Change2011

Sexy is a state of mind/being not a size. How you feel about yourself shines through, so don't wait until you are the "perfect" size to be sexy, be sexy now...for yourself!

I never really thought about it from that perspective, so thanks for sharing how you feel. I have always been motivated by people actually being able to see my accomplishments. I never took it as prying or invasive and I really don't think most people intend to be rude, etc. I know I have not meant to be when I have asked someone that question. However, if you don't like it for whatever reason that is fine but you have to let people know. There are wide spectrum of comments from "none of your business" to "thank you for noticing, but the actual number is really personal to me." You have to make the decision how to respond.

Congrats! How much have you lost so far, you look awesome!

Reheated meat tends to be drier. Maybe that is the problem?

I am sorry it did not work out for you. However, I am glad that you have not given up on your weight loss journey... which means while the lapband may have been fail that you are not a failure.

Congrats!

No problem. I hope all goes well.

Thanks for the clarification. I would say you need to tell them, because you may be too tight. While we all got the band to lose weight, we also should want to maintain our health while we do it. I am not sure 400 calories a day is a good idea and that your body can continue to be healthy on so little calories/nutrition for a long period of time. If being healthy and fit is also your goal, you really need to talk that over with your doctor as soon as possilbe.

I would like to help but I am not clear why you are asking for help. If I am reading correctly you lost 8lbs since last Monday. If that is true, I would think that 8lbs in a week is a really good week. Are you thinking it was too much or not enough? You also said that you are only eating 10% or less of your food and then go back and eat a little more but later say that with all the eating that you orginally thought 8lbs was good. So are you thinking you are eating too much or too little? If you know, it might be more helpful to know how many calories you are eating and what types of food you are eating. If you could answer those questions as well as clarify why you think you should be worried, I am sure if I can't help some else may be able to give you some advice.

Congrats!

Thanks for the post. I appreciate knowing the good, the bad, and the ugly. The fact of the matter is that the band does not work for everyone, for a variety of reasons. So while, I love hearing the motivationals stories of those who had no complications and lost tons of weight in less than a year, I also want to know the other side of the picture. I use all of this as potential information that may or may not affect me. Right now I am experiencing success and hope I continue to have success. However, I do feel for those who don't have success or have had complications and then get stoned, shunned or questioned for posting "their" experience. I would hate if those people stop posting, because I for one want to know ALL potential risk.

Yes you are smaller. If you are tracking your weight/fat loss don't just weigh yourself but take your measurements.

I realize that questions and comments regarding the subject of weight, food intake, and weight loss in general have always been a touchy subject for me. The fact that I have had this procedure did not in and of itself change that fact about me. What is changing slowly but surely is how I am feeling about myself and in general and my weight and health. So, while unsoliciated and advice and questions regarding my lapband or food intake is still somewhat of a sensitive subject for me, I now filter and respond to it in a different manner. How I use to respond and or felt really depended on the person asking and/or the way they asked or even the way I was feeling about myself that moment; I never said a word to that person but internalized it or complained to everyone but them. Now, I don't internalize it or take it personal (even if was meant to be personal). I am working on not allowing how someone thinks or perceives me to affect how I think or perceive myself. So when, I get unsoliciated comments, advice, questions, and I have a negative feeling about it, I first stop and ask myself why I am feeling this way. Secondly, I address that person accordingly and respectfully. If I don't feel the need to explain what is on my plate or why, I don't (99% of the time I don't; I have been know to say things along the lines of "thanks for your concern about _________ but none is needed I am fine".). If I feel like someone is being rude, etc. I tell them that I feel their comment was rude, etc. or ask them directly what is their concern, etc. I usually can figure out the true intent and if I can't there is certainly no question about about mine. Bottom line, from my own experience, most people treat you the way you allow them to treat you and I have learned that I have some responsibility in how I allow people to speak and/or treat me.When someone says or does something that is upsetting, annoying or offensive to you, you should tell them and/or address it, otherwises they may not ever know. Don't ever assume someone should know or understand how you feel. Sometimes people are trying to be helpful and not hurtful or just curious and asking a question and other times not. Either way, if you don't speak up for yourself and they continue to do it, you should take part of the responsibility for them continuing to say or do something that they may have no clue is offensive to you. If you tell them and they continue to do it, the responsibility is all theirs.