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I keep having the same thoughts and conflicts about this surgery. I keep thinking that "I could give diet and exercise another try, really hard effort this time" or believe what others say that I'm "not that big" (I carry all my weight around my belly) even that this surgery is "quiting" or something. I also worry that I'll get to thin to soon and end up looking sickly or starved, something. I worry about execess skin and not being able to do anything about it since paying for this surgery is really going to tap out my resources. I worry that I'll never be able to get enough protein/nutrience when I go camping/hunting/ just out in the middle of nowhere. I worry about dehydration since my work you really work up a sweat and are pretty active regularly. I start to think things like my surgeon is only approving me so he can make money on this surgery, despite having been told by several doctors that this surgery could save my life, eventhough I'm 100lbs overweight,type 2 diabetes, almost no cartalige in my knees, degenerative disk in my back, high cholesterol, I almost refuse to go out into public because of body image issues. I bounce back and forth about my age and just not having time to mess with another diet plan that wont work.....I blame my therapist for this because she puts these seeds of doubt in my head. Is there anybody else who has ever felt this way?

I can't believe the last few weeks, after I jump through all the flaming rings of fire, my insurance won't cover VSG and now my surgeon says he won't do the band. What the hell do I do now, G-D, I just want some help losing this weight????????

Thanks for the replies, My insurance will only pay for two types of surgery, bypass and band. This surgeonsaid at the begining of the information session that "if you want the bad, they do those in mexico". This guy flat out refuses to do the band. I spoke with another hospital and I was told by the consultant that though she could not speak for the surgeon, she felt that my BMI and weight where in the range for the band. I have never had such a hard time trying to give my money to a group of people so that they could help me. My insurance covers 80% so the band is more in my price range. The bypass is almost three times the cost, but I don't want that surgery, it is my choice to an extent. I don't mind dieting but I need the help that the band should provide. I'm not looking for a quick fix. I just want to live a normal life, but it seems that others seem to have somethinf else in mind. I just need some help....

9 months that I will never get back, great. Now the surgeon's office is pushing the plumbing remodel surgery, damn, give me some time to absorb the blow to my little world people. Yes, UHC blames the surgeon, the surgeon blames UHC and I'm stuck in the middle... I DO NOT WANT the do-whatever switch-XYZ surgery. I really wasn't into getting the band, but oh well, here we go. I'm hoping that in a few(?) years UHC will pull their head out of their a$$ and accept this surgery. I'm a state employee and UHC goes by medicare standards. This bites A$$ to the highest level......

Yea, I spoke with 2 corrdinaters and one superviser, as per my insurance plan its the switch or band... if all else fails I'll get the band and try for a self pay revision in a couple of years, but something has got to be done because of health issues.... Thanks for you concern, i appricate it..

I want to thank everybody and their advice and concern, it was welcomed. I visited my surgeon today and discussed the concerns I have about after the surgery. He said that it was normal and that most people are worried up untill they are rolled into surgery. Three months latter they are more concerned about buying new clothes and staying on track with the lifestyle change. This doctor even said he would refer me to another surgeon if I was that uncomfortable. He pointed out that based on my medical/personal history that the chance of me losing the wait was very slim. He asked me what has being overweight and unable to lose those pounds have taken form me, what has being overweight KEPT me from doing? What has being this over weight cost me with my health? So after that I went home and took a good look in the mirror, something that I dislike doing a great deal. I did not like who I saw and what I had become. Yes being overweight has prevented me from doing things I enjoy, but I disagree that fat has taken anything from me, genetics yes, fat no. After doing some REAL deep self introspection, I came to the truth. I need this surgery not just to lose weight, but to have better health now and later on in life. I did ask about the whole not looking heavy comments that I have gotten, he said "what does the scale say". Just because you carry the extra weight well it does not prevent you from diabetes, destroyed knee joints, bad back ect, ect. So, I will gladly get his surgery and put the mind f*#king myself behind me. I just hope Goodwill has the clothes I need in my size when the time comes!!!

I hope/pray you get your wish, good luck.

Did anyone have any issues with urgency incontinence before VSG? Did the loss of body weight reduce this problem? Thanks

A serious question here, how hard is it to lose that annoying pad of fat around the crotch. Has anybody needed liposuction to remove the fat around this area? Thanks.

I wasn't going to respond to your post but I had to. Brother, this is your chance to bounce back by looking better and feeling better. Your a man, this is what men do, we go it alone when we have to and we beat the odds. NEVER let another person get in the way of your chance to live a normal, healthier life. She was just a bump in the road. When your looking better, your confidence goes through the roof. After a while you will wonder why you wasted so much time thinking about that person. Living well is th best revenge, take the chance, we only get one life...

I understand about being obese and having to got through highschool, it's the most degrading thing to suffer through, BUT, you have an option most of us didn't. So stay focused and cheer up, your doctor is in your corner and if he says your going to get the surgery then you will. Peace.

I had my third of four therapist visits, everything was going great with the conversation until the subject of WLS was brought up. This person again started with the "your not that big for WLS". I explained to this person that I've got four MD's that say I need it, like five years ago, so there is no real issue for concern about my size but for my medical needs. Then we had to go into "how" invasive WLS is. I explained that I find my health conditions more invasive than any surgery. The therapist then said, "your in a better place emotionally to try normal diet methods". Really...... Even after all the times I haved lost weight, I have NEVER been able to keep it off. I called the doctor that handled my psych eval to complain and it was explained to me that when the therapist sends their final report that the doctor is not looking for opinions about WLS but other factors. I was then told to just ride it out and trust your doctors. Why the hell do proffesional people think that they have so much influence that you would disreguard what your doctors say and blindly follow their advice, WTF!!!!

I would suggest a Single Auger Masticating Juicer, their great and the clean up is nowhere as difficult as other kinds of juicers. I seem to get more juice out of this type than the 'ol jack lalane' type. If you want you could always buy the wheat grass trays and use those, its like having a house plant. Walmart.com or Amazon.com seem to have the best prices. Good luck, you do get used to the taste which is not all that bad...

It's annoying isn't it? You have to talk yourself and your loved one's into getting VSG, though it turns out their are harder to convince that yourself.... Whether it's fear, jealousy or just plain change, people can come up with 1000 reasons not to get sleeved. I know, I just finished about 7 months of trying to convince my family and friends. Everybody seems to have a role in a family setting, hell my mother's nick name for me was Fatso. My friends are the same. That was my role, now that I'm stepping out of it and there is resistence. I'm going through this for me not anybody else. If it sounds self centered so be it, but I'm due for a change and I DESERVE a CHANGE. Good luck!!!!

Juicing is a great way to get ALOT of Vitamins in, I would recomend wheat grass shots and beet juice but be careful you might get the runs if you over do it....

Just spoke with the Dr. today and I only have one, yes one month to go and then I can be given my surgery date. I had some trouble since my original surgeon took off to the east coast. The new surgeon was really pushing for the xyz surgery over the sleeve, until today he finally agreed to do the sleeve. One more visit to the therapist, one more weigh in, then I'm off to slim's vill!!!!!!!!! Damn thing is I can't find some of those (a bunch) food logs, damn it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I understand about the whole NUT thing, I've only met with mine once. I was opposed to therapy not so much now. The thing that struck me as odd, as per my therapist is that most people who have WLS develope a sort of "resentment" towards some people that used to treat them poorly when they where heavy, but now treat them rather well. I can understand the frustration, your the same person just lighter, how can someone treat another so poorly because they are obese? Sometimes people suck i guess.....

Yes he has most of his experience in the xyz surgery, but the sleeve is a close second. His concern has to do with regaining weight and resolving other health issues like type 2, high lipids ect. As he tells it weight gain is about 8-10% with the xyz surgery as opposed to 15% with the sleeve. Truly I just want to be done with this and get on to living instead of existing!!!!!

I understand completely, my surgeon said that I would have to learn to carry a bottle of water and drink from it constantly. Since I won't be able chug water anymore. I don;t think it'll be as hard as I'm making it out to be!!!

He's the nicest surgeon I have ever met. Dr. David Podkameni.

Okay gang, I have another "ism" of mine..... (1) I read this EVIL Blog on WLS and how crappy it was. This person claims to be a "medical researcher" (on her own time) and is of the opinion that any WLS is waste of time, obese people are not THAT unhealthy. This person post some of the most disgusting pictures of the "after" surgery pictures. She even goes so far as to IMPLY that one of her freinds died of cancer because of WLS. I call it evil because the information in it started to eat at my resolve to make a change in my health/life style. I hate negative bastards like that. AND..... A co worker has had the bypass surgey and has lost A LOT of weight. Now me and this person dislike each other but I can understand why he had this surgery. I told him that he looked much better but I refused to pry into his very personal choice about getting this done. Well, all the hatefull have come out of the wood work and are complaining that "he looks like he's dying" or "he lost the weight to fast" and "what will he do with all the exess skin". He DOES look "ill" for lack of a better word but I hept that to myself since he has enough on his mind without people making comment about his apperance. This is the exACT REASON I'll never tell others at work about any WLS I'm considering... let them eat cake......

I swear I read on this site that it has something to do with the reduction in the amount of grehlin (?). It plays a roll in memory or something.

My therapist "suggested" tha I stay away from this site because it just screams "sickness". WTF, this is the one of the few places I can get some helpfull information. I should mention that this therapist is telling me that I really don't need WLS because I'm not that "big". Then why in the hell would two doctors give me letters of medical nessesity. Has anybody else had this problem???????

Can anyone share their exercise habits pre-op compared to post-op? Did the change in weight and apperance make it less difficult? I find with the extra weight is killing my knees and back. This makes it hard to get motivated to get out there and walk/run. Are you more active physically after your surgery? Thanks...