Thankyou Alexandra! I appreciate your insight. My DH and I did have a long chat later in the evening and I explained that his insensitivity really hurt me. He explained that he was just seeking reassurance from his dad that all would be well and that nothing terrible will happen to me.
I think I had thought that he was telling his dad that I was going to have wls- and now at last I would become "normal". You see, although we seldome see my FIL, he sees us on videos we send and I have gained ALOT of wt since our wedding 13 yrs ago. I know that this is an intense embarrassment for my DH, so it makes me over sensitive, almost irrational.
Anyhow, thanks again for your kind words.