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Guys I am a gym rat by obligation. I go and my comfort zone is the treadmill. Run 35 mins at 6.0-7.0 mph and I do 9 min miles. I lift weights as well, but that is when I get anxious. There is this weird anxiety that takes over me and I see everyone around being so pro it bothers me. I tried doing a trainer and spent thousands of dollars with little results. I travel a lot and I am not accustomed to extreme effort. My body shuts down. I lift, but I am afraid I am too comfy on my lifting and it just does not motivate me. After 3 years I am burnt out of spinning and running and the half ass lifting that I do and I am a bit out of hope. I do it and keep doing it. But I hate it. It just seems like the flab doesnt go away ever. I need encouragement, because I am a gym rat. But by mental mandate not by enjoyment.

I hate hate the spare tire. I have a big one and it goes big to small. That is my weight gain spot. I struggle with skinny jeans and I can never wear thirts. There is this little pocket around my belly button that hangs and it looks gross. It makes me sooo self conscious when I am being intimate with someone that I rather lay flat in bed so it doesn't look weird. You can't tell if I am standing but if I move it wiggles. I hate it. Inner thighs.. well forget it. Nobody sees those anyways. hahaha Also, under the arm is challenging.

I hate BMI. I don't seem to ever get on normal levels. Am I always going to have abnormal BMI? How do you turn that around. 32 BMI is high!

I'm here. Whatever y'all need. Just shoot.

What kind of surgery can you get to tighten up the skin?

I look good without a shirt on, but I want my skin to be tight. I work out, run and lift some. But will I ever look great?

Hey guys. Well I had a VG done about 3 years ago. I had always been a chubby guy and always hated my body. I spent 4 years of college avoiding the Water and I hate the beach. It was pretty depressing when spring came around and they opened the campus pool which is beautiful. It quickly got populated with my fellow fraternity friends showing off their awesome bodies and my dear sorority friends doing the same. I couldn't go, I was so ashamed and embarrassed I hated it. Being gay is also a big issue. The gay community is so looks based and there was no way a chub can have a healthy successful dating life without dating another bigger guy. I am an emotional eater, I know this. My entire family is fat but my little brother. It is almost embarrassing to see family pics. At the peak of my depression (junior year of college) I was at 238 pounds. I am only 5ft 8. I also have a big head, I drank a lot of beer and ate horribly. I almost never wanted to work out. I have always been a leader and in leadership positions and people stopped taking me in consideration for future roles because of my weight problem. I lost an election to become president of my fraternity because I did not look "presidential". It was bad. After I came out to my amazing buddhist therapist, I lost a ton of weight. By exercising and diet. I got down to 190-195. I felt great, but I was still chubby to date. I was not there yet. I graduated and started a job that got me traveling a lot. Although I developed a gym culture and I was working out, it was never enough. And the moment I was on the road, forget about it. Work days from 6am to midnight. It was just bad. So I went back up to 216. Being out of college I did not have that much money so I had to look at overseas options for it. I got my surgery done in Mexico for about 12k. The surgery went great, the hospital was beautiful and the doctor is a pro. (He has done hundreds of patients). I struggled a lot at the beginning, adapting to the diet. In 6 months I went down to 180, in 9 months 175. I have never been able to go down to my oh-so-desired 165lbs. But I am ok with it. I circle around 170-175 (depends on my diet and exercise) and body fat is at 25%. I am still self conscious of my body as I think it is skinny but flabby and I work out but I don't think I do it enough. I have been dating but I am still not where I want to be. Being able to look fashionable and stylish is the biggest reward I have gotten out of this experience. I never thought I would be able to.