Pookeyism

My husband actually gained a bit of weight over the last 16 months or so to the point that he is probably as heavy as he has ever been. he carry's it well and so to many he is just another bigger-than-average guy, but I do know it bothers him. He is a true foodie and loves to cook - actually he cooks twice a month for his faternal org. and is always the one all of our friends wants to bring the sides to a cookout, etc. I do not think he could ever be happy with the sleeve. I do not think he needs it actually. He never really had any weight issues until a few years ago, so I think he could catch himself if he tries, but he has to be ready to try. I have stepped up and made some guidelines, however. he has to pack his lunch 2-3x week (he will not let food go to waste so if he packs it, I know he will eat it). I have refused fast foods. He is restricting his fast food intake so that I do not ban it outright. I talked him into getting a gardner for our home last August and I regret it - he spent hours in the garden and I know it ate up calories. I am on a subtle mission to make him convinced no one does it as well as he does (which is largely true) so he wil get back into the yard - that way I don't have to say "go burn calories". I am expressing concerm for walking in my neighborhood alone at night - the only weekday times I can get in a long walk other than on treadmill. I actually have no concerns but let's keep that between us! He dislikes me being scared at night, so he now walks with me, almost without fail. And finally I focus on our outings and weekends, minimal TV, maximum active fun. I hope to see him shed a few pounds, and that will encourage him on his own to pay more attention, etc. I had hoped to be in mushies and near solids but that has not worked out, but once I do I am going to make every evening a "show me how to make this" - so we will make a healthy meal every evening. I am doing sublte things that I hope will pay out in a big way.

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It's okay to be scared. Just do all of the research you can - get in as much counseling as you can - address the issues that have helped keep you overweight BEFORE the surgery, and go through the threads here AND TAKE NOTES! No kidding! notes will be so helpful! God bless and keep me posted!

Yay! labido os gewd! Seriously, that is awesome! I was told I am no longer diabetic, and it was the best news!!!

I had a leak test and insisted on a drain but I just wanted to be very sure I had no issues - even with that I was back in for another barium drink about 3 weeks out due to complications, and I had not transitioned off liquids yet. Things that make you go "hmmmm"...

Awesome - I am doing a zombie 5k in December! It sounds a ways off but I have to lose more weight before I can run with my knee.

It is such a rough road for some of us. It does get better - and you are sleeved! yay!

Ok - I have been getting a dream that I am at my house and this Publisher's Clearinghouse type of get up shows up and they go "Congradulations on your weight loss" - and I am all happy because in my dream I have lost to my goal - but then they go! "PUNKED! You never got the surgery! It was all a joke!" And I wake up...WT@! Anyone had any odd ones like that?

I self-paid so can't say I fought with insurance. In other instances with mt insurance I demand to talk to a specialist and kinda check to see how knowledgeable they are...and I always make them email me the part of my policy they are referencing. They hate that. I possibly could have had my costs reduced if Ihad been diagnosed with a haital hernia but I knew I did not have one so I did not even try. Perhaps you have something like that that needs to be worked on anyway. It would reduce the cost drastically. One important thing - don't be too quick to get your surgery - be absolutely sure you are in a good mental state to do this. Just because you can or even if it is do or dont for awhile, does not mean you should. There are alot of people on here who have jumped in on minimal requirements and not dealt with why they are obese to begin with. It can be very detremental overall and can lead to not being able to deal with the changes. Good luck.

So glad to hear you are all on your way. I was sleeved 1/4 so a bit ahead of you but not much. Hang in there and be super careful with your new friend, lol. Jello is still a very important part of my diet, I hurt quite a bit after too. Don't let the fluids worry you, unless thet do not dissipate or you gain more fluids. Good luck guys!

Whoa...I think she intended that to be a joke...the smilies and whatnot gives it away. It is not funny to lose someone like that. My first fiance wrapped herself around a tree when we were 21, 2x over the limit...don't get upset over peoples humor. It isn't intended to be bad.

You may be prone to dumping. Had you had that many carbs before?

I had/have that at times. I get an odd "this is too easy" feeling - I spent years being hungry. I am just taking it one day at a time, and letting my waist let me know better!

Hey! You are in SPRING! We should get together and make some of these recipies! Are you in the Houston Active Sleevers group?

Thank you for the reminder!

They have a sugar free kahlua syrup??? OMG!

I could have drove in less than a week out, but opted to avoid being in a car as much as possible. I read an account (iffy, I couldnt trace it to the source but neverless) of a fender bender that sent a woman back to the hospital with a sizeable leak. It kinda stuck in my mind. A week post op my Mom passed away and that was a whole other situation and I began to feel bad again fast, so I felt too distracted to drive. I drove once my second week out, out of necessity. Beyond that I waited till my 3rd week.

It is good to know you aren't in any pain. Don't forget to walk (assisted) tonight and get the extra gas out! Keep us informed. Have a good (pain free yay!) Night.

I had not heard of it until today, I think - I just joined id:pookeyism

In hindsight I find myself thinking about all the time - all of my adult life, all of my teenage years, most of my childhood, I have fought my fat. I have gone out and played harder, ate less, denied minding that I couldn't wear what some of the other kids were wearing (which would actually be true as I entered my high school years). I became strong and fit (for my size) as I also became a f@%k you kid with an attitude and patient yet short fuse... I had feelings but never felt them, I had friends and never cared. I became a great artist. I am really good at alot of things. I have two degrees and I am on the dean's list going for my third. I am who people come to when something needs fixing - and no one had a clue how desperate I was to fix myself. Only in the last few years do I think my Hubby even knew. My sister knew, and tried to help - and finally understood she could nox fix me. Frustrating for her, horribly frustrating for me - I never wanted my Sister to ever have a bad day - especially if it were my doing. I could go on and on but I think the main point is that I lived for over 30 years in a state of semi-misery, while being truly happy, successful, and able to extend myself to friends and hobbies and a healthy marriage. I watched my weight fluxuate and I tried harder and sometime not so hard. I avoided all the fad diets - I had educated myself too much and knew what it would do to my muscle mass. Yet I really wanted to try them - you want to believe anything you hear first-person. It's just so easy to say "so-n-so did it". I can quilt because my Granny taught me - I can sew clothing because I was going to wear what I wanted to wear - so I learned to recreate what I saw in the mall windows. I never let anything get in my way - except I did - or did I? That is the thing I think I need to come to grips with most - even as I lose the weight now, I am finding slips of thought finding it's way in. I will never know if I could have done it "myself". If I could have unraveled my own Gorgon Knot - but then I did, right? On hell-bent swipe of a sword and I am doing it. Dichotomy! Damn! Damn...

It is possible to not realistically be able to be at 150 and have the muscle mass you want to be at. If I were at 10% BMI and have the mass I had in high school, I would be way over 150. But I trained for bulk muscle. But I know what you mean - my high school days are over. I haven't even set a weight yet. My sister is up to (!) a size 9 (she was always underweight and I was always over)and she is two inches shorter than me and weighs about 180, so who knows.

I have been trying to transition to mushie from liquids for awhile now. I thought I had it down but I think I need to stay at solids/thick Soups and such. I will try, get one or two or three meals in, and then I will be really uncomfortable and have stomach pain. The end of my fifth week will be this Wednesday. Grrrr!

People can do things without meaning to, but when someone brings you cupcakes knowing what they do, then yes you have to ask some questions - it sounds very passive aggressive to me. The main thing is to be assertive - I recently had an aquaintance throw away a dozen cupcakes her hubby brought in and he said "why did you do that?!" and she said "because I told you I would". he had bringing "treats" in for himself - not the two or three cupcakes he would have ate, and not putting them somewhere she would not need to come across - but a dozen or more, and on the counter near her foods. So she stepped up and threw them out - opened the box and dumped them into the trash. We can't compromise on ourselves, and we cannot allow others to do so either. Nope. Nada. shhhh. don't argue. Good luck.

After what I have went through and was doing exactly what I should (I wasn't even trying mushies yet). I definately would not do that. Order tea and explain you have a delicate stomach today, etc. or explain nothing and just drink your tea.