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This is not a success story but I am posting it here because when you reach goal or lower, these are issues that I am dealing with. So here are the issue I am having now. I get constantly told how skinny I am or that someone does not like me because "your skinny". I get looks, I get stares, and I get under breath comments. I also am constantly being told..."You need to eat more!" or "When are you gonna stop loosing weight, you don't want to look sick?" or "Are you sick, did something happen to you?" WOW.......this is really getting to me. I know others in my position have or are currently dealing with some of these issues. I try to be patient and calm when someone offends me, because I do understand, however...it's getting REAL OLD! I guess when I decided to make the decision to get the sleeve I made this choice for my health, not to yo yo diet anymore which I knew was bad for my health. I made this choice to be able to live a longer life for myself and my family. I did not once make this choice to deal with any of these issue now. I understand that to some degree, it comes with the territory. What I did not realize is that society and people can be so jealous , mean hearted, and envious. I keep thinking about a saying......"Watch out for what you wish for"........ So to all of you that are about to start your journey, are in it, or done......these are things to think about. Not that I would not have been sleeved had I known this...more that I wish I had a realization of reality of life skinny......the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence.....trust me, I'm in the neighbors yard and it's not green over here either. Lydia

I think this is a very healthy way to think!

Yep I feel you on this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I like that kill them with kindness..it's just easier said than done!

OMG you look absolutely AMAZING! That dress is so beautiful! I am so happy for you! Aren't these moments an amazing feeling! :biggrin:

That is awesome.......what a great idea!!!!!!!! Thank you for the compliment :biggrin:

Oh boy...ya well welcome to our club! These are issues you will deal with from those that knew the obese you. It really does get challenging doesn't it? HHHMMM what to do..well if I were you I would not make an issue of something UNTIL it's an issue. If this situation came up again ...then say something. I love this forum because we all have or will have some many issues like this...and only those that have gone through it get it. Good luck girl :biggrin:

I know....it just really sucks though. What I love about this forum is that you guys get it, while nobody else does.

Yep...and be prepared for more to come from her too..........I am not friends with several people now that I am "SKINNY"...like really.......FU! It is very very very hard....i thought these people were my friends....when in reality I was only a friend to them when I was obese. SICK it's just SICK....get it together people.....I am the same person!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ok I feel a little better now.... :biggrin:

You rock Warrior! I know what this is like too...last year 3 moths post op I was a 14 and hubby bought me an expensive jacket for Xmas. This year I am a size 5/6....WTH???? Good news is that they can alter it down without any issues! Keep on going for your last 25....are you ready for a size medium or small...

Let me tell you ......all of us need to remember what obese was like forever...and to treat people the way WE want to be treated, regardless what we look like on the outside. Words can be swords and can cut people hard!!!!!!!!!!!!

You look absolutely AMAZING! Congrats on such a great moment in your life!

Oh ya I also get messages from people on facebook!!!!!!!!!!!!!! gggggggrrrrrr

I did this for several months also at the 3 month point...lasted about 5 months. I lost almost 160 in about a year. I just had a very hard time eating calories. I also ate almost all Protein diet with supplements. FYI I never got sick or had any issues with my sleeve, other than my skin sagging all over and on my face. That now is gone. Oh drink lots of Water, it helps with the skin elasticity!!!!!!!!!!

Hey girl 55 is the new 25! WOOT WOOT!

Oh I do remember that day myself.........It was AMAZING! Congratulations! You go girl!

Oh boy...it just keep getting more and more irritating.......Yes woman are mostly the ones I deal with.......I need to learn to get over this...I know...it's just easier said than done. I am so happy with myself, what I have accomplished and my weight loss. The outside of me has changed dramatically ...but not the inside! I am still Lydia..I wish others could figure that out!

You are right down the street from me...I am just up Hwy. 9!!!!!!!!! By Cathcart! I did not do local...I went to Mexico...Dr Aceves. Best surgeon I have ever had...... Exactly what I think on the girls/ guy thing too........it's really sad though because they don't know me...I have been married for 26 years since I was 16 years old......come on now...and I am a grandma too!!!!!!!!!!!!

You look amazing! Wait till next year....you will freak! :Banane55:

I remember my 3 month was around New Year's. We had pics taken that night and I was half the size I was before sleeve...and now I am more than half the size I was at New Years! The mind morphing for me started at 3 months for me at least.

Exactly! I was never called FAT....what gives people the right to call me skinny! It's just so warped! Anorexia is the big one too...... I DON"T EAT AND PUKE MY food PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hello?????? Can you tell how frustrated I am! gggrrrrr

I bet that was amazing! I have had a couple of those moments myself...it's an amazing feeling!!!!!!!!!!!!

9/25/10 and I have lost 160 lbs!