SkinnyMiniMe

I gave you the website but they have an app too

myfitnesspal.com its the best!

You are a lot like me...always looking for my parents approval. Well I had an Ah-Ha moment at my psych appointment last week...and that I am always trying to prove myself to my parents especially my dad. From my career, too my personal life and even proving that I could be my drivers license in the first road test at 17! the list goes on and on...and then it hit me like a ton of bricks....when I was small (like under 10) I was very thin. I hated to eat because my tonsils always bothered me and I remember my parents always being worried and upset that I was so thin and didn't eat. I think I unconsciously pack on the weight to prove them wrong or to make them happy! O-M-G I don't blame them because being a parent I understand their worry because my son is the same way. With him I just know not to give him a hard time. BUT now that I am heavy and my parents would like me to be thin so once again I am trying to prove them wrong...I have to break that cycle and do this for me and only me so I can be a better mother, wife, daughter and friend! My mom still shakes her head with uncertainty about this surgery, but I am doing me this time so I don't care. She is supportive because she knows I made my mind up, she'll come around and by next year she will be telling me it was the best thing I ever did for myself! Especially when I start going to family function again after avoiding them for the last 8 years!

That's great! I too lost weight on my own many times but guess what? it came back but if I had a band in me I could have tried to stop the weight gain sooner. For me Losing is the easy part, keeping it off is the hard part. If you ever stray you may find yourself wanting to fill your band and it will be there for you wether you need it or not. That's is he bonus of being banded

I understand that our relationship with food will change but most cooks/chef are thin. I understand your mental conflict. We just have to relearn how to love food without it taking control of our minds and bodies. You know, like normal people do. I am hoping our band will b*tch slap us into reality if we start over eating. Lastly this is your turn to help yourself out. Only you alone can go through this journey. You can do it and give your dad a gift by living a happy life and a healthy one for many years. Means a lot to a parent to see their children happy and living their best life. Now get on your journey with a positive attitude cause you can do it, just believe it for yourself!

Good comparison Matt!

First I like to say congrats and thank you sharing. I have been following few people and after their surgery they don't update. For us newbies that are still in pre-op it's good to hear other's experience. I intend to return the favor soon Secondly, although it was sad that you miscarried ...I would say that your unborn child served a purpose. It was you ah-ha moment. Everyone's life serves a purpose in this world and for him or her it was perhaps to save your life, for you to get healthy and live longer for your other children. That child will always be in heaven watching over you while you go on this journey and into a new part of your life. Good luck and wish all the success!

Thanks for the update. Us pre-op newbies are always looking for positive outcomes. BTW have you found it hard mentally at times or fairly easy?

There should be a report link somewhere on the email page. Look for it, I know I have used it before.

I like it but It would be nice to have some form of explanation of what changed besides the look. I see that you can like a comment. Does it notify the comment writer? There is no more + or - feedback? It took me a while to figure out that lol

Get the FitBit. I am really excited to try it out. It will be my Christmas gift to myself. It will tell you how many steps you take and what you burn. You can upload it to your computer and it will give you charts of your activity and you can track what you eat so you know you are burning more than what you are taking in. Look it up check it out ...it will be cheaper than the gym but you must keep moving.

I actually have not tried it yet but I will pick it up. BTW if you are interested in the Private Facebook December Group inbox me your name and location. I will friend you, add you to the group then defriend you for privacy. Its great cause no ones knows about the group uinless you are in it. We already have 22 members and counting.

Friend request sent!!! BTW thanks for the link, having a hard time finding of you guys

That's Right!!! 2012 is your comeback year & mine too BTW if you are still interested in the secret Facebook Group for us December Bandsters. In box me your name with location. We already have 19 members. I couldn't find you. I will put you in the group. Hope to see you there....most importantly wish you much success!!!!

Thank you for this post. I have decided when I first started on this journey to focus only on the things that I want to achieve. I have sorrounded myself with "Positive Thinkers" and "Inspirational Friends". It is because of this post from you and many others that I would like to return the favor when I am where you are in my journey. Thank You!

BTW my surgeon yesterday told me that the lapband procedure takes him 20 minutes to put it in! That is minimal time to be under anesthsia. These procedures are not what they use to be when they would have to cut someone down their torso. This is from Dr. Robert Anthony book "Beyond Positive Thinking" (1) "don't listen to others who are coming from fear and living in negativity. If you do, you are using YOUR creative powers to help THEM manifest what they fear." In New York ...we would just say "F*ck 'Em" ....LMAO Do you! It's no ones business.