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I agree Roe Roe, Dec 1st can't get here soon enough, sooooo excited!! Teresa

I'm the same surgery date as you...nervousness seems to be a common emotion, but I am also very excited, seems everything I do I think...next year this time I will be slim, or these summer clothes i am boxing up won't even fit me next year yay!!! Teresa

so very true

I agree, being heavy changes the way we behave, the courage we have, the love we have for our selves. Sometimes it's easy to fall into routines that we've been acting out for decades. They feel safe, there's no risk, but there comes a time when you have to ask yourself not if you'll BE happy after the band but if you're happy with who you are and your life NOW, because if you choose not to get the band or change your life everything will stay as it is. So you have to ask yourself this question... are you happy NOW? Will you be happy 5, 10 even 20 years from now if you keep everything as it is now? Sometimes our minds rebel when we start seeing ourselves successful in weight loss so we sabotage our efforts...maybe we don't think we deserve happiness. I have been in this mind set before. I'm done with it though- it took a lot of soul searching but I've finally reached my 'AH HA' moment. No one talked me into it, it's just a place I've arrived at. I took a good look at my life and realized I deserve to be happy, healthy, confident and by being heavy I avoid people- I hide or hibernate indoors, I feel miserable, I detest looking in a mirror and that is sad. I'm tired of being this unhappy and this mean to myself, I am a good person I do not need to be treated this poorly by me, enough looking in the mirror and saying such awful things about the way I look. This needs to change and the only one that can change it is me. I hope you continue to come to the forums, I hope you find your AH HA moment and I hope you realize you deserve happiness. We've only got this one life to live and maybe the Band is your second chance to get it right. Take care, Teresa

here is a link I came across, about transferring addictions http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/crossingtotransferaddictions/ I copied and pasted the group's content below from a website called obesityhelp.com, maybe check it out. One good thing is, at least you are aware you may be giving up one addiction for another, but instead of trying for a self cure, see what resources are out there, you don't have to do this alone. Teresa About Welcome to CROSSING TO TRANSFER ADDICTIONS. This group discusses the issue of transfer addictions (also known as cross addictions) after weight loss surgery. There are millions of people who have undergone gastric bypass who are now dealing with issues of addiction transfer. For a number of people, giving up overeating leads to adoption of a new compulsion. Addiction transfer occurs when someone is unable or unwilling to rely on one compulsion (for us, it was food) and so switches to a new compulsion (alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, shopping, internet, porn, etc) due to not having dealt with the underlying issue behind the compulsion. ***Please feel free (and safe) to discuss any and all issues you have regarding Transfer Addiction. WE WILL SUPPORT EACH OTHER WITHOUT JUDGEMENT!***

Good luck to you!! Congrats on making it to the first day of the rest of your skinny life!! Teresa

I find in my life over spending and over eating go hand in hand. Teresa

That is so cool, God to be able to run again!! Dreamy....Teresa

welcome, you have a super doctor to let you have thanksgiving dinner before starting. I head in for my surgery the week before you on Dec 1st. This time next year we are going to look so different!! Teresa

I don't know you, but I'm proud of you for spitting out the chip!! lol, and what's with surgery on Halloween?!! Mine is Dec 1st, I have yet to start my liquid diet from hell but I sure have been reading up on what to expect . Hang in there!! Teresa