Hello all! I decided to join this site even though it is my husband who had lap band surgery. I am the spouse who is supposed to be the ultimate in support for him. I decided that I am the one that needs support too.
Here's our history in short. My husband was 370lbs. He had his band put in in July 2010 in Tallahassee, FL. He did pretty good for the first year. We attended monthly support group meetings and he saw the dr. about once a month (our visits and fills for the first year were free). He lost 80lbs.
We moved to Atlanta in May of this year. Since then he has lost absolutely nothing! We even went to Tallahassee in September and he got a fill. He has lost nothing.
I know that this has a lot to do with our lack of support network. I tried to find us a new one, but he made excuses not to go.
I have tried to find us a new dr that is closer, but the ones that will see us want so much money up front and per fill and office visit, it's cheaper to drive to Tallahassee once a quarter.
So, here's my thing though. I don't think my husband wants to lose more weight. He's right at the 3X/2X cusp and I just think there's a mental barrier there. He needs a fill. BAD. But he won't go get one. And I'm so tired of being the only one who cares about it.
I read that when you are very overweight, you become rebellious when people mention what you eat or weight, so I have not mentioned either for several weeks. But it's killing me!
Does anyone have any advice for what I should or should not do and how I might help him get back on the wagon?
~Michelle
