to counseling?

I just don't read them. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using the BariatricPal App

Well, I can promise you one thing - I looked ALOT better at half my former size even before plastics... loose skin is nuthin compared to the health, beauty and lifestyle drawbacks of morbid obesity in my opinion! Good luck - very exciting!

changing something helps. i would try increasing Water, decreasing carbs and changing exercise. What worked for me was going from longer duration/moderate intensity to a shorter duration, higher intensity workouts.

My RMR was tested in December, and I was kinda surprised how high it is. Wonder how high it was before WLS? Or maybe my active lifestyle has kept it up? I mean, I still need to eat under 2000 calories a day, but it isn't the super low that other women report. Anyway, I do think this was a useful article because people need to realize that going to a "fat farm" and living in a totally fake environment with crazy workouts and very restricted diets will work out here in the real world. It is useful for people who have had WLS that the honeymoon of "I am full after just a bite" doesn't last forever either....

I hosted the summer party season kickoff on Saturday. It was sooo much fun! This is when I love living in the country, sunny day and a big yard and dogs and fun people! 163... omg...5 over goal. I am going through a"hungry spell".

I was banded in 2001 at 270 pounds... i lost 28# in the first month on a liquid diet and then over the next 11 months... worked another almost 40# off via exercise and diet. I never got under 200# and at 5'5" was still a big person. I had that band for 10 years and reached my all time high weight that was recorded 332 - in 2004 or 2005 I believe. I think I was actually closer to 350 at one point, but I had stopped weighing. I did weight watchers, nutrisystem, those hormone drops... you name it. I considered it amazing if I could stay under 250#. I never gave up though. Then, I got sleep apnea, high blood pressure, arthritis, unexplained body pain and general misery. My sleep doctor told me I was dying of obesity. The truth hurt but it was his shove in that direction that got me serious about revising. The surgeon he sent me to poo-poo'd the sleeve and didn't even offer it as an option since I was 300# and had already failed with the band. I started the path of bypass and for irrational reasons, chickened out. I tried nutrisystems, ww etc one more time and then finally decided to join a 2 year lifestyle management program. They rejected me - wouldn't take my money because the disease process was just too advanced in my case. She sent me to a different surgeon who does all types of WLS and he thought I was a candidate for a sleeve. What was best was becoming educated about obesity, having a good nutritionalist (rare out there) and just that whole positive outlook that there was hope for me. I did better than they expected in the sense of how much I lost and my maintenance. High BMI people often dont get down to what most people consider "normal" sized. The day I started my 2 week preop diet for the sleeve I weighed 308, 300# on day of surgery Dec 2011 In 14 months I lost about 150# getting to my goal of 158# in Feb 2013. I got down to about 140 at one point but am now hanging out around goal. I am quite pleased considering I have never been able to maintain. This Dec will be my 5 years since revision. Good luck to you!

Wow! What a transformation! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using the BariatricPal App

I don't recall actually saying THAT.

It's a crap shoot in some ways. I am not convinced that psych evaluation actually find the"poor candidate".

I apparently missed something. It is a loss when someone feels they can't share their perspectives...but something to consider -there are lots of us that are experts on "one persons WLS". I drink and am maintaining and have been for some years. Would it be better if I gave up alcohol coffee and British comedies? Probably. Anyway consider if the intolerance isn't a bit 2-way.

@@Oregondaisy that sucks. I am quite sure M would be ok with the WLS but I just don't feel the need to share it and nobody questions my modest meals.

I mostly use the browser and yes you can attach photos. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using the BariatricPal App

I admit, i didn't watch it. However, I do have something to say about eating disorders, mentally ill and WLS. There is a huge spectrum of issues and I think it is a big mistake to think we are all the same, or that we are in the same state of "readiness" to change our lives. I was not diagnosed with an eating disorder, but by the time I was sleeved, I was a pretty hard case of "disordered eating". I can STILL be like that at times. I am upset about something in my home life (my effing grown sons not picking up after themselves or helping out is starting to really get to me). Because I don't know how to get what I want out of the situaiton without creating a riff, i am swallowing my emotions. I chose that word intentionally because I notice i am eating more, i seem hungrier, but the truth of the matter is that I want that "numbing feeling" I used to get from eating. I don't think I am actually more hungry - but rather I am seeking that thing that food used to give me. That sounds like an eating disorder to me - right? And yet, I am maintaining a healthy weight, healthy labs and a good life 4.5 years post sleeve so I am maybe not a complete loser. I wish some of the stigma around "mental health" issues would just freaking go away. @@OKCPirate has talked openly about some personality issues and being conscious of ourselves in the world. That frankness has made me think more about it too and i think has helped me .. it's all part of the "leave the shame behind" track I am following. I actually asked a counselor last year if she thought I had a personality disorder (like borderline or whatever) - we had a long conversation about it and I was very relieved by the discussion. I also realized that in the past I would have never had the guts to actually face that possibility. anyway, bringing it back around to WLS. I genuinely believe there are 3 key factors 1. Lifestyle/habits - are you active? do you know how and regularly make healthy choices and get your butt moving? I think most people THINK this is their biggest problem area but in my experience it is the easiest of the 3 to change. 2. Physical changes brought on by obesity - this is where WLS really helps alot. I was over 300# and was completely "owned" by my physical hunger until I was sleeved. This is the launching pad for being able to change #1 and maybe #3 too. 3. The mental health/emotional health issues - like my story of stuffing down things that I really NEED to express. This one is probably the hardest to solve and I suspect will be an issue for me forever to some degree or another. How many places besides WLS forums can we have these kind of honest, I don't have anything to hide kind of discussions?

I updated my home last year. I had to BEG contractors to come out and give me an estimate. then I had to wait about 4 months before he could start. Then, I had to babysit the yahoos that did the low skill work. His subcontractors were excellent though and my project turned out great and on budget. The remodel business is booming and they can't find good help which leads to crappy customer service...

I updated my home last year. I had to BEG contractors to come out and give me an estimate. then I had to wait about 4 months before he could start. Then, I had to babysit the yahoos that did the low skill work. His subcontractors were excellent though and my project turned out great and on budget. The remodel business is booming and they can't find good help which leads to crappy customer service...

I updated my home last year. I had to BEG contractors to come out and give me an estimate. then I had to wait about 4 months before he could start. Then, I had to babysit the yahoos that did the low skill work. His subcontractors were excellent though and my project turned out great and on budget. The remodel business is booming and they can't find good help which leads to crappy customer service... I updated my home last year. I had to BEG contractors to come out and give me an estimate. then I had to wait about 4 months before he could start. Then, I had to babysit the yahoos that did the low skill work. His subcontractors were excellent though and my project turned out great and on budget. The remodel business is booming and they can't find good help which leads to crappy customer service...

It is very stressful... and while I think you deserve your share, never forget that "stuff is just stuff".