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My husband has always been 100 % supportive of my WLS, (he never said anything negative but I know he wasn't happy with my weight gain ) and while he's always making positive comments about my slimmer ,healthy body, he also makes nice comments to others about my good exercise habits, and jokingly "complains " about them. Now, if I could just get him to build that work out area in our basement, we'd be set !!

I love Jergens Natural Glow too, easy to find at any drugstore, inexpensive, no smell, works great ! Congratulations on the new shorts, this summer it was a first for me too in 20 years ! I also loved the cute knee length skirts, cool, comfy and cute ! You go girl !!!

I haven't read the article, but based on the previous posts I've got a fairly good idea of what its about ( okcpirate, I like the way you think !) so im just throwing this out there. Is there the possibility that people think with having WLS that all /most of their problems will go away ? That because they're normal weight, that life will be good or perfect ? Just curious , not criticizing. I did'nt think that way, I knew that life would still throw a few curveballs at me, I just knew that I would be able to face the curveballs in a healthier, happier and stronger mind and body than I had before WLS. Just a thought.

Sorry, operator error ! What the hell are "personality cards ?? "And by the way, after watching Monday Night Football, this thread has been the most entertainment I've had all day ! Thanks !!

Good to hear that you're heading in the right direction, relationship wise. Many, many years ago I fell hard for a guy who could of been twins with your Mr. Alcoholic loser. I moved on, and while it was hard, I eventually met my husband and have never had to think twice about his choices, actions or reliability. I can't say that about my ex ! I guarantee you my ex is probably dead, spent time in jail or lives a rocky, difficult life. I dont wish the man bad karma at all, but strong feelings cant hold an unstable, rocky , unhappy "relationship" together. Im glad you got out too, before it was too late. Good luck to you !!

And now Miss Bellabloom, you have taken the 1st step towards building a healthy you, and that special someone is going to be noticeing it . Think of someone who just shines from within, happy and healthy, the kind of person who just attract s people without trying. Yes, thats you ! When you get there, the right person will show up ! And you'll be very glad you didnt waste anymore time on someone who wasn't worth it. Congrats !!!!

Victoria mora, the weight IS dropping ! You've lost 8 lbs in 13 days ! I dont know why you think you're not loosing enough, or what you were expecting. Im not sure why you're not happy with the results so far. "Dieting" is very different than WLS, sometimes the body goes into shock after surgery, and holds on to the weight in case its being starved. Then as it adjusts to the new healthy lifestyle of eating right, exercise, water etc it begins to let go of the excess weight. Some people s body adjusts right away, some need more time, theres no set rule. Just follow your Dr.s rules, listen to YOUR body, and remember that this is a journey to get strong and healthy, and it takes time. Good luck !!

P.S. Oh, and the interesting, stable funny guy ? Yeah, mines sitting in my livng room right now. 32 years and counting.

Somewhere in your posts you stated that you hadnt met any interesting , stable, funny men that you found attractive. Take the time that you're wasting on this guy and use that time to work on building a relationship with somebody who is really important !! YOU !! Once you get yourself straightend out ( a good therapist can help !) you'll be surprised at how many interesting, stable funny men will start showing up in your life ! And he'll be someone who you will want to be involved wth your kids, and you will be showing your kids what a happy, solid relationship really looks like. Cause its definitely NOT with Mr. Loser !! As Ive said in a not too long ago post "Like attracts like, and how you are sometimes treated by others has alot to do with how you present yourself to others. " Something to think about. I wish you well.

Wow ! You look amazing !!!! Congratulations and keep up the good work !!!

I've lost 95 % of my excess weight and 95 % of my health problems are permanently gone. Coincidence ? I think not.

Like Jenn1, ive gone from an apple shape to an inverted triangle. If I could just get the 10 lbs off my tummy, I think Id be a rockin' hourglass ! ( Said the girl who typed this while eating ice cream....................)

Decai Rhodes, Im sorry you're having issues with your weight loss, Im not sure why you got the "runaround" from your Dr, etc, or how much research you did before being banded. I do know that not everybody loses weight right away, especially if you're not anywhere near the green zone. If you're hungry alot and can eat a fair amount, you're not at the green zone. Yet. It takes some people several fills, some only 1 to hit that sweet spot. ( mine was #4 ) You'll know it when you get there. I think it was one of the people in this forum ( B-52 ? ) who said he had almost given up, and thought it was a complete waste of time, money and effort. But he stuck with the rules, and finally , started losing ! I think youre giving up waaaay too soon ! Trust the process. Stay on this forum and you'll get LOTS of advice and support ! Good luck, and dont give up !!!!

A few weeks before surgery I was 225 lbs, day of surgery 220 lbs.. 4 weeks later I was at 210. Everyone is different but I averaged 1-1.5 a week. If I gained a bit I looked back at my food diary, everytime it was either too much sweets or occasionally salty foods and less exercise. Every time. For exercise, I walked and swam, later I ran for awhile. Now im at a comfortable 142 lbs, I do Pilates, golf ( 9 holes tonight !) swimming and walking, and try to eat reasonably healthy with a little daily treat thrown in. Just a little advice, a scale wont tell you as much as a pair of pants will, use your tightest pants as your guide instead of the scale. When the pants start loosening up you know you're on the right track ! Good luck !!

Sending out good karma to Dave for a speedy recovery and the best possible outcome ! Hugs and support all of you !

No idea if it would change it or not, but maybe talk to a voice coach for advice ? I can only think the weight loss would improve your health and breathing, which would enhance your singing. Lucky you to have such a beautiful gift !! Hope all goes well for you !!

Okcpirate, what is wrong with these women you meet ? Are they blind ? You seem pretty nice and normal ( , you don't have to answer this, ) what are your hobbies, interests, likes and dislikes ? We need to find you a nice lady friend !! Again, im happily married, but I listen to all these stories and think "we have nice girls here who attract the losers, and nice guys who cant meet a normal girl , " so somewhere here, somebody's got to know who ,where and why we can send a nice lady your way !! I believe in karma !!

Sending enormous amounts of good karma your way, and lots of prayers and hugs !

Dont know about gastric bypass, im banded, but I literally can't eat past the band. Too much food and it comes back up. As far as surgery ? I wouldn't of had WLS if I had better results with Weight Watchers, but 12 lbs in a year wasn't impressive. Enter Lap band, immediate success ! Back to healthy and strong and a better quality of life. Its fine to consider your Dr, s and others opinions, but its your life and your body, so make those decisions for your self, not anybody else !

Gee, how many toddler's are in this family again ?

Oh. My. God. I dont even know where to start ! Laughing, or crying at the hilariously sad stories !!!! Im sooooo sorry ! But I still cant stop laughing !! I dont have any horror stories of my own, but 20 some years ago out the Seattle Times newspaper put out a contest "Send in your worst dating story !", winner gets a prize ! Etc.....The winner ? A lady met a man through some dating group, they met for daytime coffee. He was much older, heavier etc than his picture, but seemed nice enough. He suggested after coffee to visit a nearby park, nice sunny day, ok ! Why not ? After they get settled on a park bench, he disappeared for a bit. When he came back, he was nude ! She noticed some others were too ! He had taken her to a clothing optional park !!! She kept trying to advert her eyes, finally made some excuse to leave, and made a hasty exit ! Eeeeekkkkk !!! You wonder WHY she won 1st prize !!!!! Im still laughing !!!

As "bone headed " as my husband can be sometimes, (Me too !! ), he never fails to notice or compliment me on my weight loss . ( You 've gotten so tiny !! ) Some people just have to be taught ( your husband ) so tell him ! Say ", I would really appreciate it if you would acknowledge my weight loss / hardwork, etc, just like I acknowledge your hard work when you do X ! Whatever X is, compliment it ! It sounds like he has no interest in the WLS world, and it could be he's just not that interested in this part of your life, just as you may not be interested in certain parts of his life. Just a thought ! Hope things turn out well for you, good luck !!!

Why do YOU feel like a failure, when it's your thyroid that's causing the problem ? If you're doing everything right, and your Dr, s are helping too, why does that make you a failure ? I understand that you're frustrated , but blaming yourself for something you have no control over seems pointless ! Instead, congratulate yourself on what you HAVE lost, not what you HAVEN'T lost. Your hard work and accomplishments are far greater than a number on the scale, so congratulations ! And be proud of yourself !!!

First off, congratulations on your weight loss ! Nice NSV from your Dr. too ! And 2nd off, I dont think your friends are just being "nice " , I honestly think its the shock of all of a sudden seeing you so slim !! Those people didn't get to see the weight come off gradualy, they were probably blindsided by you leaving at one weight, and coming back at another! Shocker !! This summer I saw a relative I had'nt seen in several months, her first comment to me was ( in a very caring way ) " you need to eat a cheeseburger !!" She was shocked when told her I weighed 144 lbs ! Still considered "overweight at 5'3 ! So honestly, I'm thinking its the sudden shock of seeing you so slim ! Either way, you look great ! Congratulations !!!