Hi! I'm scheduled for sleeve surgery on June 1st. I'm excited and nervous and highly impatient!
I'm struggling with this, and I need some help....
I'm finding myself very concerned and at times wondering if I should even have the surgery because of what it's going to do emotionally to my daughter.
She's 14, bright, beautiful, somewhat popular, gifted in many ways... but like her mom, she's overweight. Her body image is so out of whack - when she looks in the mirror she sees a severely obese girl though she's not. She's 5'6 and 190 lbs, and honestly, she doesn't look that. She tries to "diet", she tries to eat better, she's an active dancer... and then she gets down on herself and gives up.
Obviously, I haven't set a really good example for her, but I do believe there must be genetics in there as well, as the majority of my family is obese and has always struggled with weight. My husband had the gbp 6 years ago. I'm trying to set a better example for her now, but what if I'm too late?
It troubles me somewhat to hear her say that when she grows up she is going to have this surgery. As though she has already given up, as though there is no hope. I don't know how to help her if she gives up on herself.
Also, I am very worried how she is going to handle my losing weight. She has said off handedly that she will cry when I am smaller than she is. I mean, for heaven's sake, she's a teenager and her whole life is image right now. She looks at her friends and many of them are that disgusting size 2 we bypassed in grade school!! I think it's gonna be really hard on her and therefore will be really hard on me as well.
I feel guilty. Please help me.
