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Hi Everyone, I had very high hopes of being sleeved in early Jan.,heading to Mexico. It has taken me so long to get here! Everything was going so wonderful. Passport-check, airplane tickets-check, down payment in the bank-check. After paying off two consecutive lloans off our credit union turned us down flat. Saying debt to ratio was not good any longer. Actually it has to do with how my husband pays himself through our home business mostly owner contributions. Not thinking much of it, we brought in our income tax for the last two years , from our accountant and it showed through these books our income is less than realistic, It is done properly, and absolutely on the up and up but after writing losses off our income appears much smaller Does that make any sense? We are upside down on our house, not to uncommon considering the economy, so no home equity loan. I was shocked for some stupid reason. Here we thought it would be easy breezy, our credit was half way decent and boy did we have a rude awakening. On top of that when they ran our credit it appears to of lowered my husbands score 10 POINTS! Can that be right? We just paid a $20k car off , in 6 years, way to long in financing years. (Not through the credit union.) I thought they would use it for colateral, it is in great shape. What a rude awakening, they said no. They do not like unsecured debt, our car is considered to old. Then... here we are tonight one of son's comes to us with his sweet little girlfriend,fiance, "We are getting married,( her parents are loaded $ plan on paying for most everything) , would you mind pitching in on just $1500.00?". They are planning this big whoopti-do event. I really actually want to help my son. He is a wonderful young man, but his timing could not be worse, (my deposit amount). My reality is like an ongoing nightmare, I felt like I was going to have a panic attack, while he was talking. We said we would discuss it and get back with him. Both my husband and I planned the financing out for the surgery. We thought all of our ducks were in a row. We planned that once we pay our car off we will get another loan, way less monthly payment than car note. My husband is actually the only one aware of me wanting to be sleeved. I can not share it with my kids. They would not be supportive and I do not care for the attention, drama or remarks on how unsafe it is . I also would not want my son to feel like he is burdening us at all or spoil his happiness with my grief. I am silently so discouraged and sad and aggravated. I feel like my hope just withered into thin air. Here comes my pity party...... All though my husband is extremely supportive and a great guy he does not have a clue. He is naturally lean and muscular. "He said, " maybe something will come up to get sleeved, sometime in the future, hold your head up". He also freaks about paying some huge finance rate. I just want to find a rock to crawl under. It seems hopeless. When I heard about the sleeve and decided it was for me it gave me back hope, it encouraged me to live again, to strive to work hard to diet AGAIN, to plan , to keep moving forward. Now it is just looks bleek again, I feel like a balloon with a huge hole, racing in the air, hitting the ground deflated! Someone grab the violin and play poor me, if I drank I would be crying in my beer! I am not a quiter. I know that for sure about me but tonight I want to!!! I am so mad! The most frustating today is not bouncing it off anyone, holding it in, not having an outlet, someone to brainstorm, someone in the same boat who UNDERSTANDS the disappointment, of living this existence in this body one more day longer than I have to! Thanks for the forum to ramble.

I am not sleeved yet but have a concern for after I heal from surgery. I really like snacks that are crunchy. I thought celery until I heard how harmful it can be to some of us. I obviously prefer something low calorie, low carb. Any suggestions? thanks.

I hardly told anyone, my husband and my sister . NO ONE else , not even my grown kids. Best decision I ever made. You will be fine. I did leave a letter behind to my family in the event something bad happened so my husband would not get the wrath of everyone I did not tell. You will be fine. I would say do not take the chance and lift heavy things for the time stated by your surgeon. Everyone is different but you could cause a leak. Best to you.

Welllll........ I am a day late and 2lbs up. I have issues. Blame it on the Bridal shower, ladies tea luncheon and another get together. My son is getting married in less than two weeks and we've been intertaining and just having one festivity after another. I am miserable with myself!!!! I refuse to go down with out a fight.... back to basics for me also!!! SW 04/09 189 04/16 184 04/23 182 04/30 180 05/07 181 05/14 177 05/21 179 (wieghed a day late) Goal 174 by Memorial Day

How are you about eating healthy all the time? Do you always measure, track, eat protien first? I am down 1/2 the weight I have wanted to lose in 4 months, so I am happy but not as deligent as I want or should be. I am by no means perfect and think I could do better. I have no problems eating any food, though I do not eat everything either. I stay away from anything white for the most part. How many of you (post sleeve) eat what you want (basically) and still loose? Not how much you consume, but whatever you want? I wonder how normal it is to fluctuate weight. I am up and down a lb through out the week, not always down. I weight myself at the same time, naked on an empty stomach, when I wake, once a day. Do you exercise? I walk anywhere from 3-6 miles a day 6 days a week. Could you tell how far out you are from surgery also . Thank you.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, Tell Trish that Stacey said hi from Florida. You are in good hands. She is the BEST!!!!

Awesome!!!!

You are not alone sweet girl. I go up and down also. I snuck a cookie and never wrote about it (if no one sees it but me, it did not happen lol, out of sight out of mind. I read way more than I post. I read yours just do not post .... sorry. You deserve a pity party after all you have been through. I have balloons you supply the pretend cake. It is all going to work out, you are going to look back one day exactly why you had to go through all of this. I will pray for you and will continue to also. I promise! I pray your appitite subsides. You have to get those bad carbs out of your system for a few days in order for the appeitite to not be so strong. You can do it. You must be stronger than you realize , think of all the things you been through and your still here concerned, not jumping over the cliff at Dairy Queen. Take it easy on yourself, your doing good. Remember this, it is not a race..... it is one day at a time, everyday. We all have bad days eating the wrong things. It's funny, I had not posted a topic in a few weeks and just got done posting one, asking others how good they were about what they eat. See... we all struggle, that why we had to have surgery. You are right where you are suppose to be. ((((big hug lady)))

I believe so.... but the key words in your statement is No lifting or tugging and really take it easy.

Goal 15lbs, goal of 174 by Memorial Day. 04/09 189 lbs 04/16 184 lbs - (5) 04/23 182 lbs -(2) 04/30 180 lbs -(2) 05/07 181 lbs +(1) 05/14 177 lbs -(4) yeahhhhh!

Maybe that is why the other times did not work out for it wasn't the right surgery. I gaurentee your going to love your sleeve. Congrats and follow through!

I was sleeved by Dr. Kelly also. I recovered easily and have had sero issues. I am down 51 lbs in 3 months, counting pre diet, have 40+ to go. I went from a 22 to a 14 and still going down. Very excited about the future.!!!!!

I am 3 months out yes yes yes yes God Bless!!!

It sounds like you are doing well. If you are vomiting though you might not be ready yet for solids or try chewing, chewing, chewing reallllllllly slow. Congrats on the weight loss, doing well!!!

Praying for a positive outcome. Keep your spirits up, it will all work out.

04/09 189 (starting weight for challange) 04/16 184 04/23 182 04/30 180 05/07 181 (up 1 lb. this week bummer!)

I am 3 months out from surgery. I do think of food. I also had no issues healing and my sleeve tolerates most anything. I do feel uncomfortable when full and I do stop myself but the emotional toll it takes has just recently been on my radar. Up until this time, I could not eat as much, now I can consume more.I am healed for the most part. Maybe not enough to worry at this stage but if I did eat cookies and so called slider foods, it could become a big issue. Today I went to a bbq and gave into some macaroni salad, something I stay away from(pasta). It was scary to me because it did not make me feel really full or anything. Embrace that feeling of not being able to eat. I really understand what everyone is saying, I felt that way but after today I have a new found respect for that ovbious restriction we call mourning, because when it goes away then it is up to you and not a signal, that you shouldn't eat that. Also, it is not the healthy protein things that don't signal you, it is the cookies, fattening chips, slider foods that are easier to comsume. Beware. What I really learned today is there is an amount of time you condition yourself to adjust, not "wait till I can comsume more like a regular person" because when it is here it is far to easy to mess up on the foods that made us obese. I can eat 2-3 oz of chx and feel way full but give me a big bag of chips and I just want more. Hope I am making sense. Please don't take this as me trying to be negitive, just a little scared straight today. Be careful what you wish for....

Walk, walk walk walk walk and then you have nothing to fear. If you lie there then you will hurt more. Everyone is different.

I love Trish, isn't she awesome. She is so helpful and knowledgeable. She was my coordinator in Feb. with Dr. Kelly. I recommend her highly!!!!!!

Stay Hopeful!!!! Believe, Pray and keep believing and praying!!!! I was in your shoes, I also recall feeling like no hope. No money, no way of coming up with it. I looked to others to help, they didn't . I eventually had to rely on myself, my way. I had yard sales, I found stuff people were giving away and sold that to. I am a waitress. I saved every nichol I could and put it in a bank (without an ATM card) in a savings account. My credit was not great. I somehow saved up over $2500. in 4 months. YEAH, ME WHO WAS BROKE LIVING WITH PENNIES, WEEK TO WEEK. I just wanted to be sleeved more than anything. I still did not have enough and could not get a loan from a bank. My credit was not great and my husband's small family business was not doing well. I woke up one night and remembered a lady I knew years ago that worked at a bank, She was really nice to me like 20 years before. I recalled her name, looked her up that morning, called her.... she ended up being (after all those years later) the head of the loan department. She helped me to attain a loan becuase she believed in me and who I was years before. My point.... you keep believing, see it , taste it, know it, live like you are getting sleeved. Prepare yourself, walk into it.. Don't wait for your parents(relying on them). The door will open up. Taste it, dream it, breath it. Want it more than anything, it will happen if you want it. Guess what.... it is worth it. I never thought I would see a size 14 ever again. I am only 3 months out, down from a tight 20 , really 22. YOU CAN DO THIS. I can not wait for the day you say, guess what... I am sleeved. Go to Mexico. If you have no money, find a nichol put it in a piggy bank, they add up. Just do it!!!!!

From the start of this journey , when I started my weight loss on my prediet... today I am 50lbs down. I am 12 weeks out and have lost over half the weight that I have wanted to lose. I have about 45 to go and then I will rethink and see how I feel. I could not be happier. I love my sleeve.

Okay, Something happened last week and I did not even notice. All I did was copy some of week 4/16, I never reconrded my 2lb loss for last week. So to update , here it is: Working on a 15lb challange by Memorial Day Starting weight 189 04/09 189 04/16 184 yeah great week 04/23 182 I am happy 04/30 180 I am tickled!

Awesome idea, experience sells. You having been heavy and going through what you have totally sells to someone still on the other side. Congrats to you and you should be very proud of your accomplishments!!! Even ones that arn't quite been met yet. Not only are you helping yourself but helping others is key!!!! Your amazing!

I am sorry you are feeling bad. On your bad day you are helping so many others. I needed to hear that today. I am losing weight, I am happy for that but I also still see the fat , the more lines in my face as I am getting older, and the awkwardness of the attention. Not bad attention or just people saying hey , wow you are losing and all of that. Just never had it and am not real good at compliments. It is all just awkward. I know it is a process. I love you blogs, I might not respond but do not think for a moment that you don't make a difference. All your moods, and what you say is relevent and helpful. God Bless and I will be praying for you. P.S. DO NOT CLAIM THAT STRICTURE. YOU DO NOT HAVE ONE AND THIS TO WILL PASS!!!!!!

Amazing! You do not even look like the same person. You also look 10 years younger!