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Well, 4 days down, 3 to go! My date is March 7th and I couldn't be happier. The only thing on my mind that is bothering me has nothing to do with the surgery... So my friend and I have been trying to lose our extra weight for some years now after our children. I have been trying with no luck at all for nearly 7 years. She has been trying and has lost about half of what she needs to for about 2 1/2 years. The difference is I have done this before, with my first child I dropped the excess within the first 3-4 yrs. I was 20 years old for goodness sake. My kids are 8 1/2 yrs apart. I had my youngest at 28, nearly 10 years after the first. I'll turn 35 on March 6, the day before my surgery. Things are not the same this time. Everything I did the first time is NOT working. Trust me, I have ALL the willpower in the world and motivation. My weight is literally on my mind 24/7! This time I have Hypothyroidism, PCOS, Metabolic Syndrome & I'm Pre-Diabetic! She has NONE of these and I had none the first time. About two years ago I had looked into LapBand, she was onboard, even emailed me pics of people she knew of before & afters. She once even told me she was doing this even if she had to gain extra weight! I didn't get LapBand, which now I know was a blessing, and neither did she. Since then she has lost quite a bit of her weight on her own. The point I'm getting at is now since I have decided to do this, she keeps calling me a CHEATER. The first time she said it I couldn't believe it. But now she even has her daughter, which is my dd's best friend, calling me that too. I just feel irritated and like a failure before I even get started. This weekend while on my pre-op diet, she saw how tough it's going to be and I thought "Ok, maybe she's going to see how tough it is and stop?" No, now she's telling me this isn't worth it, that she likes food too much and am I sure I know what this entails. She also proceeds to tell me what yummy food they're eating out as she knows I'm sipping my broth! She's the ink one giving me this kind of grief, yet she's one of the people I'm closest to. I guess I just needed to write this down to get it out of my head and maybe now I can let it go. Thank you to everyone for all the support on this forum. You guys/gals have helped me so much and I am very excited for all of our lives to be changed for the better!

Omg, you literally made me LOL, I mean really loudly too! Love it! I already had the surgery, March 7, down 32 lbs. You can definitely tell. The last time I saw her she said, "I guess I can tell in your face, but everything else still looks the same." Ha! Such a witch. I'm becoming more at peace with this day by day. She is NOT a friend and I don't think she ever has been. She's a miserable person and I'm not. I think that's her main issue with me. Adios bitchacho! Ha!

My perfect situation would have definitely been to have this conversation with her in person, but I had just had enough. She also uses texting to say ugly things and she can always say she was just playing or i took it the wrong way. We still have not spoken, don't know that we will. It's sad, but I do believe it was headed here anyway. Sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on to people who Celebrate you, as you celebrate them. Good luck to you with your BFF, it's not a fun subject.

[*WARNING: LONG POST!* Well, I finally had enough! Here's how the conversation went, we haven't spoken or texted for a week. We used to speak everyday. It's not good between our girls either, which were best friends before I told them about my surgery. Her: When can you start working out with me? Me: I started walking this last week and my calves are screaming already, lol Went and had a body scrub, a facial & a massage today for my first 25 lbs gone. I had like 215 in GC's to use so i was like heck yeah! I'm like sore jell-o! Her: Oh Im looking forward to making you runnnn as punishment for cheating and turning me down for bootcamp all year!! (Side note: I would NOT go to The bootcamp SHE goes to because she's so judgmental) Me: Cheating? Screw that, this was definitely not cheating! Her: It definitely wasnt waking up every morning at 5 to lose 25 pounds in 8 months either. Im just messing with you, I know surgery was hard. (Complete sarcasm) Me: Ok (Then I thought on it for a few minutes and started fuming!) Me again: Ok last I'm hearing of that cuz I love ya and we are in two totally different places. I've been working just as hard for 7 damn years. It's not like it was when I lost it the first time. I've done bootcamp long before you and I were friends. Just because I wasn't at bootcamp with you doesn't mean I wasn't working on my own. There I'm so done with the cheating comments! We can be friends again dde18 Her: K (She's pissed, lol) Her again: Im pretty sure I haven't overloaded you with cheating comments though so not sure where that came from? Her again: I've actually tried to avoid them even as jokes. Me: Because I've heard it about all I can and even your daughter calls me a cheater. Her: My kid is a turd. And sorry, didn't realize my few joking comments were that extreme. My apologies. Me: ok (I'm literally shaking, I'm so pissed) Her: Maybe we are too different to be bff's? I dont know. Makes me sad to hurt your feelings. I didn't mean to. Me: This was a huge decision and I was embarrassed enough to even tell people. Now nearly everyone I know knows and I can face the looks and the judgments just fine, but when it comes to my closest friends, which I consider you it hurts a lot worse then. I'm not angry, just a little irritated that I was hoping for more support than being labeled a freaking cheater. Me again: Maybe so Her: I am not labeling you, I swear. Honestly you know me well, if I really thought you were a cheater I wouldn't say anything at all. I thought I have been supportive, going well out of my comfort zone and being made fun of for being "nice" to be supportive of you. Me: You're being made fun of? From the card? I certainly didn't "make fun of you" at all I was genuinely surprised and so appreciative for that because I DO know that's hard for you. Her: Ok surprised then. Sorry for any hurt feelings, not my intention. (She's irritated) Me: That's why I was do shocked because you & "child" had just called me a cheater the first time like just a few days beforehand! I thought ok maybe she's getting this is hard for me and I'm embarrassed! When you're a jokester "Friend", people are going to be surprised when you do something out of the ordinary! No one made fun at all, it was really nice and a totally different side of you to see that's all. Her: Of course I get it, and if me & "child" weren't close friends I would never have called you a cheater. It is just how we are, I dont know. She and I never told "friend who had DS" she was a cheater only behind her back lol and I haven't said one word to anyone about you at all, never have never will. Again, we are just different I guess. Maybe too much so but I'd hate that. making me cry at work Me: Well I'm definitely sorry for that then...I didn't mean to hurt your feelings by being surprised by the card at all, I didn't even tell you that until you told me about your sister & "child" Being shocked that you gave it to me. Sounds like we need a group hug! Lol Me again: I'm sorry girl, I was just like ok if I hear it one more time I'm gonna get super pissed so I better go ahead and say it over text now and get it over with. You know I don't mind being made fun of, it's totally fine. But this is a LOT different. I already have in my head that I'm a cheater and a failure that I couldn't get this off for SEVEN FREAKING YEARS! And also that no one really knows how hard I've tried and that being "the fat girl" is NOT who I am. I'm not myself at all anymore. It's literally all I think about 24/7. That's not a life. So, I did something about it and that's it. Regardless of how, I'm still going to be proud whether I "cheated" or not. I guess that's what threw me off is I knew you thought that about "friend who had DS" and here I am now lumped in HER group. Not cool. Don't cry, I'm sorry. Next time I won't say a word, last thing I want is for you to be upset because my poor baby feelings were hurt. Her: Well you thought that about "friend who had DS" right along with me until you were left with no choice for yourself and Ive never lumped you in her group because she admittedly did nothing before or after to help herself. I'd rather you get it off your chest so I know. Her again: won't be said again. Me: I didn't think she was a "cheater". She admittedly is eating whataburger and all types of fried foods and hasn't even tried to exercise! But it's HER life! But her surgery is completely different from mine and I didn't eat like her before so I won't be eating like her now and won't be afterwords. Her: I got onto "child" for hurting your feelings and she said she wouldn't say it anymore. She is too much like me in some ways, not always the good ways! Group jug next time we are all together. Me: Well she's gonna be pissy at me now! Lol, alright so all is good and we're fine? Thanks for hearing me out. S*@ doesn't ever really bother me but for some reason that just hit a nerve :/ My grandpa saw me eating about 2oz of soup the other day, and says "I thought we just paid to make you stop doing that" I waited for him to laugh...he didn't. Crap like that I'm going to have to deal with. Her: I guess we're fine til I mess up again (This is her way of blaming me I guess?) Me: You didn't mess up. We all say crap that hurts people's feelings. I know I do. I just thought I'd tell you or wouldn't know that that struck a nerve. As much as I tried not to let it bother me. I'm not the one that said we shouldn't be friends missy!!! Me again: Girl, I don't have a friend that's close that I haven't had an argument with. If anything it makes you closer because you don't have a fake superficial friendship. You know more about me than most because I'm over letting people get close to me for purposes other than being a friend. People are generally nice on the surface but many use you. Arguments are completely natural. You just have to decide if the person you're arguing with is worth it? And that's it, no response, no screw you, no nothing. Guess a 7 year friendship is over. It's bitterweet. I know she can be toxic. I have even spoken to her sister who's a friend of mine. She basically said she's bitter and doesn't know how to be happy for others because she's miserable. That's it in a nutshell. Thanks for listening! My husband can only listen to me ramble on about this so much! LOL

*WARNING: LONG POST!* Well, I finally had enough! Here's how the conversation went, we haven't spoken or texted for a week. We used to speak everyday. It's not good between our girls either, which were best friends before I told them about my surgery. Her: When can you start working out with me? Me: I started walking this last week an my calves are screaming already, lol Went and had a body scrub, a facial & a massage today for my first 25 lbs gone. I had like $215 in GC's to use so i was like heck yeah! I'm like sore jell-o! Her: Oh Im looking forward to making you runnnn as punishment for cheating and turning me down for bootcamp all year!! (Side note: I would NOT go to The bootcamp SHE goes to because she's so judgmental) Me: Cheating? Screw that, this was definitely not cheating! Her: It definitely wasnt waking up every morning at 5 to lose 25 pounds in 8 months either. Im just messing with you, I know surgery was hard. (Complete sarcasm) Me: Ok (Then I thought on it for a few minutes and started fuming!) Me again: Ok last I'm hearing of that cuz I love ya and we are in two totally different places. I've been working just as hard for 7 damn years. It's not like it was when I lost it the first time. I've done bootcamp long before you and I were friends. Just because I wasn't at bootcamp with you doesn't mean I wasn't working on my own. There I'm so done with the cheating comments! We can be friends again ???? Her: K (She's pissed, lol) Her again: Im pretty sure I haven't overloaded you with cheating comments though so not sure where that came from? Her again: I've actually tried to avoid them even as jokes. Me: Because I've heard it about all I can and even your daughter calls me a cheater. Her: My kid is a turd. And sorry, didn't realize my few joking comments were that extreme. My apologies. Me: ok (I'm literally shaking, I'm so pissed) Her: Maybe we are too different to be bff's? I dont know. Makes me sad to hurt your feelings. I didn't mean to. Me: This was a huge decision and I was embarrassed enough to even tell people. Now nearly everyone I know knows and I can face the looks and the judgments just fine, but when it comes to my closest friends, which I consider you it hurts a lot worse then. I'm not angry, just a little irritated that I was hoping for more support than being labeled a freaking cheater. Me again: Maybe so Her: I am not labeling you, I swear. Honestly you know me well, if I really thought you were a cheater I wouldn't say anything at all. I thought I have been supportive, going well out of my comfort zone and being made fun of for being "nice" to be supportive of you. Me: You're being made fun of? From the card? I certainly didn't "make fun of you" at all I was genuinely surprised and so appreciative for that because I DO know that's hard for you. Her: Ok surprised then. Sorry for any hurt feelings, not my intention. (She's irritated) Me: That's why I was do shocked because you & "child" had just called me a cheater the first time like just a few days beforehand! I thought ok maybe she's getting this is hard for me and I'm embarrassed! When you're a jokester "Friend", people are going to be surprised when you do something out of the ordinary! No one made fun at all, it was really nice and a totally different side of you to see that's all. Her: Of course I get it, and if me & "child" weren't close friends I would never have called you a cheater. It is just how we are, I dont know. She and I never told "friend who had DS" she was a cheater only behind her back lol and I haven't said one word to anyone about you at all, never have never will. Again, we are just different I guess. Maybe too much so but I'd hate that. making me cry at work Me: Well I'm definitely sorry for that then...I didn't mean to hurt your feelings by being surprised by the card at all, I didn't even tell you that until you told me about your sister & "child" Being shocked that you gave it to me. Sounds like we need a group hug! Lol Me again: I'm sorry girl, I was just like ok if I hear it one more time I'm gonna get super pissed so I better go ahead and say it over text now and get it over with. You know I don't mind being made fun of, it's totally fine. But this is a LOT different. I already have in my head that I'm a cheater and a failure that I couldn't get this off for SEVEN FREAKING YEARS! And also that no one really knows how hard I've tried and that being "the fat girl" is NOT who I am. I'm not myself at all anymore. It's literally all I think about 24/7. That's not a life. So, I did something about it and that's it. Regardless of how, I'm still going to be proud whether I "cheated" or not. I guess that's what threw me off is I knew you thought that about "friend who had DS" and here I am now lumped in HER group. Not cool. Don't cry, I'm sorry. Next time I won't say a word, last thing I want is for you to be upset because my poor baby feelings were hurt. Her: Well you thought that about "friend who had DS" right along with me until you were left with no choice for yourself and Ive never lumped you in her group because she admittedly did nothing before or after to help herself. I'd rather you get it off your chest so I know. Her again: won't be said again. Me: I didn't think she was a "cheater". She admittedly is eating whataburger and all types of fried foods and hasn't even tried to exercise! But it's HER life! But her surgery is completely different from mine and I didn't eat like her before so I won't be eating like her now and won't be afterwords. Her: I got onto "child" for hurting your feelings and she said she wouldn't say it anymore. She is too much like me in some ways, not always the good ways! Group jug next time we are all together. Me: Well she's gonna be pissy at me now! Lol, alright so all is good and we're fine? Thanks for hearing me out. S*@$ doesn't ever really bother me but for some reason that just hit a nerve :/ My grandpa saw me eating about 2oz of Soup the other day, and says "I thought we just paid to make you stop doing that" I waited for him to laugh...he didn't. Crap like that I'm going to have to deal with. Her: I guess we're fine til I mess up again (This is her way of blaming me I guess?) Me: You didn't mess up. We all say crap that hurts people's feelings. I know I do. I just thought I'd tell you or wouldn't know that that struck a nerve. As much as I tried not to let it bother me. I'm not the one that said we shouldn't be friends missy!!! Me again: Girl, I don't have a friend that's close that I haven't had an argument with. If anything it makes you closer because you don't have a fake superficial friendship. You know more about me than most because I'm over letting people get close to me for purposes other than being a friend. People are generally nice on the surface but many use you. Arguments are completely natural. You just have to decide if the person you're arguing with is worth it? And that's it, no response, no screw you, no nothing. Guess a 7 year friendship is over. It's bitterweet. I know she can be toxic. I have even spoken to her sister who's a friend of mine. She basically said she's bitter and doesn't know how to be happy for others because she's miserable. That's it in a nutshell. Thanks for listening! My husband can only listen to me ramble on about this so much! LOL

Hello, I'm sure I'm being crazy but just wanted to write it down and see what y'all thought... I had the sleeve on 3/7. Starting weight was 221, after pre-op was 207 on day of surgery. My lowest was three days ago @ 194.4. Then yesterday and today I'm between 198 & 199? What the heck is going on? I'm getting in about 50g Protein and only about 50g of carbs. Calories are around 600 and I'm walking. I started purées/mushies Monday. Is this just my body at the dreaded three week weight loss period where it refuses to drop? I know I need to stay off the scale, but I also like to see what foods effect the scale too, ya know? Any feedback would be awesome!

Wow, good insight! Thank you!!! So good to know I'm not alone!

I've looked online, but tell us what the signs and symptoms are if you wouldn't mind? Do they all have to be present or are any of them definite signs to get your butt to the ER?

I was on blood thinners (heparin) for the three days I was in the hospital. I'm nervous I should have been on them longer? I wonder if I should start taking a baby aspirin daily for a while?

RIP lifesaveremt, prayers to all your loved ones. This has completely freaked me out as well. My brother had clots in his thighs & lungs almost exactly 1 month after his knee surgery & my mother has phlebitis. Scares the heebygeebies outta me. In wonder if I should just call my docs office in a few weeks and tell them to scan me, l. I'm so not passed doing that! Prayers to everyone!

Well let me forewarn you guys...I had surgery on the 7th. No bowel movements at all as of the 13th. Talked to the PA at my surgeons office and she told me, no you definitely are going to have to wake your bowels up. This is completely common after surgery. She told me to get some Milk of Magnesia (btw, hind site being what it is DO NOT get unflavored, it tastes like fish slime!) and to take one dose, wait a few hours, if nothing take a second. DO NOT DO THIS. Definitely don't take a full adult dose, I took half. Then I took one 6 hours later. It was an awesome feeling at the 6 1/2 hr mark, I'm not gonna lie. But after literally a 7 hr marathon back and forth to the bathroom with the runs, or should I just say the "waters", I have to warn you guys! Do the MOM, yes, just ONLY do it once and at a 1/2 dose! Good luck guys! LOL

Well, here's my story, so far! I was sleeved on 3/7/2013. I was in a good amount of pain but surgery went really well. I had a hard time breathing because of Gas from the surgery was so bad and stuck around my ribs. They gave me a binder and that worked wonders. On Friday I was doing pretty good, they started me on liquids and they were trouble at first because they kept hitting air pockets, but then I learned to sip even smaller and it all started to become a little easier. Everything was actually going really well! Saturday, started as the best day yet, and I showered and walked and dried my hair and things were looking really good and I was supposed to head home... Wellllll after that morning, things headed south. I started having the worst bouts of nausea & dry heaves. They tried finergan & Zofran and finally that seemed to help a little. Still feeling pretty awful. I couldn't sip or anything without trying to puke. I kept hoping this would pass soon, my stomach was now hurting really bad and I felt extreme weakness. I didn't expect this at all ???? Now Dr. was having me stay thru that night. Which was fine, I'd like to be home but not feeling like that. I also started running a low grade fever so they also gave me something for that through my IV. I woke up about 4:00 drenched in sweat. Fell back asleep. Just woke up, it's 4:30 here, and I'm feeling really good again. Trying not to think about what is going to happen if I sip something. That's when it all went downhill yesterday. I pray that I'm through the worst of it. I had thought Day 1 was the worst, kept hearing Day 3 would be. It was. It was awful. I feel like I'm hopefully on the downhill side of it all and it will just get better from here. Now it's 11:00 and I just got through sipping some broth. Tiny, tiny sips and its staying down!! Doc just called and said to watch me for another hour and if all stays well I can go home! I'm super excited and hope things keep looking up! Good luck to all my fellow & future sleevers! Prayers to all of you!!

Hi everyone! In exactly 1 week I'll be at the hospital on my way to a happier, healthier, thinner me! I'm so excited I can hardly stand it! My only concern is I started my liquid preop diet today and I'm nervous about it! I shouldn't be though, I have everything I need to rock it so prayers are the only other necessity right now! All are welcome and very much appreciated!!! Good luck everyone!!

That is so super crazy! My birthday is also March 6th, I will be 35 but I'm having surgery on March 7th! Now this is pretty cool!

Thank you, I keep thinking jealousy is possibly the thing here too, but why? She's done most of hers on her own. She's seen me struggle FOR 7 YEARS! What's there to be jealous of? Sheesh, I just don't get it!

That is amazing! Is t it so nice to have a spouse who's onboard! I was worried also about my hubby because he's pretty overprotective also. But he's the same way, he wants his happy, healthy wife back. He also told me he doesn't see that I'm that heavy, and it doesn't bother him but that he knows it bothers me 24/7 and sees my struggles and wants me to be happy again. Good for you, keep us updated!!

Hi y'all! I'm right outside of Houston in Deer Park. My surgery is March 7th, the day after my 35th birthday. I refuse to be 36 at this weight and with all the health issues I'm on the verge of getting now. I am having my surgery at Memorial Hermann Memorial City by Dr. Erik Wilson. He's awesome, definitely recommend using him if you're around this area. Good luck to everyone, nice to see all us Texans on here. Makes me feel like I have a ton of support right in my backyard!

Having mine at Memorial Hermann Memorial City as well! I'll be there on the 7th! You'll have to let me know how it goes! My Doctor is Dr. Erik Wilson, is he yours as well?

Deer Park, TX here, right outside of Houston. Dr. Erik Wilson is my surgeon. Being sleeved this Thursday, March 7th!!