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Globe I agree with OD talk it out. Men are dense and often don't realize what vibes they put in the world. He may have some heavy "man crap" going on he hasn't shared with u yet. Tell him what's up and what u want. Be prepared for some comprimse cause no man is perfect. But don't settle for anyone that doesn't make u feel loved Cgj I think your lucky to keep finding good potentials. Good for u for staying in the game. Some women might have given up and raised 50 cats. Good luck with this one OD follow your gut. Explore I am still fasting 2 to 3 days a week. Just can't get my big but to work out!! Still bouncing around the same stupid 5 pounds.once I want it bad enough I will find the time to work out and move beyond the spot I am in now Part of a school supply give awya at my church this weekend. That's always a fun hectic time for me. Have a good wEekend!

U are a beauty!

Hi ladies. No posts from anyone in four days? Very strange. Were did everyone go? Iwent to the aquirium with my family. My phone won't let me post a pic. Stay strong ladies!

Kim the love and support of a mother can never be replaced, but we hope you find some strength, in the love of family and in the warm embrace of friends...sending. Cyber hugs from cyber friends and real prayers for continued peace of mind

Kim. I can only imagine. So good to. Know both u and her are surrounded by family. Cyber hugs and prayers for peace

Coops. Your daughter sounds and looks like a beauty! Really loving that dress. Globe. So wish there was something that can be done for u. We are here to listen and care. How much more time do u have to endure this craziness? Sar how are u feeling? If u can drive u must be doing good Day 3 and still low Low carbs.

Hi ladies. Sending prayers and requests for blessings for everyone. Day 2, total 24 carbs!

Thanks Sar. I am not giving up. Day 1 under 20g carbs done!

Hi ladies. Oh. Coops, Georgia and Cathy (and anyone else in this boat). I am there with u. Still struggling to keep the scale moving down. I know what I should it. I know I need more exercise. I know I need to leave the carbs alone! Picture me hitting my self in the head. Why oh why do I not have the will power to do it. It was so easy during the initial stage and even year two. This is the first time I have gained and gone 2lbs over my weight Personally I am in the mod I was prior to the surgery. Trying to diet and nothing works so I eat what ever. Then try to diet again. I know we should be out of the diet mode and eating should be a life style. I agree with that. If I can just get the brain to stay in that mode I could be sucessful. Apparently lifestyle eating for me is good for maintnance but not good for losing Has anyone tried an over the counter appetite surpressant that's helped? My nemisis is carbs!! Good news only 2lbs over (I still weigh daily). Good news I will not give up! Good news I know I am not alone and have support! Good news I know I can do it! Cyber hugs

Sar glad your doing well. Selfish? No way! I am so glad u and others made the decision to do something for yourself. We deserve it! Cyber hughs to everyone!

Sar glad each day is better than the day before. Are u reading a good book? What are u doing to occupy your time? Do u still think you'll be okay when the fam leaves? Sending cyber hugs! That's probably all u could take right now anyway. Stay strong

Sar Glad your doing well. Take care of yourself and not everyone else. This is your time to heal. So happy for u!

Hi Ladies. Finally the play is over and was a huge hit! My cast bought my vision to life. I felt like a proud mamma. Laughs in the right places and the songs just came off so well. I wish I had pics. I really tried to get some but the day got away from me and I didn't have a chance once it started. I was in the tech booth manning the music board and making sure the lighting guy didn't miss his cues. Everyone said they really enjoyed it. I am so glad its over. On a down note my mom has lost the ability to walk. I was picking her up Sunday for church as I do every Sunday and she littterly fell in my arms while getting her in the car. I am taking it worst then she is. I know in my mind this isn't true but I can not express how horribly guilty I feel for putting her in their. I feel like if she was still at home she would have been forced to continue to use her walker and not spend so much time in the wheel chair. I honestly thought they would give her more physical therpy but they haven't done much and now she can't walk. Legs and hips are muscles u don't use them u will lose them. I kept trying to make her use her walker more but... We are were we are. Now I must fight to get her rehab to walk again. My next focus is to get her out of there. The place is not bad no one is really to blame. But I will never forgive myself if she dies in there. Kim I have u and your mom in my prayers Everyone have a fun 4th and stay safe!!

Hey ladies Quick question. When we drastically reduce the number of daily calories should we suplement with protien shakes to get weight loss? Reducing calories and increasing exercise helps with weight loss but we have to get a certain amount of protien to get weight loss too right?

Sar good for you and hubby speaking up about your InLaws. I can relate. Caring for parents is really hard. I mentioned I had to make the tough decision to coax my mom into a nursing home. She is 77 but years of dialysis has taken a toll on her. She can hardly walk uses a walker to get around and was falling very often in her apt. She had care givers coming in to help dress and clean but still was lots of time alone. I would have to drive across town to get her dressed for bed and into bed to be sure she didn't fall. It was getting very difficult for everyone. I convinced her it was safer for her in a nursing home. She's been there since april and absolutly HATES it!! The people there are much older then her and are in real coma like states. Aids don't come when she calls. And she says there isn't much to do. However she's not falling any more. I feel bad she has to spend her last years in a place she hates. So I am working on getting my house suitable to bring her in. But gotta work on that with hubby. She always has snide remarks about him. "Why doesn't he do that" "why doesn't he cook more" she tends to wanna run things. Hard to shut her down and let me run my house. URGH!! Her memory is getting really bad. Hasn't been diaognosed with Alz but its really bad So Sar I feel for you. Caring for your parents is like caring for a child takes time patience love and the strength to make the tough decisions. We do the best we can

Hi kim.Happy Birthday. Good to hear you enjoyed yourself. My cholesterol is high. I am a protien meat eater. Not as much vwggies as I should. Can u give me more details about sterols please M2. Congrats on 22 years. Love the before and after pic. You both lOok marvelous. The play "finding my Boaz" is going really well. Hard to get all the cast to rehearsals all at the same time. Everyone has so many family commitments hard to juggle all the schedules. But I have been making it work. We have final 2 full dress rehearsals june 21st and 28th then performance on the 29th. It's been fun. Very different experience for me. The manager in me is enjoying pulling it all together. Lights , sound, music, scenery, props event night coordination with ushers, stage hands, cast. I am pretty pumped and will be so glad when it's over! OD I was thinking about u as I put my earplus in to tune out the sounds of hubby's Cpap. Its getting a bit loud and time for a tune up. How's Bill's Cpap working out? Sar count down to plastics. Wish I was ready for at least the arms. With summer wearing sleeves is a pain. I was doing something the other day and startled myself when I actually felt them flapping. When I lose another 50lbs I will get the arms done. But now I have too much weight to lose to consider plastics. I will keep lifting the weights Chow for now!

Cgj glad sharing that with Tino was a good experience. This will all balance out soon

CGJ I feel for you and keeping u in my prayers. Question are u alone now more than in the past? I wonder that those feelings emerge more now because in the past you were more occupied with caring and doing for others. Now in this stage of life you are your focus and maybe your not sure what to do. For my two cents you sound aware and that's a good thing. Some things you can't just will away if that were true we would all be able to will ourselves to great fast days eat right and always excersise. In no way take this as a thought to trivialze what your going through maybe think of these as a bad day and know this too shall pass. Know you will feel good again. You have the easy part to help move through these days, by already knowing your blessed and the world is a good place. I agree with Georgia, Tino will understand and if it scares him and he runs then he wasn't good enough. Cyber hugs! Stay strong!

And Kim you are probably beter than you think. Enjoy your dancing. I smile thinking of you dancing with veils Imagine my big butt prancing around zumba class. Lots of arms. I swear my arm flapsa are gonna hit me in the face. Let's keep dancing!

Wow so much going on Happy 50 CGJ and glad Tino is still working out Georgia the new pic looks awesome! Congrats on your 4 year verasy and at goal. Your an inspiration Sar good for you on the tummy tuck amd lower body lift. OD I didn't realize you were 60. I am 57 but you sound so much younger. I am smiling even more for you that you found Bill Coops I am still fasting but scale has stopped moving. Think the carbs are sneaking back in. How u doing? Stay in touch ladies! Be blessed!

Good for you CGJ! Relax and enjoy the companionship. You deserve to feel good and enjoy life I am with you Coops. Mine is slow and steady but scale is moving in the right direction. Trying to do three fast days a week. Must admitt its hard. Let's go we can do this!

Cathy The play will be performed in my church. Enjoy your your new digs. The trip for your son sounds very exciting OD I feel for you. Its like a person waving alchol in the face of an alcholic. Or a smoker living with a non smoker. My adult children that live with me keep their treats in their rooms and don't eat them in front of me. My hubby used to sabatoge me (in the begining) by bringing me chips and chocolate. I finally put my foot down and took him awhile but he finally got it. I have said this before the snacks at my office are all around and very hard to control so I have to tap into my WillPower. But in your case I can imagine how hard it would be to have will power all day, outside your home and then inside too Maybe tape a pic of the old you on the fridge or in the cuboard where he keeps the treats. It sounds like he might be coming around since he bought in what he thought was a healthy treat. Why don't you buy some healthy treats that you can control. Then when he's eating his you can eat yours. Or tell him for both our healthy lifestyle please don't bring cookies,cakes,cany and such in the house and suggest he treat himself on the weekends only. And u allow yourself that treat only on the weekend. Maybe easier to say no if u know you'll have some later We are all fighting that battle and Sir "Will Power" is really hard to find when faced with the goodies we really like. Hang in there OD. You can do it!

Hi ladies. Ended the week with two good fasting days and three controlled non fasting days. Feeling good. Down .5lbs. Slow and steady wins the race. How u doing Coops? M2G good for you on the dieting for the teens. Had I been more aware of healthy eating as a teen and had a better body image I may not have been obese. Good job mom! CGJ nice to see you enjoying life and met someone new. I put a profile on OKcupid for my daughter. Seeing the success you and OD and I think Globe met Jack in cyber space gives me hope for my daughter. Even at 28 if u don't meet a nice guy at work then its really hard for a quiet shy young lady to meet someone. The play is planned for June 29th. Its getting close. Now into rehearsals set designs lighting music advertising etc. Very exciting and lots of work. But I am enjoying it Cyber hugs to everyone

After 2 years I can eat more than before but still less than everyone around me. I can tell when I have over done it. I stay in range because of the food choices. Healthy eating trumps small tummy

Hi Grace. You are not alone. I didn't lose as much as I wanted during the honeymoon phase. Good news I haven't gained any back! YEAH US!! After two years maintaining it is harder to get the scale moving again. My sugestion make a small change each week. Like this week count the carbs. Next week committ to exercise plan. I too have found sucess with the 5:2 fasting plan. Google it then read the tips pinned on this forum And don't be discouraged. Weight loss appears to come slower then after surgery but its time to use the tool. Small portions, controlled eating, exercise , focus and patience will get u where u want to go. We got this!