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I am worried about post op support after leaving the hospital. I am scheduled to have a gastric sleeve done in 1 month and my wife decided to leave me. Can/will anybody tell me if this can be done alone? I have always been pretty independant but I never palnned on going thru this by myself. To make it even better my weight loss counselor at my program is moving to Alaska in a week. I kind of feel lost and am thinking of cancelling the surgery. Any advice or words of wisdom will be greatly appreciated.

SMKELLER, I do appreciate your concern and your honesty. I realize so many people only want to see the positive they never even consider the negatives. I have spoke at long lengths with my counselor about the depression that many face after the surgery even when things are going well. I do worry about that, especially now with everything else I am going thru, but I think I feel more depressed when I think about being overweight for the rest of my life. I may have needed her (my wife) help to get me started, but I feel I can go the distance on my own. I do have a few friends that will be there for me and a wonderful support group. My main fear is what if something goes wrong and I am home alone with my kids. I wasn't even planning to tell their mother I was having the surgery (she thinks I'm going on a vacation that week), but I guess I better man up and let her know. Like I said I will discuss it with the surgeon and if he has any doubts then I will postpone it. Thank you again for your honesty and for pointing out it's not alway six pack abs and beautiful women on the other side. Bt a boy can dream can't he.

I am nervous but I still have to meet with my surgeon and have the EGD done. My plans are to talk to him, have known him for years, and let him know my concerns. After talking to him if I still am having any doubts I think I will delay. I've already lost 20 pounds and only wat to lose 50 more, major surgery may be a little drastic for only 50 punds. The reason I considered the surgery in the first place is because of health issues. I have extremely high blood pressure, diabetes type 2, and a dissected aorta (tear on the inner lining). Losing weight and keeping it off is the best thin I can do for all these conditions. In the past I could drop weight with ease, but I always gained it back. Since turning 39 I can't drop it like I use to and even if I did I haven't ever been able to keep it off. The up and down is even worse for my aorta than just staying up. My main motavation is I have a 7 yo son and a 12yo daughter, I want to walk her down the aisle and teach him to drive and do all those things a father is suppose to do. The rate I'm going even if I live long enough for those things I wil be so sohort of breath that I won't be able to do them. Thanks to all who read this and tell their stories, give encouragement, advice, and wisdom. I appreciate each and every one of you.

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But I'm a man I can't even ask for directions...LOL Thank you alll of you for your words of encouragement. I commend you all for your person triumphs and hope and pray that I will be writing my success story within the next few months.