Sandy123

I am getting my sleeve on Nov 1. I am so excited. I am 3 days in on my 2 week pre op diet and so far, so good. My problem is that my husband started out being supportive of my choice to have the surgery, but as it gets closer, he is having issues with it. He loves his food and thinks that I am ruining his life by doing this. He also makes little digs about getting my stomach ripped out and that he loves me the way I am and is worried that I will look saggy and droopy after losing weight. I really need to lose 100 lbs, not only to be healthy ( I am diabetic) but to finally after 48 years to like the way I look. Can anyone tell me how their spouses have dealt with this. Either before or after the actual weightless. I'm so psyched and he's making me nervous and apprehensive.

It is so nice to hear all your stories. I am sure he will support me when I actually have the surgery. I think this 2 week pre op diet is making him nervous, because he thinks I will never be eating again. I had lost alot of weight before we got married, and he loved the way I looked then. I got pregnant 3 months later, gained back the 80 lbs and have been carrying it around for 14 years. He has grown accustomed to my fat self but I have not. I hate the way I look and feel carrying this around. Plus the diabetes. I tried to diet and exercise and keep losing and gaining the same 20lbs. I just want to be that weight again... I've explained that to him. He knows it needs to be done but he doesn't want it to affect our "fun" eating. But I think when push comes to shove he will be there for me.

You guys brought tears to my eyes. You are so encouraging and I am blessed to have found this forum as way to connect with other wonderful people who are going thru or have gone thru the same issues I am having. I keep telling him that I will eat again soon but just like a normal person, not an obese one. He is trying to lose weight too but thru exercise, he still has a love of food. Hopefully he will love the new me. Thanks so much. You guys rock )

Well, so far I have no wrinkles on my face at age 48 due to my wonderful genes. In fact my mom is a young looking 82. I have been weight training for 6 years, 3 days a week, walking on treadmill 6 days a week.. So I'm hoping that the amount of muscle I have now works in my favor. It's nice to know there are others out there with the same issues. And there is always plastic surgery!!! Thanks. Good luck in your journey!!!

Thanks for that. It's nice to get a man's opinion. I will keep posting on progress.