Nicole76

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So How does dating work after WLS? I mean I was told today that I was a bautiful personality,and a voluptuous body.absoutely gorgeous eyes, !!! now when do i tell him I will no longer have a vovoluptuous body?? lol.. of corse I find someone who loves BBW after I have WLS??? just my luck!

Today the day.. I'v lost 50 lbs!! What a great day to be me!!

Today the day.. I'v lost 50 lbs!! What a great day to be me!!

Working on me.... Its a hard thing to do..
 
I have spent a lot of my life taking care of people but when it comes time for myself I just cant seem to make the effort. WlS has made me look at myself in a diffent way.. for the frist time I have to put myself frist.. for the frist time I had to think about what I want !! in my life .. who I want in my life.. How I do this??

Right before I had my surgery my boyfriend broke up with me. The idea of me losing weight intimidated the life out of him. That was in May of 2011. I had my surgery in August 2011. I have lost 70 pounds. Recently I have been kicking around the idea of getting back on the horse so to speak. I have gone on a few first dates. I have tried to set it up to where we do not eat on these dates. More like a sit and talk and drink coffee date.
 
I honestly have no idea how to explain my decision to a stranger. So far it hasn’t been a problem. To be fair, the guys I have dated so far have been…well let’s just say we haven’t been compatible.
 
I’ve been talking to a new guy lately. I like him. I like him a lot. He is very different from anyone I have ever met. He wants to take me out to dinner. I am nervous about eating in front of him. I thought if I ordered soup maybe it would be okay. But I know from experience that people freak out when they see how little I eat.
 
I dread the idea of his first impression of me. I dread having to explain that I have had VSG. I really like this guy. And to be honest- I am tired of dating. I had pretty much just given up when I met him. He wants to go out next weekend. I am nervous and worried. I like him- I didn’t really like the others.

hello everyone. I am six day out of sugary. to day is a good day!! woohoo. Yesterday I had trouble headaches all day just felt like i was hit by a truck for most of the day! I had had a hard time drinking so i thin a dehydration was part of it as well! and a bad case of hard burn and no meds were helping!! finally some relief!
 
I been having A hard time with drinking but today seems to be a lot better! I still having a hard time getting water down no matter the temp. I find that to be a bit strange!
 
I been drinking a lot of crystal light ,boost proteins shakes, and Tea, tomato soup, jello, pudding, popsicles, are my new love. I all so had french onion soup today minins the cheese bread and onions my dad took care of that for me!! lol
 
excises has been good doing a lot of walking (in the Mall) little to cold to be walking the beach (i am in cape cod)
 
Sleeping hasn't been a problem for me. my incisions feel good just have one that is a lot more sensitives than the others. also one already has some of the glue coming off!

It isn’t easy coming out of the closet “so to speak”. When I decided to do the gastric sleeve the only two people who knew were my husband and daughter. It was the shame I felt to tell anyone else. The guilt I felt inside that I wasn’t able to take the weight off on my own. Recently, I ran into an old friend. Looking at me she said “Maddy you have lost so much weight how you did it?” I have to admit; I actually hesitated for a moment...and said nothing. Later, I thought to myself why did I hesitate to tell her? The only thing that came to mind was the simple word “fear”.
Why do we feel the need to hide our decision to have bariatric surgery? Is it because of low self esteem? The urgency of keep this big dark secret private or is it due to the way society sees fat people? We live with the constant advertising campaigns flashing thin stick models while we the “fat people” struggle to keep the scale from tipping. The dying “to be thin attitude”. The Taboo word “bariatric” does not fit into this world… until now. Today, we have the means to achieve weight goals we never had before. Folks like me who have battled the scale for years now have alternatives. So why hide this amazing news?
This week I did just that. I told my folks about my gastric sleeve. To my amazement they were supportive and very happy I took this journey. I cannot express to you how important it is to have family and friends to support you during your life changing weight loss. And it is indeed both mentally and physically a change. I now talk openly and candidly about my surgery. What amazing changes that has occurred over the last 5 months. Today, I am no longer on any medications to help me control my sugar, cholesterol or blood pressure. A MAJOR milestone in my life.
I blog and chat with other people who have gone through bariatric surgery. I did an online survey asking three questions… how many people have you told? Did you tell your friends? Have you told your family? To my amazement, 73% told less than 5 people, 76% did not tell their friends and more than 79% did not tell their family. Its sad that we feel the need to hide from this. Today, bariatric surgery is a useful necessity for those like me who just could not lose the weight. It’s time we stood up and made our voices heard that bariatric surgery is no longer a shameful procedure and see it as an amazing tool to good health.